Amantombazana amancinci ahlala ecinga indlela yokuphila ukuhlukana kwinkwenkwe, embona emkhosini. Ewe, kunzima, kodwa kunzima kakhulu kulabo baphoqelelwe ukuba baphile ngokuhlukana rhoqo kumntu othandekayo. Kwimeko enjalo ngabafazi beenqwelo, oomkhumbi kunye nabo bonke abo umsebenzi wabo uquka uhambo olude kunye nohambo olude. Yintoni ongayenza, indlela yokusinda ukuhlukaniswa okude kwintanda yakho? Siza kuzama ukufumana iimpendulo kule mibuzo ngexesha le nqaku.
Ungaphila ukuhlukana kwintanda yakho?
Wonke umntu ofumene kuloo meko uyazi ukuba into enzima kakhulu kukuphila kwiintsuku ezimbalwa zokuqala emva kokuhlukana. Ngokukhawuleza kukho ukungabikho okungaqhelekanga kwipropati, imiqulu yokulangazelela, kunye nalapho ungazi khona. Ukuze ungazivumeli udibanise kwi-existence ye-dreary phambi kokufika komntu othandekayo, kufuneka ubenze ngesandla uze wenze ngokukhawuleza into ethile. Umzekelo, ukukhumbula ngokuzonwabisa kwakho okanye ukufumana enye - unokufumana imisebenzi emininzi enomdla. Ngaphezu koko, umdla olumnandi ngakumbi, ungcono, wena unceda ukuchitha ixesha elingaphezu kwamanye ahlwa, kwaye uhambo lwakho lomyeni aluyilo lokugqibela. Ukongeza kwinto yokuzilibazisa, unokuzibandakanya kunye nelokuba uneminyaka engama-100 egxininisekile-uyinyamekele, kwaye makube yinkqubo ende yesikhathi eside ejolise ekunikeni ukukhangela okukhawulezayo kokufika komntu othandekayo. Fumana ukutya, ubhalise kwiklabhu yezobuchopho, qalisa ukuya echibini okanye ukudansa. Yenza usuku lwakho luxakeke kwaye ixesha leengcinga ezibuhlungu azihlali.
Yaye ke, ukuba kunokwenzeka, ncokola nomthandane wakho, kuba ungacingi ukuba kulula ukuba indoda ingabikho kuwe? Amadoda anako kwaye awakwazi ukuhlukana, njengabasetyhini, nje ngokomoya, kodwa bengenasohlushwa kwengqondo kwaye abakwenzi. Ngoko ke, bhala, biza, thumela kuye isithombe sakho kunye nabantwana, mazise into ocinga ngayo ngaye. Kwaye ungalindelanga ukuba ungazibhali ngokubhala okanye ukubizela ngokuphendula. Akusiyo into yakhe, kodwa ngaloo nto akanakho ixesha lokukwenza.
Kwaye, ngaphezu koko, khumbula ukuba ukuhlukana okwethutyana kwaye okwethutywayo uza kubuya. Kwaye kufuneka ucinge ngentlanganiso emva kokuhlukana, indlela yokuyihlela.
Indlela yokuhlangana nomntu othandekayo emva kokuhlukana?
Intlanganiso emva kokuhlukana ngumcimbi onoxanduva, ngoko ke kuyimfuneko ukuyifumana nayo yonke ingxaki. Masiqale, mhlawumbi, ngokubonakala kwakho. Ewe, indoda yakho iya kuvuyiswa kwaye ikubone emva kweentsuku ezininzi zokuhlukana, kodwa uya kuvuya xa edibana nomfazi ohlambulukileyo nomhle. Ngoko musa uvila kwaye ungabi neentloni phambi kokufika komntu othandekayo ukuba uchithe ixesha lakho ngokwakho - yenza umquba kunye ne-pedicure, i-hairdo, kakuhle, ungayikhohlwa ngengubo. Ungathenga isethi entsha yeengubo zangaphantsi, kwaye ujonge ukuvumba kwakho okuthandayo.
Into elandelayo yokunyamekela yindlu. Yigqokise, cinga ngesidlo esiphundu kunye nesitya sakho somthandayo, kwaye igumbi lokulala kufuneka lilungele ukwamukelwa komntu wakho. Ngokuqhelekileyo, emva kokuhlukaniswa kwexesha elide, umnqweno awukwazi ukuzaliswa kunye kunye ixesha elide, ngoko kulungile ukuba kukho iziphuzo kunye nento enomnandi kwigumbi lokulala.
Kwakhona kubaluleke kakhulu kunye nemizuzu yokuqala emva kwentlanganiso. Amadoda amaninzi ayesaba kukuba ngexesha lokungabikho, lo mfazi wayeka uthando yaye ulindele.
Ewe, ekugqibeleni, ungesabi ukuhlukana, akuhlali ngonaphakade. Mhlawumbi okokuqala kuya kuba nzima kuwe ukuba ufumane ukwahlukana okunjalo-iintlanganiso, kodwa ukuba lo mntu uyithandekayo kuwe, uya kuhlolisisa kwisigqi sobomi, kwaye ukuhlukana akuyi kukukhathaza kakhulu, kwaye ukwesaba ukuba ukwahlukana kuya kutshintsha uthando lwakho, lubulale, Musa. Ewe, ukuhlukana okuncinci kuphazamisa iimvakalelo, kodwa njengomlilo kwintangabi - eziqinileyo zivutha nje. Enyanisweni, ukukhanya okuphelile kuya kuphelisa umoya, kodwa ke kuyafaneleka ukuba uzisole?