Inkathalo ebudlelwaneni ngokuqhelekileyo. Yonke isibini esivela nayo okanye iya kujongana nayo. Yaye yodwa yomeleleyo, ininzi isigulane, iimbini eziqondayo ziyakuma kwaye zihlale kunye. Ukuba isigaba esibalulekileyo senzekile ebomini bakho-ungakhangeli kule meko ngokugxeka. Thatha njengoluvavanyo olunzima kodwa oluyimfuneko. Kwaye iziphumo zeziganeko kunye nemiphumo yovavanyo zixhomekeke kuphela kulowo nalowo. Yazi, nokuba kunjani na, ubunzima buya kuphela, kwaye ubudlelwane buya kutshintshwa kwinqanaba elitsha! Ukuqonda ngokubambelela ngezandla, udwebe umoya kumaphaphu kunye nesitokisi ngokubhekiselele kumthande wakho ... UMTHETHO !!!
Indlela yokusinda inzima yentsapho?
Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima kakhulu ukusinda kwintsapho. Ubomi, ukuzimela, ukungakhathaleli nokungabikho kokuqwalasela kunye nexesha; ukungabikho komntu othandekayo kunye nezinye zeentsilelo zakhe; imiba yehlabathi, iingxaki, ubunzima kunye nokuxabana; ukungaqondani, ukungavumelani, ukukhulisa umntwana - kwaye akusilo uluhlu olupheleleyo lwezizathu zokukhathazeka. Qonda ukuba loo mava akhathazeki. Ngoko ke, kubuwula ukuzenza ngathi konke kulungile, kodwa kungenzi nto nantoni na.
Indlela yokusinda ngxaki kwiintsapho?
Le mpazamo, kwakhona, ukukholelwa ukuba umphefumlo wakho umlingane awukhathaleli "imozulu" yolwalamano lwakho. Mhlawumbi udidekile kwaye ungathandabuzeki ukuba yonke into eyenzekayo kuwe yinto ozimisele ukuyenza. Kulula kakhulu, ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuba ubalekele kwimeko yangoku, kunokuzama ukuyicombulula. Musa ukucinga ukuba abantu abaye bahlala umtshato ovuyayo kwiminyaka engama-30 behlala behle. Umtshato wakho awunzima kwaye awufani kakhulu. Ndaphinda ndiphinda: "Yonke into incike emibini kuphela"!
Indlela yokusinda le ntlekele iminyaka engama-7?
Imida enemiqathango iyahluka phakathi kweminyaka eyi-7 neye-9 yokuhlala kunye. Yiyona nto ingenakulinganiswa kwaye engaqinisekiyo. Ngeli xesha, isi sibini sivame ukuvelisa umntwana, sihlangabezana neempawu zayo zeminyaka. Ukongeza, ukuhambela phambili kwinqanaba lomsebenzi longeza uxanduva kwaye kuthatha ixesha.
Ingqondo yengqondo yentsapho ithi abafazi baqhathanisa zabo iimfuno kunye namaphupha ngokwenene. Xa inyaniso ayihambelani neminqweno, ke ingxaki yenkcubeko ingaqala kwelinye lamadoda omtshato.
Makhe sixoxe ngendlela enokumnceda umntu aphile ngayo ingxaki.
Kuwe kunye nesiqingatha sakho sesibini kubonakala ukuba ubomi bunzima - buyothusa. Ndifuna into entsha kunye engaqhelekanga. Kule nqanaba, gcina omnye komnye kunanini ngaphambili. Yenza into yokudibanisa, entsha, idibeneyo. Fumana izinto eziqhelekileyo kunye nezinto zokuzilibazisa. Hlalani kunye nichitha ixesha, nidlelane kwaye nihambe kwiindawo ezibalulekileyo kuwe. Ukufudumala ubudlelwane kunye nexesha elidlulileyo, ezimnandi, ezintle izinto ezikhunjulwayo - kungekhona ukuhlambalaza kunye nokuthetha.
Yibonge yonke into, unike inkululeko encinci, yenza inkumbulo, ngelizwi-qalisa ukutshintsha iimvakalelo kunye nawe, kwaye uya kukwazi ukugcina ezo zihlobo ezinomdla kuwe!