Isihloko sengxubusho yentsingiselo yezo ngcamango ezifana nothando kunye nomnqweno. Ngokudibanisa la mazwi, abantu bahlala bengene embudlelwaneni obufutshane, balahlekelwa ngokwabo kunye nabathandekayo babo, baze bavele baphambuka.
Mhlawumbi, ukutolika kwala magama kwisichazizwi se-Ozhegov kuya kusinceda sinike ithuba lokuqala lokuqonda indlela uthando oluhluke ngayo.
- uthando - olunamandla, olunqabileyo umzimba wonke onzulu, onothando olupheleleyo kunye nokungazingca;
- isifiso - isifiso esivuthayo, kwisininzi sefa layo lezesondo.
Isiseko sothando sisondelene phakathi kwabantu, ukuqonda kunye nokuhlonipha omnye nomnye amandla kunye nobuthathaka. Ukunyameka kukukhanga, umnqweno wokuba nefa. Ngokuqhelekileyo ezi ngqiqo zidibene. Ekubeni uthando lukhona njengalo, ngoko yibani nothando.
Ukwahlula njani uthando ukusuka kuthando?
Xa kukho uthando phakathi kwabantu ababini, zonke izenzo kunye nalo lonke igama livavanywa ngokumalunga nemvakalelo yomnye nomnye. Uthando lunikeza ithuba lolwalamano oluhlala. Ikuvumela ukuba uhambe nobunzima kunye namahlazo, thola ukuphazamiseka kunye nezisombululo eziya kukwanelisa zombini. Ukunyamekela akusiyo into engafanelekanga okanye ayibiyo. Napha, kwakhona, kukho intlonipho kwiminqweno yomlingane. Nangona kunjalo, isiseko sokubambisana sisabunqabileyo. Ubudlelwane obusekelwe kwintshiseko azinqabile kakhulu. Umnqweno wokunandipha ngakumbi kunokuba iqabane liphangale imifanekiso yonke.
Ukwahlukana phakathi kothando nothando lukhulu, kodwa akunakwanele ukuphikisana nale mivo emibini komnye nomnye. Ngothando, ukufutheka kubonakalisa njengomnqweno wokuba usondele ngakumbi kunye neqabane. Kwaye nangona uthando lulawula ukhathalela, ubudlelwane buya kuba namandla kwaye luzinze. Ngomdla wothando akukho ndawo. Iyakuthatyathwa ngokungabikho, ukungakhathaleli nokuzingca.
Mhlawumbi wonk 'ubani uyazi ukuvakalelwa kwintliziyo entliziyweni, isidingo esiphuthumayo sisondele komntu othile, ukuzimisela ukwenza konke ukufezekisa ukuhamba kwakhe. Kwaye emva kwexesha elide emva kokufezekisa injongo yalo, lihlala kuphela ukungaqondi kakuhle apho zonke iimvakalelo eziphakanyisiwe ziye zaphela. Lapho uthando lomthando kunye nentando yesithando lanyamalala. Kuhlala nje ukuqonda ukuba lo akusiyo umntu onokuthanda ukuchitha kuyo yonke imihla yakho. Yonke le yiphumo yento yokuba emphefumlweni wakho ukuqonda uthando nothando kudidekile.
Ulwahlulo oluphambili phakathi kwethando nothando:
- Ukhanuko luvela ngokukhawuleza - uthando kufuneka lufaneleke;
- Ikhanuko likhawuleza kwaye lidlulayo ngokukhawuleza - uthando aluphumeli naphi kwaye lushiya kuphela xa luqhutywa;
- Ikhanuko liyabhubhisa - uthando luyinyaniso, ludala kwaye ludale;
- Inzondo igxotha endleleni, ilahlekelwe yinyani-uthando luzisa ubomi.
Ukwahlukana phakathi kothando nothando lukhulu, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo kwinqanaba lokuqala lolwalamano le miva kunzima kakhulu ukwahlukana. Kodwa kubalulekile ukwenza njalo ngexesha. Emva koko, akusoloko umnqweno ufika kubantu abakhululekile abangenayo imbopheleleko. Ngenxa yokungaqondi kakuhle kwezi ngcamango ezibini, iintsapho ziyawa, i-psyche yabantwana kunye nabantu abadala bayabandezeleka, kwaye kunye nokwaphulwa komthetho kwenziwa, kuquka ukubulala.
Indlela yokuqonda uthando okanye ukunyamezela kukuphefumlele njani ukuvakalelwa komnye umntu? Hlaziya nje iimvakalelo zakho, uphonsa yonke into engabonakaliyo. Uthando luquka ubuncinane izinto ezintathu ezikhangayo: emzimbeni, kwingqondo nangomphefumlo wakho. Ngelo xesha, njengoko inzondelelo enkulu incike ekukhangekeni emzimbeni.
Ukuqhubeka ukusuka ngasentla, akunzima ukuphendula umbuzo, yintoni enamandla kunothando okanye ukuthanda. Impendulo yokunyaniseka ilula, ngokuqinisekileyo uthando. Ivavanywa lixesha kunye novavanyo. Nangona i-passion esekelwe kwisimo sengqondo sabathengi, iphela ngokukhawuleza, njengomzekelo, ukuziva ulambile.