Uthando luvakalelo olukhulu kuMhlaba. Ukusuka kuye uqala bonke ubomi kwindalo yonke kwaye uyaqhubeka ekhona ngenxa yesi sivakalelo. Ngoko bekuhlala njalo. Kwaye ngelo xesha, umntu uhlale efuna inkcazelo echanileyo yoko kuthetha ukuthandana? Ngubani onomntu onothando kwaye kufuneka aziphatha njani? Yibuphi ubungqina bothando olukhoyo? Ungayiqonda njani ukuba uyayithanda? Le mibuzo siya kuzama ukunika ubuncinane impendulo.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuthanda umntu?
Ngamaxesha onke umntu wayefuna ubungqina obuninzi bokuthi wayemthandayo kwaye umntu wayemfuna. Ngenxa yoko, ezininzi iimpawu kunye neenyaniso eziguquguqukayo zibonakala ekukhanyeni, ubukho bokuba bubonisa ukuba umntu uyamthanda okanye uyathandwa. Zininzi zale nyaniso zihlala zingatshintshi kangangeenkulungwane. Sinika umzekelo wezinye zazo:
- Ukuthanda ukuxolela. Wonke umntu unelungelo lokwenza impazamo. Kwaye akukho namnye okwazi ukufumana izizathu ezininzi zetyala, njengalowo umthandayo. Le ngenye yezimpawu ezilungileyo - uthando alububi.
- Ukuthanda kuthetha ukuyeka ukuthelekisa. Uvakalelo lwangempela lunokuba ngumntu omnye. Ukuba, ngobudlelwane, elinye lamalingani lifanisa elinye kunye nalabo ababenalo ngaphambili, ngoko ukunyaniseka kweemvakalelo zakhe kuya kuqinisekiswa.
- Ukuthandana akukuthandi. Oku kungenxa yokuvakalelwa ngothando - mfutshane, unomdla kwaye uyimfama. Le ntliziyo ayikho uthando lokwenene. Ukuba uthando lokuqala lwe-platonic luba buhlobo obunzima bexesha elide, ngoko kuphela kuloo nto inokuthetha ngothando lokwenene.
- Ukuthanda ukukholelwa. Enye yeenyaniso ezichanekileyo kwizibini ezininzi zanamhlanje. Kuthetha ukuthembela phakathi kwesibini esithandweni. Okufanayo ukuthanda kuthatha ukuthembela. Kuphela ukuzithembana ngokubambisana kunye nokwenene ubudlelwane obuqinileyo. Ukholo kwintsebenziswano yimiba ekuhlala kuyo iintsapho ngeenkulungwane.
- Utshintsho - ke aluthandi. Umbono oqhelekileyo, kwaye ngokusoloko uphosakele. Kwiintsapho ezininzi, ukuthengwa akubangelwa ukungabi nthando. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abatshatileyo banquma ukukhashelwa ngenxa yokuvalelwa kwintswelo kunye nokwaneliseka kwidingo yokufuneka, ukuba bavele bebancinci, njl njl. Uninzi lwabo bathetha ukutshintsha isigqibo sabo sesibini, bathi isondo nothando zizinto ezimbini ezahlukeneyo. Yintoni ephawulekayo kukuba ininzi yabo yindoda.
- Uthando luya kwenzeka. Oko kuthetha ukuthandana nangona kunjalo, abaninzi bayazi. Umntu ngamnye unelungelo elithile lezinto ezintle kwaye ziphantse ziphindwe kabini. Uthando lokwenene alunakucaluli kwizinto ezimbi zomntu. Ngokuqhelekileyo kuthiwa umntu akayithandwanga ngenxa yezinye izidima zakhe, kodwa nangona ulwaphulelo lwakhe. Wena. uyayithanda indlela, ngaphandle kokugqithisa kunye neengcinga.
Ngomntu ngamnye, nombono wakhe wehlabathi, ukukhuliswa kunye nomlingiswa, kukho ingcamango yakhe yoko kuthetha ukuthandana ngokwenene noko kuthetha ukuthini ukuthanda. Enye yezinzululwazi zaseMerika iqulethe uluhlu lwamanyathelo athile, ukuba, ngoluvo lwakhe, kufuneka lukhokele ekuthandeni okwenyaniso nolungileyo kwiintsebenziswano:
- Injongo yaluphi na ulwalamano kukugubungela nokunyanga yonke inzondo yomntwana kunye nokuphilisa zonke izikhalazo;
- ngobudlelwane kufuneka kubekho
ngcamango. Umntu kufuneka aqondwe ngokungenakulindelekanga; - Ubudlelwane kufuneka busebenze kwaye buphuculwe yonke imihla;
- nakuphi na ubudlelwane nomntu kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba iimfuno zakhe kunye neemfuno zibalulekile njengethu. Kwakhona, ungalibali ukuxelela iqabane lakho malunga neemfuno zakho kunye neemfuno zakho;
- phambi kokuba uqikelele iimvakalelo zakho kunye neengcinga kumntu, kubalulekile ukuziqonda kwaye uzame ukukhusela umthandi wakho kwiintsilelo zakho.
Nakuphi na ubudlelwane, kuyafaneleka ukukhumbula ukuba uthando luyinkunzi yokubingelelwa ngokuzithandela. Kwaye wonke umntu unquma ngenxa yento akwenzayo, kwaye nokuba umntu ozayo kweso sihlandlo kunye nemikhosi eya kuvuselela iimvakalelo zokwenene kuyafaneleka.