Kutheni kwenzeka ukuba namhlanje uyayithanda, kwaye ngomso uyayithiya, kwaye ngokukhawuleza yonke into iyajika? Amandla omthando mkhulu, kodwa inzondo nayo inegunya elinjalo. Iimvakalelo ezinamandla zilawula umhlaba, umntu ubulawa, kwaye umntu ochasene naye uyaqina. Umntu ngamnye ngumntu kwaye iimvakalelo zakhe zihlukile.
Kutheni?
Abantu abaninzi banomdla kulo mbuzo, ungayithanda njani kwaye uyayithiya? Khawucinge ukuba uthandana, le ntliziyo igxininisa yonke iseli yomzimba, ufuna ukunika umntu izinto zonke, ukuba ufuna ukunikela ubomi bakhe ngenxa yakhe. Umphefumlo uvulekile kwaye ulindele ukulungelelanisa, kwaye, ngokukhawuleza, uhlaselwa, iimvakalelo zithengiswa kwaye kwintloko yakho kuphela igama - ndiyayithiya. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, akunakwenzeka ukuba ungabi namdla kwaye abaninzi abantu, nangona kunjalo, baya kuba neentukuthelo, inzondo okanye intukuthelo, okanye bonke ngokukhawuleza. Uthando luvakalelwa ngamandla amakhulu, unika umlingane, kwaye xa lihamba, amandla akakwazi ukuhamba nayo kwaye iyaba yintengiso. Umfazi ngamnye, ngokwenene, umnini kwaye ngenxa yomthandi wakhe ulungele nantoni na, kodwa xa ehamba, ikhefu lakhe alimkhathazi. Ngenxa yoko, umfazi unqwenela into ayithandayo nantoni na, kuba ngoku akayena "ipropati" yakhe kwaye unelungelo lokumthiya.
Ubude obude
Kwaye kufuneka kudlule ixesha elingakanani, zingaphi amanyathelo okufuneka athathwe ukuze abone le nguqulelo? Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba uyamthiya umntu ngomnye umntu ongalungile okanye kufuneka ube yinto epheleleyo yamacala. Mhlawumbi kwindawo ethile emphefumlweni womntu ngamnye unayo iqhosha elisebenza ngexesha elithile kwaye uthando luba yintlondi. Umntu uthandekile ukutshintsha iimvakalelo zakhe kuxhomekeke kwimeko, ngoko uthando lunokuthi lube yintlonkqiso kunye nantoni.
Isizathu
Yintoni emele yenzeke xa umntu obathandayo eba ngumfokazi, obengazivumi nto ngaphandle kwenzondo? Abantu abaye bafumana le nto ebomini banokunika impendulo engqinelana nalo mbuzo: utshintshile, bahlaselwa, baya kwelinye njalo njalo. Kodwa kukho neemeko xa kungekho mpendulo nje, ngoko ndiyayithiya yonke into, kwaye isizathu asiyazi. Okukuphela kwendlela yokuba inzondo, njengothando, ivela ngokufana nale, kwaye ngexesha elingaqinisekanga.
Abantu kuphela abanokuzonda
Zininzi izazinzulu ziye zazibuza ukuba ivela phi inzondo. Uninzi lwezilingo kunye nokuqwalaselwa kwenziwa, kuquka ezo zilwanyana. Ngenxa yoko, kwafunyaniswa ukuba ekuziphatheni kwezilwanyana akukho mvakalelo enjalo, abanako ukutshabalalisa uhlobo lwabo, ongenakukwazi ukuthetha ngabantu. Le meko isenza sicinge ngolu hlobo, kodwa inyaniso kukuba ngaphandle kwenzondo, umntu akanako ukuphila. Kwabaninzi, lilingana nokuhlanjululwa, ukulibala umntu ofuna ukuwuvumela ukuba ube naloo mvakalelo, ukuphosa ngaphandle kwayo yonke into kwaye uyibale. Kuphela ngale ndlela ungaqhubeka nokuphila kwakho kwaye uyayithanda kwakhona
ь.Kwaye ukuba kunjalo?
Ngokuqhelekileyo kukho iimeko xa konke kwenzeka ngokuchaseneyo, ekuqaleni abantu bazondana, kwaye emva kwexeshana babethandana kakhulu. Yiyiphi imbangela yolu tshintsho lwezenzakalo ezingenakuqondakala. Yiloo nto kuphela.
Amandla amakhulu
Iimvakalelo zabantu ziyakwazi okuninzi, ngenxa yokuba abantu bafa, benza izigqibo, uthando luyabakhokelela kwaye lunikeza ubomi. Omnye umntu, unokuthanda into, kwaye enye inokuthiyithiyile kwaye yinto efanayo. Uthando lunika amaphiko, luthiya-amandla. Umntu onothando uyakwazi kakhulu, kodwa uyamthiya ngakumbi. Iimvakalelo ziyanqwenela ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba zibaleke emathangeni abo, yingakho uthando nothando luzalisa ubomi bethu kwaye kuxhomekeke kuthi ngokwethu, kuya kuxolela uthando okanye kutshabalalise inzondo.