Ngaphambili, kwakukholelwa ukuba i-destiny yentombazana-ukuma ngasemva, amehlo ahlaselekileyo, kwaye ulindelwe xa umfana uya kuwuqwalasela. Namhlanje, ukuthatha isondo kunye neentlobo ezithandwayo zokunyenga abantu, kukho imigaqo yokuthatha amantombazana. Kulungile okanye kulungile, kufike kuwe, siya kukuxelela indlela yokukhawuleza ukuba nomdla kumntu kunye nento oyenzayo naye emva koko.
Imigaqo yokupasa yamantombazana
Okokuqala kufuneka ufune ukuba yintoni "ipopu". Le ngcamango iquka ukukhohlisa ngokukhawuleza ngenjongo ecacileyo-inokuba yinto yokuzimela (ukuqonda oko kunokuthi "kususwe" nawuphi na umntu) okanye izicwangciso zebhedi ngokuhlwa. Ukuba ufuna ukunqoba umntu ixesha elide, menze umyeni wakho, ngoko awukho apha. Ngoko, imigaqo ephambili yokupakisha okanye ukukhohlisa ngokukhawuleza kulandelayo:
- Ukubonakala okukhangayo . Oku akubandakanyi nje imfashini, kodwa kukhangeleka nakwimpahla yamadoda. Ukongezelela, kufuneka ulungele kakuhle - iinwele, izipikili, ubuso kunye, nokuba kunjalo, umlinganiselo - awunayo imilinganiselo yeemodeli, kodwa malunga neendlela ezikholisayo emehlweni. Ibhinqa eliqwengqileyo elinenkqantosi elincinci lincinci alinakwenzeka ukuba linomdla kumntu.
- Kwiimfundo ezahlukeneyo, amantombazana afundiswa iindlela zokukhangela abantu, okunye okubizwa ngokuthi "ukubukeka okuntle". Ukuze ufezekise, kufuneka ubalaphule "ixhoba" ukusuka kude kwaye ubonise umdla wakho nge-glance. Ukuba le ndoda yabuyiselwa, ungathatha isinyathelo esilandelayo ukuze uqhelane.
- Umgaqo ophezulu wokupasa awuyi kuchitha ixesha kwi-intanethi. Ukuba umntu akayi kuzinikela ngokukhawuleza kwiingqungquthela zakho, shiya "uthintekayo" kulabo abaneengcamango ezinzulu kwaye bafuna ukuchitha ixesha ekunqobeni le nqaba.
- Emva kokuba uqhelanisekile, qalisa incoko. Izihloko ezinzulu zingcono ukuba zingaphakanyiswa, zama ukufumana isifundo sencoko, eya kuba mnandi kuye. Ngokukhawuleza oku kwenzekayo, makhethe intetho, kwaye faka izimvo zakho kuphela ngezikhathi ezithile.
- Kwintetho, ungakulibali ukudumisa umntu, wonke umntu ufuna ukuqatshelwa, kunye namadoda azinqwenelekayo akakwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwalo.
- Ukuba kunzima ukuba uqhelane, musa ukuvuselela ivili, sebenzisa indlela endala eqinisekisiweyo - cela uncedo.
Yitsho ukuba awukwazi ukujamelana nokumisa okuqinileyo kwibhotile yamanzi, cela ukuba ufumane into esuka kwithelethi ephezulu esitolo, ngokubanzi, unike umsebenzi olula oza kubonisa iimpawu zayo.
Ukukhethwa yindlela yokuzifumana ngokukhawuleza abangenayo iinjongo zexesha elide, ngoko sebenzisa iindlela apha ukukhangela ingqalelo ngokukhawuleza, kungekhona ukudala intlungu kunye nethemba. Ngokubanzi, ukuthabatha yindlela yokuthatha yonke into ngesandla, ube yinkokeli yobundlelwane, uzimisele ukuqala nini na ukugqiba nini. Kodwa ukuba unomdla kumlingane odlala umdlalo, zenzele isigqibo.