Njengoko kuhlabelelwa kwingoma edumileyo, ngamantombazana a-10 ngokwemanani, kukho abantwana aba-9 kuphela. Kwaye nangona kungenakwenzeka ukuba nabani na onokuzama ukunika iinkcukacha ezichanileyo, inyaniso ihleli ukuba kukho abangabesifazane abangabhinqa kwihlabathi kunamadoda. Kukho izizathu ezininzi zezi zinto: le yimfazwe, apho ininzi inani labakhuseli bethu bafa, kunye neyona ndlela ekhoyo ngokuthandana ngesondo ngokwabelana ngesondo, kodwa eyona nto ixhaphakileyo kuzo zonke iinkcazo zobungqingili besifazane ziphakathi kwethu. Yingakho kumbuzo wendlela yokutsala indoda ofuna ukuyijika kwizengqondo.
Uyakwenza njani ukutsala uthando lomntu?
Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukhangele emacaleni ekukhangela isiqingatha sesibini esinqwenelayo, zama ukujonga kwisibuko. Ubona bani na? Hayi ukuba kukho ikhombise i-diva ethembekileyo nehle. Emva koko iingxaki ebomini bakhe bomi azifanelekanga. Kodwa inyaniso yobomi kukuba ininzi iya kubona khona ummeli wesiganeko esicatshangayo esicatshulwa ubomi kunye nesizungu, enoba mhlawumbi unamaphilisi angaphezulu, okanye umntu onokungafani, kodwa amabele akhe amancinci kwaye iinwele zakhe ziyahlukana. Hayi, unokuyalela njani umntu ukuba angene endlwini ukuba umsikazi unzima kakhulu? Yingakho kufuneka uqale ngobomi bakho bomntu. Isimbolo seengubo, iimbono zakho ebomini kunye nawe-ezi zizathu eziphambili zokukhusela ukuba ungenwabile.
Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokutsala indoda. Kwaye ngaphambi kokuhamba ukukhangela impendulo indlela yokudweba umntu ebomini bakho, zama ukuziqonda:
- Qala uthanda. Umthetho wendalo iphela yenzelwe ngendlela enokuthi uthando lwakho luvelisa uthando kwabanye abantu. Yenza imithi ekuseni, yidla kuphela ukutya okunempilo. Funda ukuthanda umzimba wakho. Ukuqinisa umphefumlo ngokufunda iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zoncwadi. Kuye kwangoku kukho ubungqina bokuthi amadoda, nangona aphethwe ngokukrakra kwindoda yabasetyhini, baninzi njengabantu abahlakaniphile nabasemagunyeni.
- Misela indlela olungele ngayo ubudlelwane. Kwenzeka ukuba kukho iinqununu zeentlanganiso zangaphambili ezingaphumelelanga kwingqondo. Zilahle, zigqibelele ukuba uqala ukuhlala ukusuka ekuqaleni. Akukho mzekelo unokuthelekisa amadoda angaphambili kunye nalawo abuye abuyele ebomini bakho kwaye uwaxhomeke kumalebula endala. Umntu ngamnye uhlukile kwindlela yakhe.
- Musa ukulinda isikhulu kwihashe elimhlophe. Azikho. Ukuba umfanekiso womntu ofanelekileyo ugxininiswe engqondweni yakho, khawuleza ususe xa ungafuni ukuhlala wedwa ngonaphakade. Wonke umntu uneempazamo, kwaye umntu ohambelana ngokupheleleyo neemfuno zakho awunakuze udibane nazo.
- Khumbula ukuba ezinye iingcamango nomnqweno wokufumana umlingane womntu akwanele. Kufuneka wenze. Akayi kuza kukutyelela. Fumana umntu ngokwakho ngumsebenzi wakho. Unokukuqonda ngokuhamba evulekile, ukuphumla kunye nabahlobo kwiindawo ezixubileyo, kwiikonsathi, njl. Ukukhokela ubomi obusebenzayo, kunye nexesha eliza kufikelela kuwe kunye neqabane lakho.
