Ukunganakwa nokungakhathaleli zizinto ezimbi kakhulu zobomi ba namhlanje. Kungekudala, sisoloko sijongene nale nto, ukuba kuthi le ndlela yokuziphatha yabantu, ngelishwa, iyinto evamile. Phantse yonke imihla ungabona ukungabinandaba kwabantu. Ngaba uye wakha wacinga ukuba ivela phi?
Izizathu zokungakhathaleli
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukungakhathaleli yindlela yokukhusela umntu, inzame yokuvala ukunyaniseka. Umzekelo, ukuba umntu uhlala ehlaziswa okanye ahlazizwe ngamagama atshabalalayo, uya kuzama ukuphepha iimvakalelo ezimbi kwaye akayi kudibana nabanye. Kungenxa yoko umntu uya kuqonda ngokungazenzisiyo ukubonisa ukungabi namdla, ukuze bangamthinti.
Kodwa ngokugqithiseleyo kwexesha, oku kulandelayo kuya kukhula: umntu uya kuba neengxaki zokungakhathaleli kwabantu, kuba ukunganakwa kuya kuba ngumntu ongaphakathi, kungekhona kuphela kuye, kodwa nakwabanye.
Asiyikubulawa yintlonipho, kodwa ngokungakhathaleli kwabantu.
Kutheni ukungathandabuzeki kubulala?
Ukungabi nantlupheko kubulala umntu yonke ubomi, le ntliziyo yintliziyo kunye nokuntula ngokomoya. Ngelo xesha, loo mntu akawuthwali uxanduva lo mkhuba, kwaye oku mhlawumbi kuyinto eyona nto.
Ukunganakwa kubungozi kuba kungancinci kuphuhlise kwimeko yokugula kwengqondo. Izizathu zokuziphatha okungafaniyo kunokusetyenziswa kwexesha elide lwezonyango ze-psychotropic, ukugula kwengqondo, ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi kunye notywala. Kwakhona, ingqalelo yokungakhathaleli inokuvela emva kokuxinezeleka okanye ukutshitshiswa - umzekelo, ukulahlekelwa ngumthandayo. Kwiintsha, inkohlakalo kunye nokunganakwa kungahlakulela ngenxa yokungabikho kwengqalelo kubazali, ngenxa yokungabi nothando, ngenxa yobundlobongela obuvela kwintsapho.
Kwizengqondo, igama elithi alexithymia , ukuziphatha okugqithisileyo komntu, lisetyenziswa. Abantu abanjalo abakwazi ukuqonda iimvakalelo zabo, kwaye abanamdla kwiimvakalelo kunye namava kwabanye abantu. Abazi ukuba inceba nesihe. I-Alexithymia ingaba sisifo sokuhlaselwa kwangasese, kunye nesiphumo sokukhathazeka kwengqondo. Iingcali zenzululwazi zithi ukungazibandakanyeki akunyanga.
Imizekelo yokunganakwa inganikwa uninzi lwabantu. Ukususela kwingxoxo kunye nomkhosi we-Great Patriotic War, uKuklina Innokentiy Ivanovich: "Ndaye ndahamba ngaphaya kwe-Irkutsk. Ngokukhawuleza, ngokukhawuleza, ndaziva ndigula kwaye ndawela phakathi kwesitrato. Kwangexesha elide wonke umntu wandiphephe, ephosa amabinzana athi "nanko umkhulu wam utywala phakathi emini ..". Kodwa ndalwa nabo bantu. Ixesha elibi. "
Sinokuthetha ngokukhawuleza malunga nokungakhathaleli, kwaye oku kusithintela xa imibuzo iphathelele izihlobo zethu. Emva koko intlungu iba nzima kakhulu.
Ukunganakwa kukukhokelela ekutshatyalaliswa kobuntu, kuthintela ubukho bomntu. Ngoko ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukufundisa kakuhle abantwana bakho, abazalwana bakho nabancinane. Kubalulekile ukususela kubuntwaneni ukuba bafundise abantwana abancinci kunye nobubele ukwenzela ukuba babe novelwano kunye nokuxhasa abanye.
Kuhlala kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ngamanye amaxesha umphefumlo womnye umntu unokuxhomekeke ekuziphatheni kwakho, kwaye akunandaba ukuba ungubani - ugqirha, umqhubi okanye umntu owela.