Ulwalamano nomntu othandekayo lunokuthi "ludibanise" ngexesha elingaphambili elingalindelekanga, kunokubakho izizathu ezininzi zezi zinto, kodwa nakunoma kunjalo, ukuhlukana kuhlale kunzima. Omnye ufumana ukuhlukana yodwa, umntu uzama ukulibala ngokotywala, umntu ukhangele ezinye iindlela zokuphazamisa, kwaye umntu uzama ukufumana isiqingatha sakhe.
Indlela yokubuyisela ubuhlobo kunye nomthandayo?
Cinga ngamaphuzu ambalwa anokukunceda uqonde indlela yokubuyisela ubuhlobo emva kokuhlukana:
- Okokuqala, zama ukubuyisela uqhagamshelwano kwaye ube ngumhlobo wakho nje ngumhlobo, usixhase, unike iingcebiso ezilungileyo, wabelane ngokuvuya, njl., Kodwa ungakhathazeki ukucela abahlobo emva kokuphuka, linda kancane, makube yinyanga okanye ezimbini.
- Ungalibali ukugcina iso kwimeko yakho, ukuba ngaphambili ungakwazi ukubonakala phambi kwabathandekayo bakho kwisigqoko sokugqoka kwaye ungenziwanga, ngoku uxhobe ngokugcwele, mvumele loo nto ibone ubuhle abulahlekileyo.
- Enye indlela eqinisekileyo, indlela yokubuyisela ubuhlobo kunye nomfana emva kokuhlukana, kukuqinisekisa ukuthetha nonina. Ukuba awuzange wenze oku ngaphambili, ngoku ixesha. Yiza kumtyelela, umxelele ukuba umhle kangakanani unyana wakhe, ukuba uyamthanda njani kwaye kunzima kangakanani ngaphandle kwakhe. Ndikholelwe, oomama banempembelelo enkulu kule ndawo kubantwana babo.
- Khumbula ukuba awuzange umthande umntu kuwe. Mhlawumbi wayecinga ukuba ungekhohlazo okanye uyazidla, zama ukutshintsha kwaye ube yinto afuna ukuba ube kuyo.
- Ubuhlobo obubuyiselwayo kunye nomntu obathandayo kude, kunzima kunzima, kodwa nanko kukho iingenelo. Makuvumeleke ukuba umntu akubone ixesha elithile, ungaliva ilizwi lakho. Uzama ukutshintsha, zibeke ngokwakho, kakuhle, ngolunye usuku, uzive uzifake, wambiza, thumela i-SMS, ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuba mnandi kakhulu ukuba umfana akhulume nawe aze abone, kakuhle, wenze njalo.