Ukuqhelaniswa ngesondo lomntu kuyinkxalabo ebuhlungu, kwaye abaninzi abanakho ukukwazi ukuthetha ngokucacileyo ngale sihloko. Abantu abathandwayo kumalungu obulili bahlale bekhona, kodwa kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, baqhubeka bethetha ngokuvulekileyo ngokukhetha kwabo.
Isifundo soBomi - kuthetha ukuthini?
Kukho abantu abathandwayo ngokwesini kubameli bezo zesini ezahlukeneyo, kwaye kwimeko enjalo ukuqhelekileyo ukuthetha ngokuqhelana kwabo ngokwesini. "Bi" iguqulelwe ngokuthi "ezimbini", oko kukuthi, umntu uyava novelwano kubo bobabini ngesini. Olu qheliso lubizwa ngokuba luhlobo oluthile lokungqinelani phakathi kobulili ngokwesini kunye nokuziphatha ngokwesini. Ingcamango yokuba "ukuziphatha ngokwesini" yaqala ukusetyenziswa ngexesha lokutshintsha ukusuka kwi-19 ukuya kwekhulu lama-20. Iingcali zengqondo zithi ukuqhelaniswa kwimiba yezinto eziqhelekileyo, oku kuninzi kwindlela yokuziphatha ngokwesondo, evela kubomi obusondelene nabo.
Ngoobani abafazi?
Abantu abanobuqabane bobulili, bahlala ubomi obuqhelekileyo kunye nokuzibona ngaphandle, kunzima ukuba bazichazele ngokwabo. Kukho iintlobo ezahlukahlukeneyo malunga nabo, umzekelo, kukho uluvo lokuba i-bi bayibeka iimacici kwiindlebe ezisekunene, kodwa le yintsomi nje. Ukuqonda ukuba yintoni intsingiselo yezinto, izazinzulu ziye zaqhuba uphando iminyaka emininzi. Kwakunqunywe ukuba ubuhlobo bobulili abukwazi ukuchongwa ukuba umntu uyangena kuphela kwiimbonakalo zaso.
Inani elikhulu leengqondo zeengqondo kunye neengqondo zengqondo ziqinisekisa ukuba ukuthambekela okunjalo ekuqhelaneni nokuqhelaniswa kuhambelana nokuxhwaleka kwengqondo. Le mpe mbelelo ibangela ukuba umntu akwazi nje ukuba angakha njani ubudlelwane obugcwele kunye nabameli bobulili obuhlukile. Ukongezelela, abantu abanjalo bahlala befuna ngokwabo, bengayazi indawo yabo yangempela.
Ubuqabane obunqenqileyo - Freud
USigmund Freud ungumbhali weengqondo ogunyazisiweyo oye wafunda iindidi ezahlukeneyo. Kwilityala loluntu, wanikeza umsebenzi, obizwa ngokuba "Imimiselo emithathu kwiingcamango zesondo." Kuye, wahlaziya ingcamango "yobungqingili." Ukuqonda ukuba ngubani onjalo, wasebenzisa ulwazi olufunyenweyo xa efunda imbungu yomntu. Ngethuba lokuphuhliswa kwebungu lidlula isigaba se-hermaphroditism, oko kukuthi, sinokuthambekela kwimizimba yesini yomfazi nesilisa.
UFrud wachaza ukuba kukho ubuhlobo obunobuntu, kwaye umntu ngokwakhe ekugqibeleni ukhetha apho ahamba khona. Ukuphuhlisa, umntwana uyaziqhelanisa nemigangatho yokuziphatha kunye neminqweno enesondo sayo yesini. Ngokuqhelekileyo kukho iimeko xa le miqathango ingagxininiswa ngokupheleleyo, nto leyo ebangela ukuba amantombazana abe nomntu oqinileyo kunye noxhasayo, kwaye abafana baphume ngendlela efihlakeleyo. Iimpawu ezinjalo zizibonakaliso zobungqingili kwengqondo.
Iimpawu zoBusxuality
Ukuba umntu ungathandabuzeki ngokuqhelaniswa kwakhe, ngoko into yokuqala ayifanele ukuyenza ukuziphendulela ngokucacileyo ngombuzo wokuba kukho ukukhwabanisa ngokwesini kubantu besini ngesimo esifanayo kunye nabameli bezesini ezahlukeneyo. Ngokwahlukileyo kuyimfuneko ukuthetha ngolu hlobo njengobunxungubo obunqamlekileyo, lo mntu xa enomnqweno wokwakha ubudlelwane namalungu obulili bakhe, kodwa ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi, umzekelo, ukuziphatha nokuziphatha kwengqondo, ukubonakalisa, akakwazi ukuvula.
Kukho iimvavanyo eziliqela ezikunceda ukuqonda ukuba ngubani na. Benza ukuba kube lula ukujonga imodeli yokuziphatha, ukuhlalutya indlela yokuziphatha ngokwesini, iminqweno kunye nezinto ezikhethiweyo, okunika ithuba lokuphawula zonke "kunye". Kwiimvavanyo, ucelwa ukuba uphendule imibuzo embalwa, umzekelo, "Ngaba kukho imvakalelo enomdla kumhlobo / umhlobo?", "Ngaba ukuthanda ukulinganisa kubangelwa ubulili bakho?", "Ngaba ufuna ukulala ngesondo?" Njalo njalo.
