Ngamaxesha onke amabhinqa kwakukho imithetho yokuziphatha namadoda. Ukuhlaziywa kwexesha namhlanje kuye kwazenza utshintsho, kwaye abafazi basuke benombono wabo wokusebenzisana nesini esahlukileyo, kodwa ezinye iinkalo zihlala zingatshintshi. Kwaye konke ngenxa yokuba abantu bethu abathandekayo abaguqukanga, basathanda ukuziva bebenesibindi abanqobileyo iintliziyo zeentombi kunye nabaphathi beli meko. Ewe, makhe sibanike leli thuba, asiyiqondi.
Indlela yokuziphatha kakuhle nomntu?
- Ukuxelela indlela yokuziphatha nomntu, unokwazi kuphela ukuba siyifunani le ndoda - iintsuku ezimbalwa ukukhupha ukudakumba, ukuxhamla okanye ukuxhamla ubudlelwane obude. Kwimeko yokuqala akukho imithetho ekhethekileyo, ukungakhathali nokukhulula, akukho buchule kunye namabali ngekati eligulayo. Iingxaki zemihla ngemihla yinto entsha yezozonwabisa. Kodwa imithetho eyahlukeneyo yokuziphatha kunye namadoda kufuneka ilandelwe ngabasetyhini abangafuni ukuphelisa incoko ngemihla emibini. Apha, imimangaliso yokuguquguquka kuya kufuneka iboniswe kwaye kuluqhetseba ukuvuselela umdla kumntu kwaye ungayesabisi ngokuzimela ngokweqile.
- Indlela yokuziphatha nomntu kwiintlanganiso zokuqala, ukuba ufanane naye? Qiniseka ukuphulaphula indoda yakho uze uzame ukuyiva. Ukuba nje uzenza ngathi uphulaphule, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uphoswa zonke iindlebe zakho ezihle, ke loo ndoda iya kuqonda ukuba ayinomdla, kwaye iya kukhohliswa iya kukhubeka.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo amantombazana azama ukubonisa zonke iimpawu zabo ezilungileyo kwiintlanganiso zokuqala, kwaye aze abonise impawu zabo zeengelosi, ezingenayo. Ngoko-ke, akukho-nkohliso iya kutyhilwa, kwaye umntu ohlala kuwe uya kudana. Ukubonakalisa kwakho konke kwiintlanganiso zokuqala akudingekanga esinye isizathu. Amadoda amaninzi abazingeli abangakhathali, abalandeli be-charades kunye ne-crossword puzzles. Ukuba, emva kweentlanganiso ezimbalwa, indoda iyaqonda ukuba akukho nto ikwazi ukuyixazulula nokuphumelela, ngoko umfazi uya kuyeka umdla.
- Khangela iimfuno ezifanayo, kufuneka kubekho amanqaku amanxibelelwano nalo mntu. Ibhedi, yeyona nto, ilungile, kodwa ayanele. Ngoko fundela ngokuzonwabisa kwakhe, mhlawumbi nawe uya kuthwala. Okanye uze nezozonwabisa ezithandekayo kubo bobabini.
- Kodwa ungazami ukuba nomntu wonke, umlandele, njengethunzi. Kwinqanaba lokuhlala (nangemva koko) umntu akanakukukhulula kuye, zama ukunyanzelisa iimeko zakhe kuye. Indoda ethandwayo inokwenza okuninzi ngenxa yowesifazane - ukulibala abahlobo kunye nezinto zokuzilibazisa, kodwa ingaba ufuna ukuba abe njalo. Emva kwakho konke, wathandana naye ngenxa yedwa, ngoko ungatshintshi.
- Musa ukwesaba ukuxabana nokuxabana - kuya kwenzeka. Ngaphezu koko, kukho ukungqubuzana okuncinci ukuze kuqinisekiswe ukuba ubudlelwane abuyinto engabonakaliyo. Funda ukwenza i-scandals inceda wena. Into ephambili akuyikuyidlula kwaye ibonise loo mntu ukuba yonke le ngxabano kukuba uyayidinga, uyamkhumbula, kwaye wayengekho. Indoda yakho iya kuziva ikhuselekile. Dlala kwi "hot-hot", mahluke, ngoko umntu akaze akhathele ukuxazulula umgqomo onomdla.
- Emva kokuwunqoba umntu, musa ukumisa kwiinto eziye zaphunyezwa, ungacingi ukuba ngoku unokuzincama. Gcina kuye ingqondo yothando, umfudumise umdla wakhe. Emva kwemfazwe, kufuneka uhlale uvuselela iimvakalelo ezintle, indoda kufuneka ibe nawe kakuhle, ngokukhawuleza.
- Qaphela ukuba ubangele umntu onyulileyo, ubencame nabanye abantu. Abameli abaninzi besini esahlukileyo babalingana nokuziphatha okufanayo. Ngoko sebenzisa le ndlela ukuvuselela inzondo, kuphela kwisithuba sokugqibela.