Indlela yokuxolisa kumfana?

Apho! Kwakhona into eyenziwe. Kwaye, eyona nto ibangelisayo, andizange ndifune into embi! Andizange ndikhubekise okanye ndimlimaze. Kwaye ngoku kufuneka uxolise.

Ukuze uthethe ngokuzithemba indlela yokuxolisa kumfana, kuyimfuneko nje ukugqiba ukuba yiyiphi into ekumele uyityhale ngayo. Ufuna ukuxolisa ntoni na? Iphulo lenu linzulu kangakanani?

Ngoko kulungile ukuba uxolise kumfana? Inyaniso yokuba ucele ukuxolelwa akusiyo injongo yethu yokugqibela. Sifuna ukuba asixolele!

Isixa sesono sakho kunye nendlela yokuxolisa kuxhomekeke kuyo. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuze uxolise kumfana, kwanele ukuhlekisana kwintlanganiso: "Ndiyaxolisa, ndiphosakele!". Okanye into efanayo ukuthetha kwifowuni. Kule meko, akuyi kuba kubi xa ubiza. Kodwa, kwenzeka, kunye nabammeli besilisa abathintekayo. Loo mntu akakwazi ukuthatha ityhubhu. Ungathini uxolo kumntu?

Mbhalele umyalezo wesicatshulwa. Ewe, iisms nje. Kodwa apha zibeka zonke izixhobo zakho zobutyebi kunye nokucinga. Ngokuqinisekileyo, unako kwaye ufumane kwi-intanethi inkondlo efanelekileyo okanye umfanekiso kwaye uyithumele kwi-addressee. Kodwa oku akunjalo. Kuphi isiqinisekiso sokuba yena, xa wayenetyala lokugqibela, akazange akhangele ingqalelo kwisayithi enye. Akuyi kubakho uxolo lokuqala. Kwaye sinomdla ngokucacileyo ukucela uxolo kumntu ngendlela yokuqala. Vula ingcamango kwaye uphonsa ifowuni okanye i-imeyile imilayezo. Ngeenkondlo okanye iprose, xelela indlela oziva ngayo kwaye uzisole ngokungaqondani okwenzekayo. Ungongeza apha izicatshulwa ezimbalwa zezinto owaziyo kuphela. Emva koko, umntu, ngokuqinisekileyo engamkhathaleli, kunye nentukuthelo akuyona nje isizathu sokuphelisa ulwalamano lwakho naye, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kukuxolela kwaye ngokukhawuleza uza kusebenza kuwe.

Indlela yokuxolisa kumntu ngenxa yokuthuka okukhulu?

Nangona kunjalo, kwenzeka ukuba ukuxolisa nje kuphela okwaneleyo. Yintoni enokuyenza xa ubangele umntakwabo eninzi intlungu? Njengokuba kunjalo kulo mzekelo, kuhle, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, kunjalo, ukuxolisa kumntu? Zama ukumenza oko akuxelele ixesha elide. Umzekelo, uye kumdlalo weqela lakhe elizithandayo, okanye ikhonkethi yeqela elithandayo. Kule meko, ngokwemvelo, awukwazi ukuphepha ukuchaza. Ngaphambi kokulungiselela ukuphuma kwintliziyo yakhe, lungiselela ukukholisa, kwaye, ngokubalulekayo, intetho enyanisekileyo malunga nokuba kutheni kufuneka wenze oku. Ungakwazi ukuyixubusha phambi kwesibuko. Ubuncinane ukwazi ukuba uluhlobo luni lobuso bakho obubambileyo xa usichaza enye okanye enye ibinzana. Libukeka likholisayo.

Enye indlela yokuxolisa kumfana kukumnika isidlo sothando. Mema ngosuku. Lungiselela izitya zakhe ezithandayo, ikhandlela ezikhanyayo, udale imvelaphi ngolunye uhlobo lwengoma yomculo, i-champagne epholile okanye iwayini. Ngaphandle, thina bafazi, sikholelwa ukuba uthando luyimfuneko kuphela kuthi. Abameli abaninzi banesondo esomeleleyo kuphela bazama ukubukeka banobuqhetseba (bacinga ukuba oku kubangela isibindi kubo), kodwa ngokwenene baya kuvuyela ukunikezelwa kokuhlwa, ngakumbi kwinkampani yentombazana yabo ethandekayo. Ewe, kwaye kwimeko enjalo, umntu uyakwazi, kwaye mhlawumbi uya kufuna iinkcazo. Kodwa umntu unokuthemba ukuba umoya onjalo awuyi kummisela ixesha elide ukucacisa ubuhlobo. Yaye ukuba kwenzeka ngokukhawuleza? Emva koko, ngokucacileyo, uye wamlimaza kakhulu, kwaye kuya kufuneka ukhuthazelele inkani. Kwakhona, zama ukumkholisa ngokuguquka kwakho.

Akukho myalelo wokucela uxolo ngokuchanekileyo kumfana. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ukuxolisa kwakunyanisekileyo kwaye kwavela entliziyweni. Kunzima ukumelana nezicelo zokuxolelwa. Kwaye kuphela kule ngxaki unokuthi ubalekele kwimpumelelo engu-100%.