Kwaye kwintsapho evuyayo neyimpumelelo, umcimbi onobuhlungu onjalo umfazi njengento yokungcatsha komyeni inokwenzeka. Olu xinzelelo luyinto yesibini kuphela ekulahlekelweni kwesihlobo esiseduze, kwaye loo ntokazi, emva kokufunda ezo ndaba, iwaxhomekeke ngokwenene. Funda indlela yokuphila emva kokungcatsha komyeni wakhe, unakho kule nqaku.
Ubomi emva kokungcatsha komyeni wakhe kunobunzima obuninzi. Iingcali zengqondo ziye zabala ukuba kukho izigaba ezine ezilandelelanayo zempendulo yamantombazana. Ngexesha, elowo lilodwa kwaye lixhomekeke kwimeko ethile.
Amanqanaba okusabela ekuvukeni
1. "Kwakungeke kwenzeke kum . " Kule nqanaba, umfazi uphika ukuba unokungcatshiswa kumntu othandekayo kwaye ufuna ngokungafunekiyo umlingane. Njengomthetho, ukuba ngaba kunjalo, ingxabano iphela. Kulo rhulumente, abasetyhini balungele ukukholelwa kuwo nawaphi na amabali kunye nokugxininisa ukuba bangaqapheli ubungqina bokungqubuzana.
2. "Unokwenza njani!" , Okanye ukudandatheka emva kokungcatsha komyeni wakhe. Isigaba sesibini, njengomthetho, senza ngokukhawuleza. Ibhinqa ilahlekelwa ngcamango yokugqibela kwaye iqalise ukubheka imeko ngokuqinisekileyo. Abaninzi bawela kumaqhinga baze banamathele kumcuphi, bengenakufuna "ukunikela" kumlingani wakhe. Nangona kunjalo, abanye ngokuchaseneyo bayalila baze bazikhiphe. Kule meko, amadoda ahlazile abafazi bawo, okanye ameme ngokuphendula.
3. "Masithethe" . Kule nqanaba, umfazi ucinga ngendlela yokwamkela indoda emva kokungcatsha, nokuba ingafanele kwenziwe nantoni na. Ukuphila, njengangaphambili, akusayi kuphinda isebenze kwakhona: apha, mhlawumbi uqale ukususela, okanye udibanise:
- amaxesha amaninzi abafazi bafaka i-ultimatum - okanye indoda ishiya, okanye iphosa inkosikazi. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu uyayiqonda le nto ngokuthi "sibonisa intsapho, senze into oyifunayo", kwaye baqhubeka bephila njengangaphambili, kuphela kude nabafazi babo;
- maxa wambi umlingane ofuna ukugcina umtshato uqalisa ngokuphindaphindiweyo umyeni wakhe, ngenxa yento ekugqibeleni uyayihlambalaza, eqonda ukuba uyahamba nayo yonke into, kodwa uhlala kwintsapho;
- abanye abafazi bakhulula omnye umntu - ugijima, uzama ukuhlala apho, kodwa kwiimeko ezingama-90% ubuyela kumkakhe emva kwesibini
iiveki okanye iinyanga; - abanye abafazi bavele bafaka ingongoma, bangela enye yeendlela ezimbini zokumelana nomthengisi-nokuba ngumzamo wokuwunqoba umfazi, abanye baya kuthatha isigqibo sokuba akukho uthando kumtshato kwaye unokuhamba ngokuphepha.
4. "Konke okufanayo . " Eli nqanaba, njengomthetho, ubonisa ukwamkelwa ngokupheleleyo kwintombi ngolu hlobo. Umfazi wam sele uxolelanise ukuba ubudlelwane buye bonakaliswa kwaye abuyi kubuyiselwa, kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuyibuyisela.
Abafazi abaninzi bacinga ngendlela yokuhlwaya indoda emva kokungcatsha. Nangona kunjalo, xa uzama ukuzama oku, ungazigxotha kakhulu kwisakhelo sale meko kunye nokudandatheka . Ngokuphambene noko, ngokukhawuleza uqaphela ukuba awukhathalele ukuba kwakunjani - ngokukhawuleza ubomi bakho buya kuphucula.