Ewe, siphupha ngothando lokungafi kunye nesithembiso sokufafaza iintloko zethu ngomlotha ngosuku apho singakwazi ukugcina indoda yethu ethandekayo. Kodwa yintoni enokuyenza xa ukuzithemba okunjalo kuqalisa ukukhahlaza kwaye kuyacaca ukuba umqhubi ubonakale ekugqibeleni? Ungayichitha njani, indlela yokuhlukanisa indoda ethandekayo kumbhikisho, umshiye naye?
Ndiyazi ukuba unomntu!
Ngokuqhelekileyo siqala ukucinga indlela yokukrazula umlingani ngaphandle kokufumana ubungqina bokuba khona kwakhe. Iingcwatshi ze "abanqwenela kakuhle" aziqwalaselwa, abazi ukuba kutheni bafuna ukunyelisa umyeni wakho. Ukuba kukho ukusola malunga nobukho bomnye, musa ukudlala kumcuphi ovelele. Ukuqwalaselwa, ukujonga iifowuni, ukuphenywa "kufuneka ufike ekhaya eminye imizuzu embalwa edlulileyo", amahlazo kunye nokudabuka ngokukhutshwa kwesigxina "nokuba yena okanye mna" akayi kunceda. Kwaye ukuba umntu wakho ngaphambi koku kungenanto, emva kokubonakalisa ukungathembeki okunjalo, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kucinga ngokutshintsha imeko yangoku.
Ewe, ukuba uqinisekile ukuba inkosikazi ivele, njani ukususa umdlali, nento yokwenza ngayo? Fumana konke malunga nalo, zama ukumazi ukuba ayimfuneko. Uthi udinga ukwazi intshaba ngomntu? Mhlawumbi kunjalo, kodwa unesiqinisekiso sokuba uya kukwazi ukugcina ubuso xa udibana naye - umzobo wokukhangela amehlo kunye nokukhupha izinwele akuyi kukukholisa nabani na. Mkhumbule ukukhumbula isikhombiso esinqununu somfazi - ubuqhetseba. Awazi lutho malunga nompikiswano, kakuhle, musa, kodwa uyazi indoda yakho. Cinga ngento eyenokumkhokelela kwisinyathelo esinjalo-impazamo yakho okanye umlinganisi wakhe. Ukuba okwesibini, kufuneka ubeke okanye udibanise - umfazi ongenakuchukumisa, uya kukuthanda kwaye udibane nomnye umfazi. Ewe, ukuba unetyala, zilungise ngokwakho - buyele kwimifanekiso ekhohlisayo, uyeke ukuhlangana naye kwiingqungquthela kunye nengubo endala, uye uthethe ngentloko kunye nokuba uyaphambukisa, ufuna ukungafani nokuphila kwakho ngesondo.
Ungayilahla njani umngane okanye umhlobo?
Ungasususa njani umdlali, ukuba le ntombi yakho? Ukukuphelisa ngakwesinye icala kuya kuba lula kunomntu ongaziwayo-unokukhumbula zonke iimpazamo zakhe kwaye ubaxelele ngengozi ngomyeni wakhe. Okanye unako ukuthetha amanga, uthi, umzekelo, ukuba udlalele ukutyelela indawo yokuhlala, nangona wayesekho kanye kunye nokusola. Kwaye ukuba unayo indoda, ngoko unokwenza oko ukuba uyazi malunga nento yonke, kutheni ufanele uhlupheke kuphela?
Kodwa kukho le meko, kunye nobunzima, kungekhona bonke abafazi bayazi indlela yokuziphatha kunye neengxabano, ngoko ke abanako ukuwuqeda. Omnye ucinga ukuba ukhetho oluhle luya kuthulisa kunye nokumomotheka okulungileyo, umntu ucinga ukuba uhlazo luyimfuneko. Akunjalo nabo okanye abanye bachanekile, ukuyeka emsebenzini, kunye nokugxeka akuyi kukunceda unqobe. Kufuneka uxoxe ngokuzithelekileyo, kodwa inxalenye yakhe ayikho kunye naye - isimo sakhe intombi sele sele sishiyekile, sithintela kumntu wakho, ngoko kutheni i-courtesies engathandekiyo? Ukuba awuqapheli omnye umfazi, kuya kumcaphukisa, uya kuqala ukuhlambalaza kwaye angaziboni ngokubhetele, into ephambili kukuzibamba. Kwaye ukuxubusha imeko engcono kumyeni wakho, mxelele ngokungahambisani kwakho - emva kwayo yonke into, akayikusola into yokuba
Indlela yokunciphisa umchasi ngomlingo?
Abavumisi kunye nabathakathi bahlukane ngokupheleleyo kwaye phantse wonke umntu usiqinisekisa ukuba bayazi ukuba baqhenqa kwaye bazama ukuphikisana nomchasi. Ukukhanyela ngokupheleleyo ukuba unempembelelo enjalo ayifanelekanga, kodwa akudingeki ukuba uthembele kakhulu. Ukuba ukholelwa ekubeni ulahlekise umqhudelwano ngale ndlela, funda iincinci ezimbalwa, yenza umkhosi kunye nekhandlela, jonga kwicawa, nje ungafumani i-hysterical kwaye ungayithathi imali yokugqibela "kubasebenzi abasimangalisa". Abaninzi babo bangabanikazi abafumana kwiintlungu zabanye, kwaye ke baya kusebenza nawe ngelixa unethuba lokuhlawula.