Zonke izihlobo zibini ... Ngoko sikulungele ukuba siphupha uthando olukhulu nolusulungekileyo, kodwa ukukhuliswa akusivumeli ukuba sijwayelane neyokuqala, ngenxa yokuba ayihloniphekanga, ngaphantsi kwesidima sethu, njl njl. kunye nezinye. Kutheni kwenzeka ukuba ibhinqa inayo yonke imilenze yokulawula ubomi bakhe, kodwa ayifuni ukuthatha yonke into ezandleni zayo?
Yintoni ekhusela ukuba uqhelane nomntu?
Kukho izizathu ezibangela ukuba sihlale sisese kwaye singenakufumana ulonwabo:
- ukuzithemba;
- ukungabi nako kwexesha ngokukhawuleza kokuphila;
- ukungafuni ukubekezelela ukungaphumeleli kwabanye abantu okanye imikhwa;
- asiyazi apho ungabonisana khona kwaye njani.
Ukuba izizathu zokuqala ezintathu ziyakwazi ukulungelelaniswa noluhlu oluthile ngeempapasho ezinjenge-"Indlela yokuPhumelela" okanye "Indlela Yokuthetha Nabantu", okokugqibela isicombululo esicacileyo. Funda indlela yokuthetha kunye nokufumana indawo apho unokuhlangana nayo intsha, unakho ngaphandle kweengxaki.
Kuphi ukufumana umntu olungileyo?
Into yokuqala kunye ebaluleke kakhulu: ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba awuyi kuphumelela, unokuqiniseka ukuba oku kuya kwenzeka. Ngoko, phantsi kwesiqubulo esithi "Ndingumnandi kakhulu kwaye ndonwabile" ngokusisigxina esisukayo:
- Kwivenkile. Ewe, ewe, kwakusevenkile. Uzenza ngathi uthathe umcebisi wentengiso kwaye ubuze uncedo, ngoko uncumo ungacela uxolo kwaye usenokucela icebiso. Ungabi buvila ukuba ukhangela kwi-trolley yakhe, okuphakathi kwayo kuya kukuxelela ukuba kunengqondo ukuqhubeka nencoko (ubukho beentlanzi okanye iimpawu ezicacileyo ezivela "uluhlu lwamabhinqa" luya kunika uphawu olubomvu). Okanye mhlawumbi wathenga amatye kwaye kwacaca ukuba akukho mntu omele ampheke? Kule meko, cetyiswa ngothando ukuba uthanda i-pelmeni, kodwa ukhetha ukupheka wena. Ewe, umntu angamelana njani na?
- Kwimeko efanelekileyo yokuzivocavoca . Isiko esinempilo esibucayi, esinegama elihle - le ndawo enkulu apho unokuhlangana nomntu ohloniphekileyo. Mcele ukuba ancede nge-projectile okanye umcele ukuba acetyise indlela yokwenza umsebenzi ngokuchanekileyo, ungakulibali ukwenza inkomiso! Ngokuqhelekileyo ngamaziko enempilo kukho iibheyi zetiyi, le ndawo yindawo enokuyifumana ngayo umntu onomdla kwaye onotyebi.
- Kwi cafe. Unobtrusively ubuze malunga nendlela yokutya apha. Buza ukuxelela into enhle kakhulu, uhlale phantsi kwitheyibhile elisondeleyo-ukuze ubaleke imeko ehlazo xa umntu sele elindele umntu.
- Indawo enkulu yokudibana nendoda "igumbi lokubhema" . Mane ucele ukukhanya, uqalise ngokucacileyo incoko kwaye ungakulibali ukutsho ukuba unomdla okulungileyo, ekubeni utshaya lo mkhwa wecuba (kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni, into ephambili kukubonga).
- Kwiindawo ezinkulu zezoshishino kulula kakhulu ukuba wazi kakuhle. Akunakuze ufune indawo ekhethekileyo ukuze uqhelane nendoda ehloniphekileyo, kwanele nje ukuba ilahle impazamo yamaphepha eduze kwayo. Indoda ebelekileyo iya kukunceda
qo kelela yonke into, kakuhle, ngoko-ishishini lobugcisa. - Unokuqhelana ngaphandle kokuhlawula ngokukhethekileyo indawo ukuze udibana nendoda. Kwanele nje ukuqala ingxoxo, njengokungathi uyazizana iminyaka eyikhulu, kwaye uhleka ukuvuma ukuba wenze igama lakho.
- Kubalulekile kungekhona indawo kuphela apho unokufumana umntu olungileyo, kodwa kunye nexesha . Kwiklabhu yasebusuku, awukwazi ukuba nobudlelwane obunzulu. Kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba unobtrusively uqale ingxoxo ngexesha lokutya kwasemini kwi-cafe, kodwa ngokukhawuleza uya kudla isidlo sakusihlwa kunye?
Musa ukulibala: ukuba sele sele uzimisele ukukhangela indawo apho ungazi khona umntu, uqale umsebenzi ngokwakho! Lahla amagama-ama-parasites, uhlaziye izenzo zakho xa uthabatha kwaye unamathela. Umhlobo wokuqala udla ngokuqulunqa ulwalamano, ngoko iingubo kufuneka zibe yinto engabonakaliyo (iyafana nokwenza). Naliphi na umntu uhlala ekhetha yonke into ngokwayo, ngoko ncedise ukuba anqume ukukuhlangabeza!