Iimfihlelo zobumnandi besithandwa
Inendima ebalulekileyo kumbuzo wendlela yokukhangela umntu ebomini bakhe idlalwe yimithetho jikelele yesayensi yezesondo ezinamandla. Ukwazi ukuthanda kwabo kunye neempawu ezibonakalayo zokujonga, uza kufumana amathuba amaninzi ukutsala ingqalelo. Ngoko, siphendula impendulo ebalulekileyo kubomi besifazane: yiyiphi impahla eheha abantu, yintoni emele ifumaneke, i-perfume, indlela yokucinga kunye nezinye iinkcukacha ezibalulekileyo? Siza kuhlalutya into nganye ngento.
- Kubonakala. Amadoda athande abancinci abakhethiweyo kunye nabasetyhini. Kule meko, i-nicer neckline, ingcono. Olu hlobo luhlobo lwabo.
- Ukwazi ukuthetha. Ibhinqa elingakwazi ukuxhasa nayiphi na ingxoxo yindalo yokwenene yesini esomeleleyo. Kwaye ukuziqhayisa abantu ababaziyo akuyihlazo, kwaye ukuzithemba kwabasilisa kuyanda.
- Amabele. Vumela loo madoda athi ubukhulu abubalulekanga. Iphupha lazo naziphi na zazo ubukhulu besithathu. Kwaye mhlawumbi ngaphezulu.
- Ukutya okulungileyo. Kuzwakala kungamangalisa, kodwa, nangona kunjalo, abantu bafana nokubukela indlela isiqingatha sabo sithatha ukutya ngayo. Into ephambili akuyikuyidlulisela ngokufanelekileyo kumntu omhle.
- Isitayela. Izambatho ezikhangela amadoda zingahluka. Ubundlobongela, ubuntombi, ukugxininiswa kwesibalo, izithende eziphezulu kunye neengubo zangaphantsi ezintle ziyisiseko esifanele sithotyelwe ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kwakhona into ebalulekileyo ukucoceka nokucoceka. Owesifazane olungele kakuhle, kwisambatho esifihla iziphoso zalo mfanekiso kwaye egxininisa ubuchule kunye nesitayela esikhulileyo akayi kubonwa ngongqingili wesondo. Futhi ungayikhohlwa ngemibala ethatha amadoda.
- Ngoko, yimuphi umbala okhangeleka kakhulu kumadoda ethu? Izazinzulu zakwazi ukufumanisa ukuba iingubo ezigqwesileyo ezikhangayo zibukeka zibomvu. Lo mbala unqweneleka kwaye uyabonakala. Amadoda angacingi ngokuqala ukucinga ngokusondelana nomfazi ogqoke obomvu. Abaphandi bakholelwa ukuba oku ngenxa yokuziphendukela kwemvelo-kwindalo kunye nehlabathi lezilwanyana kule mthunzi ubonisa ukuba kungenzeka ukudibanisa. Ukuba ufuna ukugxininisa ukuthembeka kwakho nokuvuleka, gxiba into emhlophe. Musa ukuya kumhla
i-gray shades, i-brown and beige shades, iyabuyisa umoya wezobubele. Kwakhona, kufuneka ukhumbule imfihlelo encinci-into efanelekileyo kakhulu ukuba ingqalelo yindoda yengubo eyodwa. Ukongeza, iyakwazi ukugxininisa ngokucacileyo umzobo wakho.
Vumelana ukuba akukho mvelaphi kule mabhunga. Uhlobo luye lwavuza abafazi ngobuhle nobabalo, kwaye kuyisono sokungawasebenzisi kakuhle. Zithande kwaye uzibonise kwihlabathi lonke uzuko lwayo. Umntu wakho uya kukubona kwaye akaze ashiye ubomi bakho kwakhona. Khumbula-intokazi, le nto ivakalisa ngokuziqhenya!