Uyazi njani ukuba uthanda umntu okanye indoda? Lo mbuzo uvame ukuvela kwisiqingatha esihle sabantu, kwaye akukho nto ingaqhelekanga okanye ehlekisayo kuyo. Emva kwakho konke, kubaluleke kangakanani ukuqonda ukuba umntu uyakuthanda, ukuba ufumene ukuba indoda okanye inkwenkwe inyanisekileyo, kungekhona nje ukuyisebenzisa. Nendlela yokwenza ngayo, indlela yokuqonda ukuba umntu uyakuthanda, ukuba akayi kuthetha ngaye ngokwakhe? Ukuxhatshazwa ngumthandana wakho ngemibuzo enjengokuthi "Ndixelele, uyandithanda?" Okanye ulungiselele ukuba ahlole? Enyanisweni, akukho nto iyadingeka, umntu makabhekise ekuziphatheni, kungekhona amagama, abaninzi banokuthetha ngokuhle, okungekho nto malunga nezenzo zabo.
Ungayiqonda njani ukuba umntu uyakuthanda?
Iimpawu eziza kuxela ukuba umntu uyakuthanda okanye akunjalo, ubuninzi, apha ezinye zazo:
- Indoda enothando ayiyi kugxekisa ukubonakala kwintanda yakhe, imemezele ngokukhawuleza ukuba umhlobo wakhe "uya kuba ngcono."
- Ukuba umntu uyakuthanda, ngoko uya kuthatha icala lakho kwimpikiswano, nokuba uyiphutha. Yaye uya kwenza konke okusemandleni akhe ukuba angakucaphukisi.
- Awuyi kuvala kuye izizathu ezinjengokuthi "andinayo imali, ngoko andiyi kukuhalalisela ngosuku lwakho lokuzalwa." Nangona ephosakeleyo kakhulu kwimali, uya kufumana indlela yokukholisa intanda yakhe.
- Umntu onothando uyayikhetha: umkhankaso kunye nawe kwiifilimu zefilimu onayo yonke indlebe kuye okanye ukhangele umdlalo webhola kunye nabahlobo bakho? Kunene, uya kukuthabatha kwi-cinema, kungakhathaliseki ukuba unomdla kangakanani emehlweni ka Edward Cullen kwisikrini.
- Ngaba wawunqabile ebusika kunye neiglavu ezincinci? Ubeka izibambo zakho ephaketheni lakhe kwaye ubeka iiglavu zakhe kwaye wenza konke ukwenza ukuba wakho othandekayo afudumele.
- Ngaba ugule okanye ufunekile? I-Darling iya kubakho, iya kukhangela, iya kuzama ukukrakra ebusweni bayo. Ingaba unengxaki? Akayi kuthi: "Uyazi, ndinomsebenzi omningi, ndiza kuthetha kamva," kodwa ndiya kuphulaphula kwaye ndizama ukukunceda.
- Akakhathalele ukuba yeyiphi imoto oyithengayo kwimarike yembatho okanye kwivenkile yokutshiza. Unjalo kakhulu-kakhulu kuye. Kodwa ukuba intanda inqwenela ukuzithenga uhlobo oluthile lwegama lomthi-mveliso, uya kufumana indlela yokuba abe nethuba elinjalo.
- Indoda enothando inokulinda ulwalamano olusondeleyo ixesha elide, kwaye emva kokufikelela kumzimba, akayi kupholisa emva kobusuku obuthile basebenzisa ndawonye. Ewe, kwaye ngelixa uthanda, kwindawo yokuqala kuyo uya kukuvuyela.
- Akayi kuvumela ukuba aphele ngaphandle kwenkcazo, kuba akanakukuvumela ukuba uzixhalabele.
- Umbono wakho ubalulekile kuye, akayi kuthi "awuyiqondi into, sele ndigqibelele yonke into."
- Indoda enothando iya kuzama ukwenza intanda yakhe ibe mnandi kangako. Kuye akukho nto ihlazo ekuncedeni isidlo sakusihlwa ukuba ukhathele emsebenzini.
- Ngomfazi othandekayo, akuyihlazo ukuzisa abahlobo, izalamane kunye noogxa nabo, ukuya kwezinye iimeko. Kodwa ungalindeli ukubonakaliswa kweemvakalelo zomntu, umntu onothando akayi kucinga ngale ndlela ye-narcissism, yonke inceba yakhe nothando uya kusindisa ixesha elichithwa lodwa nawe.
- Indoda enothando iya kuzama ukuphepha ingxabano ngeendlela zonke, uya kuvuma nawe kuyo yonke into, kuba akuyikrele ukubiza wena intloko yentsapho. Uluphi umehluko, into ephambili kukuba, ubuncwane bakhe, basondele.
- Ngaba uvumelekile ngomhla, kwaye ulinde ikhefu lakhe eliphukileyo? Ukuba kukho akukho sizathu esinzulu sokuziphatha okunjalo ukuthetha ngokungahloneli kunye nomnqweno samoutverditsja kwiindleko zendoda enothando ukuba ayiyi kuvuma. Kunoko, kuza kuza iyure ngaphambili kwaye umele phantsi kwewindow yakho, elinde ukuba utshintshe ixesha lesihlanu kumqolo.
- Ukuba umntu uthanda umfazi, uya kufuna abantwana kuye. Kwaye ukuba intanda inabantwana ukusuka emtshatweni wokuqala, uya kuthanda nabo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuba umntu uyakuthanda, awukwazi ukunceda kodwa uzive, kubonakala ngendlela akhangele ngayo, indlela athetha ngayo. Nika ingqalelo ezintweni ezincinci, unokuzenza ngathi uthandane, kodwa abanothando abanakusebenza.