Ngoku lixesha apho abantu bacinga ukuba inkululeko ixabiso, kwaye uthando alukho. Ngenxa yoko, abantu abaninzi bahlala emtshatweni womtshato, njengoko kuqhelekileyo ukubiza ngokubambisana ngokufanelekileyo. Kubonakala sengathi bebonke, kodwa kubonakala, kwaye wonke umntu ukhululekile. Ukukhathala - ukuphuka, ungayi kwi-ofisi ye-registry, wenze umtshato. Njengokuba, ekuphumeni kunye nomntu othandekayo, into eyona nto ilukhuni kukuba uye kwiofisi yokubhalisa isatifiketi somtshato.
Ngokuqhelekileyo ibhinqa lingena emtshatweni womtshato, ngenxa yokuba ifuna, kodwa ayiyazi indlela yokutshata ngokwenene (ngokwemvo, ngokusemthethweni, ngomtshato kunye nokubhalisa). Ulindele ukuba umntu oye waqhelana naye uya kufuna ukwenza ulwalamano olusemthethweni. Yaye inethemba lakhe liqinisekiswa kukuba amanye amaxesha amadoda athile enza oko. Kodwa kwenzeka okungafanekiyo, kuba umbono womtshato osemthethweni awuthandeki kubo bonke abantu.
Okanye, mhlawumbi, kuya kuchaneka ukutsho ukuba ininzi inqwenela enye, kodwa kungcono kungekhona nanje, kodwa kwenye indawo nangemva koko. Kutheni ufanele uchithe ubutsha bakho, le minyaka yegolide, emtshatweni ocebileyo: imbiza, i-diapers, ukuxabana nomfazi wakho, ukunyelisa umntwana, ukungabi namali kwaye ushiye uninazala? Xa kunomdla kakhulu "ukuhlala nje": awunabantwana, akukho iingxaki. Ibhinqa oyithandayo - nanguye, kuseminwe yakho, ulungile kwaye uncedo (usenethemba lokuba isitampu kwipasipoti yakhe kwaye ufuna ukubonisa ukuba yiloo nto ayifunayo), akukho mfuneko yabantwana, umkhwekazi, nangaphezulu. Ngamanye amaxesha indoda iyavumelana nabantwana ukuba ukuhlalisana nabo kuphumelele: nje ukugcina izibalo ze-quo. Yonke into yokuba amadoda amaninzi, angena emzimbeni othiwa ngumtshato womntu, akafuni ukutshata. Kwaye kutheni? Banebhodi epheleleyo (okanye ephantsi kakhulu), equka iinkonzo zesini.
Kutheni umntu engathandi ukutshata nomfazi?
Kodwa kutheni amantombazana avuma oku? Ngaba ngokwenene ndifuna ukubonakala kuwo wonke umntu kwaye mna ngokwamanamhlanje kunye nabazimeleyo? Kungcono ukuba ucinge ukuba umfana, ekungeneni kokuhlala iminyaka engama-25, uya kugqiba ngokugqibeleleyo iminyaka yakhe kwishumi, abe ngumqeqeshi ofanelekileyo kunye nomntu ozimeleyo, uya kufuna ukutshintsha ubomi bakhe, ukukhupha i-slippers endala, kunye ne-former podnadoevshuyukazikazi. Kwaye nangu yena, omncinane, omhle, onelisekile, kunye nemoto ethengekileyo yokugcina imali, ngokubonga imali yokuhlalisana, uya kukhangela i-princess, kunye nomntu owayengumfazi womntu "wangomnye" uhlala nje - ebetha iingqungquthela zakhe, ekhala emlonyeni aze abuze: kutheni le ndoda ayifuni nditshata naye, isancinza esinjalo?
Ngoko ke, akafuni ukuba ngumlingani wesifazana. Kwaye ngo-35 akuyona into yokuqala yokutsha, uya kuyifumanisa, kwaye uyathanda ... Hayi, kakuhle, uthando luye lwadlula ...
Okokuthi, ukuthetha nje, umntu ohlala naye akafuni ukutshata, ngokuba sele esenayo yonke into ngoku intombazana inokumnika yona kuphela emva komtshato, kunye nokunye okunye: ilungelo lokuvuka kwaye ushiye xa ephoxeka okanye ephendule into engcono.
Yintoni enokuyenza xa umntu engafuni ukutshata, kodwa unyanzela "umtshato womtshato"? Kungaba ngcono ukucebisa ngokukhawuleza ukuba uphendule umlomo wakho kwaye wenze isigqibo sokuba ufuna ntoni: umtshato okanye "inkululeko." Kwimeko yokuqala - kukho umtshato oseburhulumenteni, ukhusela amalungelo kwanoma yimuphi umntu, kubandakanywa nabantwana abanako, kwaye, ngoko kunjalo, intombazana iyavuma ukuqwalasela isiphakamiso. Okwesibini - sele sele ekhululekile. Kutheni u guqula nantoni na?
Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba umntu engathandi ukutshata nomfazi, kodwa into ephambili, mhlawumbi, kukuba akafuni ukutshintsha nantoni na.