Uthando - uhlabelelwa yizibongo. Ingqondo yakho iye yazama iminyaka emininzi ngabafilosofi abaziintloko. Iingcali zengqondo zikulungele ukuvuselela ubunzulu be-subconscious kwaye zidibanisa ingqondo phantsi kwe-microscope, nje ukuba zivelise ubunjani bakho. Omnye ucinga ukuba uyisipho sasezulwini, umntu ubiza ngokuba nguwe, ukuba umntu unesifo, kodwa umntu ongenakho.
Kodwa masishiye iindidi zefilosofi ngoku, masibuyele kwihlabathi elinesono, kwaye sizame ukuqonda ukuba yintoni - uthando, kwaye lubonakalisa njani.
Indlela yokuyiqonda - uyayithanda, okanye nje umkhwa?
Ngokuqhelekileyo unokuva ukuba emva kwexesha, naluphi na, nobudlelwane obunomdla obuthile bulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi wabo, baze bathande ngokunyanisekileyo, bashiye emva kokuhle, bathande, bahloniphe, kwaye kuwona mkhwa wokuba kunye. Ingqolowa enengqiqo kule nkcazo, ewe, kunjalo, mhlawumbi, yinto ekhethekileyo. Ewe, emva kweminyaka emininzi esichithwa kunye nzima kunzima ukulindela kubudlelwane besinye isithwathwa sothando njengoko kwinyanga yokuqala yokuziwayo. Umntu usetyenziselwa yonke into, kokubili kokuhle nokubi, kwaye ulahlekelwa yinto enobungqina bemivo, eyayijikeleza intloko ekuqaleni kwendibano (ngendlela, ukuba sithetha nge-biochemistry yomzimba womntu, kukho umlutha we-oxytocin, into eyenza uthando, kwaye uxanduva entle). Kodwa iminyaka ayisoloko isonakalisa uthando. Ngokuqhelekileyo bayayiguqula ibe ngenye impawu: kwaye ngenxa yothando olunothando olunzulu, nangona kungenangqabileyo, kodwa ekwazi ukufudumala ubomi bethu ngokufudumala iminyaka emininzi, ikhula.
Loo mva kunzima ukudibanisa nomkhwa, kodwa umxholo wemicimbi yansuku zonke okanye ukudandatheka okude kunokuphakamisa ukungathandabuzeki ngokuqinisekileyo. Ukuze uqonde ukuba luthando, cinga nje ukuba uya kuziva njani ukuba uye wavuka waza wafumanisa ukuba lowo ohamba nawe ebomini wanyamalala ngonaphakade. Ukuba impendulo - kakuhle, bulela uThixo, kubonakala ngathi uzalwa ngokutsha, mhlawumbi udibaniswe nento engenanto yokwenza ngothando. Nangona kunjalo, kungcono ukuba ungadonsa ukushisa, kodwa ukutyelela isifo sengqondo seentsapho-mhlawumbi kungekho yonke into elahlekileyo.
Uyakuqonda njani ukuba lo luthando lokwenene?
Ngaphezulu kwakukho umbuzo othi "amava" athile, kodwa umbuzo wohlobo lweemvakalelo eziye zavutha, ngamanye amaxesha zivakatye abo abo ubudlelwane babo baqala nje nje. Kule meko, oku kungumnxeba oyingozi - ekubeni loo mabango angabikho ngokukhawuleza kubudlelwane phakathi kwangoko. Ixesha nje lothando lothando alushiyi ixesha lokuzimela. Nangona, kunokwenzeka kwaye ukhetho olunjalo, xa uqaphela ngakumbi umntu, xa uqala ukumthanda. Ngenye indlela, kulungele ukulinda uphuhliso olongezelelweyo lweziganeko, kwaye ukuba ukungathandabuzeki kuya kwandisa kuphela, mhlawumbi, akuyena umntu ofunekayo.