Ubudlelwane phakathi kwazo zonke ziphuhliswa ngokungafaniyo: umntu ngokukhawuleza uba ngumfazi, kwaye emva koko unina, kunye nomntu iminyaka emlinde umlingane wezenzo ezithatha isigqibo. Kwenzeka ukuba umphefumlo wesifazane uphambuka ngokungathandabuzeki malunga neemvakalelo zeqabane kwaye ngoko ufuna ukwazi indlela yokujonga ukuba umntu uyakuthanda.
Indlela yokujonga into umntu ayithandayo?
Enyanisweni, indoda ethandwayo kulula ukuyibona. Uhamba ngeephiko kwaye ujonge ukuhamba kunye nokhethiweyo wakhe iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku. Uyakhathalela abahlaziyileyo, ulungele ukuhamba nomyeni wakhe othandekayo ukuthenga kunye nokuxhasa zonke iimfuno zakhe. Musa ukungqubana kwaye ulungele ukubulala umntu ojongayo umfazi wakhe. Njengoko uyazi, amehlo - isibuko somphefumlo kunye nabo unokukwazi ukuba umntu uyakuthanda, kwaye njani, kuya kuqondwa, kusekelwe kule ilandelayo. Umbono onothando ufudumala, njengokungathi ubamba. Enyanisweni, ngexesha lobudlelwane obusondeleyo, utshintshile ukuthanda, kodwa ngezinye izihlandlo le nto iyafana, kwaye isibonakaliso sonyani sothando sibukeka bebukeka, xa indoda ibukela kancane kancane umfazi wayo, kuba abamele isigxina esinamandla sabantu bathanda amehlo abo.
Abo banomdla kwindlela enye yokufumanisa ukuba umntu uthandana kufuneka aqwalasele izenzo zakhe, kungekhona amagama. Umdlali omhle okanye umntu ofuna ukufumana into evela kumfazi uya kuhlala efumana amagama amahle, kodwa umntu oxabisa ubudlelwane uya kuzibonakalisa kwizenzo. Akayi kuba nje ngexesha lokuzonwabisa, kodwa nangona kukho inkathazo okanye usizi. Kwaye kuya kunceda nje kuphela iingcebiso, kodwa kunye nemali, ukudibanisa. Umlingani onothando wenza izicwangciso zobomi kunye nomfazi wakhe aze ambone njengomfazi wakhe, unina wabantwana kunye nenkosikazi yendlu. Enyanisweni, yonke into elula apha, kwaye ukungathandabuzeki kwiimvakalelo zakhe sele zibonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba indoda ayithathi mfazi kwaye ayiyithandi.