Ukuthetha ngeengxaki zobundlobongela obuhlukeneyo ngokwesini, bobabini nabasetyhini bavame ukuthetha ingxabano kunye neengxabano ezivuthayo phakathi kwazo. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, ngokuqhelekileyo kubakho ngenxa yokunganeliseki nomlingane wabo. Kwaye oku kubangela ukuba uzame ukutshintsha, ukuguqula ukuhlangabezana nokukulindela kwakho. Kodwa ngaba oku kunokwenzeka? Emva kwakho konke, sihluke kakhulu komnye nomnye: ukubonakala, imilinganiselo, izinga lemfundo kunye neminqweno, kunye nangaphezulu. Yintoni esinokuyithetha ngayo ngokwahlukileyo phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini abachaphazela ubuhlobo babo kakhulu! Ngoko akukuhle ukuyiqonda kwaye uzama ukuqonda omnye nomnye? Ngaphandle koko, ukuvavanya ukuziphatha komlingane ngokwemiqathango yabo, asisoze saneliseka.
Uthando nokunyaniseka kwintsebenziswano phakathi kwendoda nomfazi
Indoda ayiyi kubiza intanda yakhe yonke imizuzu elineshumi elinesihlanu kwaye ayiyi kuxubusha ingubo yommelwane wayo, ayiyi kuthenga kunye naye, kwaye ukuba uyayenza, ke akayi kuvuya. Yaye oko akuthethi ukuba akayithandi. Ngokulula, uthando lwakhe lubonakaliswe ngokuthe ngqo- ngezenzo ezithile. Uya kukhusela umfazi wakhe, amnike yonke into ayifunayo kwaye uya kukhetha ukumnika imali yokuthenga ngaphandle kokuhamba naye kwiihambo zokuthenga.
Kodwa uya kulala ngesidlo. Ubundlobongela kubaluleke kakhulu kunoma yimuphi umntu, kodwa abayi kutyalombela ekwenzeni uthando oluninzi kunye neemvakalelo njengabesifazane. Kuba isondo esinamandla, okokuqala, ithuba lokuphumla kunye nokunciphisa uxinzelelo. Kwaye, mhlawumbi ke, nokuba unoyolo olusenyongweni nomntu othandekayo, unako ukuguqula - ngokunyanisekileyo ukukholelwa ukuba oku akusebenzi kuye kwaye akuthethi nto kuye. Ukholo lwabasetyhini luvame ukubangelwa ukungoneleliseki ubuhlobo obukhoyo okanye umnqweno wokuziphindezela.
Kubafazi ngokubanzi, ukusingqongileyo kunye nemimoya, isimo sangaphakathi kunye nomoya kubaluleke kakhulu. Ngako oko, uxinzelelo lwendoda kaninzi lubona ngephathekiyo, luchaza ukuba "yinto eyodwa kuphela efunekayo." Oku kuyacaphukisa indoda kwaye ibonwa nguye njengokwenqatshwa kwesondo ngelixa, kodwa njengento yokwenqaba.
Ubudlelwane besini: ngubani ophetheyo?
Ubufazi kunye neenguqu ezinzulu ekuziphatheni, isimo sezentlalo kunye neengqondo zabasetyhini banamhlanje zilingana namadoda, ukuguqula yonke i-psychology yobudlelwane babo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo abameli bezesondo eziqinileyo badlala indima yecandelo elingaphantsi, ngokuxhomekeke kwintando yesetyhini. Indoda yenza loo nto umfazi elindele kuye; uxanduva lwakhe luncinci, kwaye iimfuno zakhe zihlala zizaliseka. Kwaye okokuqala ufanelwe wonke umntu. Kodwa ubudlelwane obunjalo buyonakalisa ngobunzima ubuntu bobabini kunye nokutshabalalisa uthando lwabo. Indoda ilahlekelwa ukukwazi ukujamelana nemithwalo yomthwalo kunye neengxaki zemihla ngemihla, ukuzama ukutshintsha yonke inxaxheba kumfazi. Uyeke ukuba abe mnqwenela kwaye athambile, athukuthele, ahlale ecaleni kwaye enganeliseki. Kwaye ngoku, kufuneka babonane nantoni na bendalo: kulo mfazi - umyuzi kunye nomgqugquzeli, kwaye kumntu-umntu ozimeleyo nonamandla, umcebisi kunye nomkhuseli.
Kwenzeka ukuba ibhinqa linamandla amakhulu, kwaye indoda ngokwemvelo ikhoboka. Ngoko makangabi yinkokheli phakathi kwabo, emva kokuba konke kubaluleke ngakumbi ekudibaneni ubudlelwane ukuze balandele isitshixo, ingqondo yengqondo yendoda nomfazi. Emva koko uza kuza apho kukho isandla sakhe esinamandla kunye nendlela yokuqonda, apho kufuneka ukuba isombulule iingxaki ezinzulu zesintu kwaye ifezekise iinjongo ezibalulekileyo. Yaye uya kumxhasa aze amncede, ahloniphe kwaye anike inkululeko yokuthatha isenzo.
Kule ndlela kuphela, ukuqonda ukungafani kwesini kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ukulingana kokubini, indoda kunye nomfazi bangakha ubudlelwane obonwabileyo. Emva koko, iinjongo zabo aziyiyo imfazwe ngenxa yolu ngqubana, kodwa ukudibanisa kwamacandelo amabini, okufuneka ahlangane.