Ukususela kumaxesha amandulo, imfundo yamantombazana kunye namakhwenkwe iye yahluke kakhulu: yintoni eyavunyelwa kubafana, kwintombazana-oku kwakukubonakaliswa okungavumelekanga kwimiba embi nangona kunjalo. Oku kubangelwa ukuba okokuqala engqondweni zethu zibeka ukungafani komzimba kunye nokungafani kwehlabathi.
Kuza kube yimhla, inkqubo yezemfundo jikelele yale mihla sele isuswe ebuntwaneni ukuqonda ukuba kukho ubufazi kunye nobuntwini kwaye oku kwahluke.
Kungekudala, abanye abafazi bayeka ukunikela ingqwalasela kubuntombi babo. Izizathu zezi zinto zingaba njengezithuba kwiimfundo zomntu xa wayeseyintombazana okanye iminyaka yesikolo echaphazela ukubunjwa kweengcamango ezifanelekileyo malunga nokuba namandla omfazi.
Okokuqala, ubufazi bubangela ukuba iintliziyo zabantu zibethe ngokukhawuleza. Yaye imfihlelo ayikho ubuhle bezangaphandle, ubude, budibanisa ilanga, iinwele okanye ubuso obuhle kakuhle, kodwa kunye nobuhle obungaphakathi, imilinganiselo.
Ihlabathi elingaphakathi lobufazi
Ubuntwini phakathi kwamehlo ebantu kunempawu zobuntu. Ukuqonda, ukuthobeka, ukuthozama kunye nokuhleka kwezinto-ezi ziimpawu ezibonakalayo, njengombono wabantu. Kuya kuhlala ikhuthaze indoda ethandekayo enokukwazi ukuvuya imihla ngemihla.
Ukudlala kuyinto ebalulekileyo yomlingisi ochaza umxholo wobuntombi. Ukudlala kubangela ukuba ibhinqa ibe yinqweneleka kwaye ikhangeleke. Akuyi kuba yinto engabonakaliyo ukubonisa lo mlingiso ngengqondo kwaye kaninzi ngangokunokwenzeka.
Ukuphuhliswa kunye nokudalulwa kobuntombi kusekwa ngobudlelwane bomfazi, kokubili kuye nakwihlabathi elikujikelezile. Ubuntwini ngamehlo abantu kuthetha ukuba ibhinqa akufanele lithande kuphela, kodwa kunye nabantu abakujikelezile. Imvakalelo kunye nemfihlelo yenza intombi ibe yinkosikazi yangempela emehlweni abantu.
Akungabazeki ukuba kukho imilinganiselo emininzi, ekusukeni kwimbono yabantu, ichaza umxholo wobuntombi. KUNYE, eqinisweni, kuyo yonke indoda ebalulekileyo yintlonelo yowesifazane. Yonke ilungu lezesondo eziqinileyo lixabisa ubuchule bowesifazane ukuqonda indoda kwaye uyayixabisa izenzo zakhe.
Amadoda malunga nobufazi - ubuhle obungaphandle
Inxalenye ebalulekileyo yobonakaliso lokwenene lobuntombi buhle. Wonke amabhinqa kufuneka ahlambuluke kwaye ahle. Ngokomzekelo, amadoda afana nawo xa iinwele ezinde ziwela kumahlombe abancinci abancinci. Ukongezelela, bayakuthanda ukubukela xa abafazi badibanisa iinwele zabo, bechukumisa. Uninzi lwabo bonke bathanda ukukhanya kwendalo kunye nombala weenwele.
Kwakhona kugxininisa ububhinqa kunye nokuqhumisa okumnandi kweqhumiso, okuyingxenye inendima yekhadi leshishini ngalinye labesifazane. Musa ukulibala malunga nokunyanzelisa kokuhamba, indlela yokuthetha. Ubumnene belizwi kunye nobubele bentshukumo-yiloo nto iya kuhlala iyinye yezinto zobunqamle emehlweni abantu.
Khumbula ubuchule obuvela entliziyweni, ngokuhle, ngaphandle kokubonakaliswa kancinci kwintlanzi, ukuhleka. Vumela ukuhleka kwakho kufane ne-rivulet.
Funda ukubaleka kwaye ukhanyise.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ubufazi phakathi kwamehlo abantu kunokuba kuchazwe ngokucacileyo. Kodwa ngamnye umfazi unokuba yinto enhle kumntu othandekayo, nangona kungabikho kwezi zinto zilapha ngasentla kumpawu zakhe. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka uguqule isimo sakho sengqondo, uhlale ukhumbuza ukuba ngumfazi onokubonisa ubungozi kumntu wesifazane. Ngaloo ndlela, ukunikezela ukuba uzive kumntu wakhe ukuba nguye kuphela umkhuseli wakhe kunye nesimo sakhe sengqondo kuye, kuxhomekeke ekubeni uya kuziva unomfazi ovuyayo okanye engekho.