Iimpawu zoBunxuality Male
Inzululwazi ezininzi ezinomdla kule ntsimi zafika kwisigqibo sokuba akukho buhlobo bendoda. Kukholelwa ukuba amalungu enesini esomeleleyo inokuba yindoda engqingili okanye isini, kwaye xa zibiza ngokuba ngabafazi, zifihla ukuthanda kwabo okwenene ngokwesondo. Ezi zigqibo zenziwa ngokuqhuba iimvavanyo, ngexesha apho amadoda ayebukele iiporografi, kwaye izazinzulu zinoozincedisi bezichukumisi zenzelwa ukuvuswa kwesondo .
Ubundlobongela kumadoda okanye ukutyekela kobudlelwane bobulili obufanayo, kubangelwa ngenxa yengxaki yengqondo, umnqweno wokutshintsha isini kunye neentlalo zentlalo, kunye nokuzimela kunye nokulawula. Esinye isizathu singabonakaliswa kwindlela yokwenza uvavanyo lwezesondo kunye nomnqweno wokulawulwa kakubi komdlali. Kwezinye iimeko, indoda idinga imfuno yokuba nobuhlobo obusondeleyo nabantu abanobufana obufanayo.
Ubundlobongela kwiBasetyhini
Umnqweno wabameli bezesondo ezibuthakathaka ukubonisa intlonelo kwabanye abafazi kuthathwa njengesiqhelo semvelo. Kwiimeko ezininzi, oomama bafunda ngokuthambekela kwabo ngokwesini, kwaye okokuqala kunokusongela. Izizathu ezibonakalisiweyo zokutshintshwa koqhelwano zingabikho, uze uthethe ngempawu zobomi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ubufazi bentombi bubangelwa kukungaboni ubudlelwane nabantu, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo kunye namava anamandla. Kukho amaxesha apho abafazi bebuyela kwi-sex-sexual over time.
Ngokutsho kophando, inani labasetyhini abasetyhini liye landa kakhulu. Amalinge okufumana iimeko ezingamakhompi kunye nobuncinane bokutshintshwa kwezinto ezithandwayo ngokwesondo aziphumelelanga. Ukufumanisa ukuba ngubani oye, kufuneka kuthiwa ukukhangwa ngokwesondo kuvela ebuntwaneni, kwaye ukuqhelaniswa kwendawo kubeka malunga ne-11-13 iminyaka. Kubonakala ukuba abafazi balula ukuqonda, banomdla kwaye banamathele kumlingane wabo, obanika ithuba lokuzonwabisa.
Izizathu zobungqingili
Oososayensi abakwazi ukuza kwimbono enye malunga nezizathu ezingenza umehluko kwiminqweno yesondo yomntu. Ukunikezela izakhiwo ezingenasiphelo kunye nezifumanekayo ezichaphazela ukuqhelaniswa. Ngenxa yezizathu zokugqibela, omnye unokubandakanya ukungoneleliswa ngokwesini kunye namalungu esini esahlukileyo. Kwiimeko ezininzi, oku kusebenza kubafazi. Ubundlobongela babantu banokucatshulwa ngezizathu ezininzi:
- Ukungafuni ukuhlala kwisini esithile kunye nokugcina imithetho ebekiwe ngenxa yokuzimisela ngokwesondo.
- Ubukho bezinto zesini zobomi zesini zesini.
- Iingxaki ekwakheni ubudlelwane kunye nabameli besini esahlukileyo.
- Umnqweno wokulinga kwi-sex field.
- Iingxaki zengqondo kwintsana kunye nentsha.
Ngaba ubuqabane buqhelekileyo okanye akunjalo?
Iingcali zithatha isiqhelo kuphela sokukhangwa ngokwesondo , oko kukuthi, umnqweno womntu wesifazane, kunye nokunye. Ubundlobongela bubhekwa njengesiphambano sengqondo. Sekunjalo, izazinzulu zikholelwa ukuba umntu akanakuwuthanda bonke ubomi bakhe abesilisa nabasetyhini, kuba kungekudala emva koko uza kukhetha ukulala ngesini okanye ulwabelana ngesondo. Kukho inzululwazi ezithi ubuhlobo bobuqhelo buqhelekileyo kwaye malunga nama-70% abantu banokuqhelaniswa.
Indlela yokukrazula ububini?
Ukuze umntu azive ekhululekile, kufuneka ukuba uthathe isondo sakhe. Ukuphoqeleka ukuba uzinqande ukuyeka ukuthanda amadoda okanye abafazi akunakwenzeka. I-psychology yobundlobongela ibonisa ukuba ukuba utshintsho kwi-orientation lubangelwa ukukhathazeka kwengqondo, ngoko-ke kuyimfuneko ukufuna uncedo kwi-ingcali onokukunceda ukuqonda wena kunye nokukhetha kwakho ngokwesondo.