Ubudlelwane phakathi komfazi okhululekile kunye nomntu otshatileyo kunokuhlala iminyaka. Yaye iqabane elingathembekanga, le meko iyaneliseka kakhulu, engenakutsholwa ngowesifazane onokwenzeka, amaphupha osapho kunye nabantwana. Kule meko, uhlala ephethe umbuzo-indlela yokuziphatha kakuhle nomntu otshatileyo, ukuze ashiye intsapho.
Indlela yokuziphatha kakuhle nomthandi otshatileyo?
Ngokwezibalo, ixesha elide okanye elingahambi kakuhle likhokelela ininzi yamadoda esatshatileyo. Kodwa ekubeni iinjongo zabo eziphambili kuphela ukwaneliseka kweso sikratshi, "ukutshintsha amahashe kwinqanawa" amadoda atshatiweyo akangxamanga. Kwaye akuyaziwa ukuba ngubani na obenzileyo - lowo washiywa emva kobusuku obunye, okanye lowo omele iminyaka yakhe ukuba ahambe ekhaya.
Enye yeendlela eziqhelekileyo zesetyhini ezenzelwe ukutshutshisa umthandi otshatileyo ukuqhawula umtshato. Inkosikazi inokuthi "inyuke emzimbeni" okanye iphule kunye nomthandi wayo de ibe yashiya intsapho. Ngamadoda athile, kusebenza, kodwa kukho umngcipheko ukuba umthandi uya kutshintshela kwenye.
Inkqubo yesibini esebenzayo iqulethe ukulungiselela loo ndoda iimeko ezikhulu kakhulu. Unkosikazi kulolu hlobo kufuneka abe ngcono kunomfazi osemthethweni ukupheka, jonga, nesondo. Kodwa ukuba umntu uyaqonda ukuba kukho nawuphi na umba, umlutha uyenzeka kwaye emva konyaka okanye ezimbini ikosikazi iya kubangela imvakalelo efanayo nomfazi okwangoku, akunakwenzeka ukuba ahlukane.
Omnye umzekelo wokuzaliswa ngempumelelo komntu onomfazi osemthethweni uyaziwa. Eli bali ibali lika-Anna Boleyn no-Henry VIII. Kwiminyaka emininzi, u-Anna wayesekela ngokuphumelelayo inzondo kaKumkani, kodwa akazange angene ebudlelwaneni obusondeleyo naye. Ekugqibeleni, emva kokungqubuzana evulekile necawa kunye nenxalenye yamakhosi aseYurophu, uHenry wahlukana. Nangona kunjalo, ukugqitywa kweli bali luthando alikude nelifu - ludanekile kwintanda yakhe, ukumkani wamtyhola u-Anna ngobuqhetseba waza wambulala.
Isiphetho kuzo zonke ezi zilandelayo zilula - ukwakha injabulo yakho kwiinyembezi zenye intokazi akukufanelekanga. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuya kwenzeka nokuba kukho iinqunithi ezimbini, ezizalelwe emphefumlweni nasemzimbeni. Kwaye baphila ngokuvuya emva koko. Kodwa kulo mzekelo, kungekhona kuphela umfazi kodwa umthandi wakhe ufuna ukudala intsapho.