Ulwalamano oluthandanayo aluhlali lubangele uvuyo, ngamanye amaxesha lubangela intlungu. Indlela yokusinda, ukuba umntu uyaphonsa-ngxaki enjalo, ngelishwa, amantombazana aqhelekanga. Kule meko, iingcebiso zeengcali ziyakunceda.
Iingcebiso zengqondo: indlela yokusinda kwimeko xa umntu ephosa?
- Ungazivali. Ukudibana nabahlobo, fumana umdlalo omnandi umdlalo, uzicwilise emsebenzini, uchithe ixesha elininzi kunye nosapho lwakho, thabatha ixesha olikhululile kunye nentlalo.
- Musa ukuzicoca. Ewe, awuphelelanga, kodwa abazange bakulahle. Kumntu, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuba yinkwenkwezi ekhokelayo, uya kulungiswa kwaye uyamxabisa, ulinde oku kwaye ukhumbule rhoqo ukuba kuya kuba njalo.
- Zama konke ukuthetha nomthandi wakho wangaphambili, ukufumanisa isizathu sokuba ukwahlukana kwenzeke. Mhlawumbi uya kukwazi ukuyibuyisela.
- Jonga ngeenxa zonke, xabisa abantu abakujikelezile. Mhlawumbi sele ulindele ulutsha olutsha olungazange uluqaphele ngaphambili, kwaye ngeli xesha liya kuba nolwenene nolonwabileyo. Mvumele nje ebomini bakho.
- Ekugqibeleni, zinyamekele. Unexesha elininzi lokukhulula, ngoko kuyafaneleka ukuba uchithe ekuphuculeni ukuzithemba. Hlaziya i-wardrobe, i-hairstyle, zizenzela tatto, ezide ziphupha, kodwa leyo inkwenkwe yakho ikuthintele.
Indlela yokusinda ukuhlukana, ukuba umntu okhohlisayo, usetyenzise kwaye uyeke?
Njengoko kunokuba kunzima kunene, kodwa imeko ingaba yinto engathandekiyo xa umfana engenayo nayiphi na imizwa xa ethanda ukuhamba naye kwaye wakhohlisa. Kwaye kwangexesha elifanayo ndandisebenzisa, umzekelo, wayehlala kwindawo yakho kwaye wakhupha imali kuwe. Kule meko, impendulo kumbuzo wendlela yokusinda ukuhlukana, xa umntu ephosa, kukho enye kuphela: libale. Kodwa yenza ingqalelo kwixesha elizayo ukuba ungathembeki kangako kwaye ungaphumi kwiimvakalelo zengqondo, ungazi malunga nomntu ubuncinane ubuncinci beenkcukacha.