Kwiimpawu zentsholongwane zanamhlanje kunye nezikhokelo, kungekude kudlulileyo i-subculture ebonakalayo, eyona nto ingundoqo yokuqhubeka kwe-sadomasochism. Igama elinikezelwe kulolu lathiso lunikezelwa ngokuhlanganiswa kwegama lesiNgesi, ubugqila, ukulawula, i-sado-maso, eguqulelwe ngokoqobo ithetha-ukubopha, ukulawula, i-BDSM. Kwifom echanekileyo, oku kuthiwa yi-BDSM.
Ingundoqo yale ntlupheko ikhona ekutshintshiseni okunye ukulawula kunye negunya linye lamalingani ngaphezu kolunye, olwahlula ngokwenene kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo zobudlelwane ngokwesondo nangokwengqondo. I-BDSM - umdlalo wabalingani ababini, onomgomo wokunyusa iimvakalelo zesondo ngokwabelana ngamandla phezu komnye nomnye.
Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba kule midlalo yezocansi kukho imigaqo emininzi eyenza amaqabane anokhuseleko, kokubili ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo, kunye nokubhekiselele kumthetho wobugebengu. Imbali yokuphuhliswa kwalo mhlaba uhamba emva kweenkulungwane ezingamashumi amabini ukususela ekuqaleni kokukhankanywa kwayo kwimisebenzi ye-Marquis de Sade edumiweyo, ogama lakhe linike igama lenye yegama elithi "sadism".
Kwi-BDSM kukho iindlela ezininzi, i-slang yayo, uphawu, iimpawu kunye nezobugcisa. Enye yezobugcisa zenkcazo yifoto kunye nepeyinti. Ukususela kumbono womntu kude nelo lathiso, imisebenzi yobugcisa kwisitayela se-Art BDSM, ukuyibeka ngenyameko, jongeka ibe yinto engaqhelekanga kwaye yinkwantyi.
Yintoni ukunyathelisa?
Kwi-subculture ye-BDSM, kukho ezininzi iimpawu kunye neziqendu, zombini ukulawula kunye nokuthotyelwa. Izenzo kunye nezenzo zesondo zintlobo eyahlukileyo, apho izenzo ezithile zobundlobongela zisetyenziselwa umntu ophantsi okanye okhoboka. Ukutshatyalaliswa ngokwesini kukuphela kwezenzo ezinjalo, ezisetyenziselwa kwiimidlalo zesondo kunye namaxesha athile kwiimeko zasekhaya.
Ukuze uphendule umbuzo wokuthi ukunyathelwa kuthetha ukuthini, kuyimfuneko ukubuyela kwisigama sesiNgesi. Ixesha lokunyathelisa lithathwe kwigama lesiNgesi okanye ukunyathela, oku kuthetha "ukunyathelisa" okanye "ukunyathela". Yaye le nto iyintloko yezenzo-ukugxotha okanye ukuhamba malunga nomzimba weqabane.
Yintoni ekunyathelwana ngayo ngokwesini seLungu leBDSM? Le nxalenye yendima yokudlala indima, isetyenziswe njengoluhlobo lwesandulela ngesondo, ngexesha apho inkosi okanye inkosikazi ihamba ngayo emzimbeni ophantsi, kubangela intlungu nokuhlupheka. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba le mdlalo ingabonakaliswa njani, bobabini abathathi-nxaxheba bafumana ukuzonwabisa ngokwenyama nangokwengqondo kuyo, kuba le ngenye yezenzo zokulungiselela ngqo kwisenzo sesondo .
Iintlobo zokunyathelisa
Ukuthathelwa ngokutshatyalaliswa kwahlula ngamacandelo amabini:
- Ukunyathela okulula. Umlingani obalaseleyo kwinkqubo yoxhatshazo lwezesondo uxhamla umzimba weqabane kunye neenyawo ezingenanto, ubunzima kunye neqondo lokunyanzeliswa kumzimba ongaphantsi kobukhulu kakhulu. Indoda okanye intombi inako
Hamba kuzo zonke iindawo zomzimba wekhoboka lakhe - ngasemva, ngesisu, esifubeni. Kwimilinganiselo yokukhusela, ukuhamba entloko kunye nobuso kungabandakanywa. - Ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza kuyinto enzima kakhulu yokuzonwabisa, apho iqabane eliphambili lingakwazi ukuhamba emzimbeni wendlela ephantsi kwezicathulo zesitalato. Xa ibhinqa lilawulwa kwiibini, ke izicathulo eziphezulu kunye nezincinci zincinci zithatha isenzo, eqinisweni isele isenzo sokudabuka kunye nenxalenye yomdlalo kwiqela le-sadomasochistic.
Kubantu abangenalwazi, isenzo esinjalo somdlalo wesondo singabonakala sikhohlakali, kodwa kwenzeka ngokuvumelana kwemibini yomibini. Ndimele ndithi ngokuhamba kanzima, kunye nezithende eziphezulu, umngcipheko wokulimala uphakeme, kodwa iqabane ngalinye lilumkiso ngale nto kwaye lilandela imithetho yokukhusela. Nangona kunjalo kungangabonakali kunokuba kubonakale ukusuka kwicala, loo midlalo kunye neengcambu zezocansi zibanomdla kunye nabalandeli. Ukunyathelisa kuphephile kwaye, ukuba kulungile kumntu, ngoko kutheni.