Ngaba uye wakha wakubona ukuba ubomi bakho bonke buphantsi kwesimo esithile sasendle esabhalwa yimihla? Ukuba ewe, ngoko umbuzo wokuqala ukuhlala uphile, ubomi bakho ngokwenene, awuziceli kanye. Ngamanye amaxesha impendulo iyodwa, kodwa kwenzeka ukuba akunakwenzeka ukufumana isisombululo, ubomi buhamba, kwaye siyaqhubeka nokwenza isicwangciso esiqatha "sekhaya-ekhaya", ukuzisa izenzo zayo ngokuzenzekelayo. Umbuso, okwenene, awuyinto enhle, kodwa yonke into ingatshintshwa, kodwa siya kuqwalasela iindlela ezininzi ngoku.
Indlela yokuqala ukuhlala ubomi obupheleleyo?
Kwenzeka ukuba abantu banikela ubomi babo kwishishini okanye umntu (umzekelo, abafazi beengcali kunye neengcali zenzululwazi), kodwa akunakwenzeka nawuphi na ovakalelwa kukuba unengxaki yokungqinelani neemfuno zabo. Kwaye konke ngenxa yokuzikhethela kwabo, bayazimela ngokuzimela kwaye banokuzisola. Kodwa akukho manani amaninzi amanqindi, abaninzi babo bahlala bengenelisekanga izibongo zabo ngenxa yokuba abazi ukuba baqalise njani ukuphila ubomi babo. Cinga malunga nokuba bakhethe ikusasa labo okanye bangaphantsi kwezidingo zabanye abantu: abazali, abahlobo, uluntu. Nabani na umcebisi wakho, akakwazi "ukukukhokela endleleni efanelekileyo," omnye umntu akakwazi ukuqonda into oyifunayo. Ukuba izifiso zakho azihambelani nento yokwenene, zibuze umbuzo othi "Kutheni ndikwenza oku"? Senza sizikholise ngokwenene, oko kuthetha ukuba indlela yokwaneliseka isezandleni zethu: utshintshe umgangatho womsebenzi, uye kwenye idolophu, khangela enye indoda. Musa ukwesaba utshintsho, ngaphandle kwabo, inyaniso ephoxisayo iya kukhupha yonke imikhosi, ingakuvumeli ukuba uzive unomdla wobomi.
Kodwa izigqibo ezinje zikhawulezileyo azimele ziyimfuneko, kubakho imfuneko ukuba uqonde indlela yokuqala ngendlela entsha, kwaye yintoni efunekayo ukuba ifakwe kwindlela yakho yemihla ngemihla. Kwenzeka, yonke into ibonakala iyinto emhle emsebenzini nasemakhaya, kodwa ukuziva ukuba enye inxalenye yobomi iyadlula. Kule meko, ngokuqhelekileyo i-hobby entsha inokwaneleyo, eyongeza imibala emitsha kwiinkxalabo zemihla ngemihla. Kodwa ukuba uqonde indlela yokuqala ukuhlala ngokuthakazelisayo, ngendlela entsha, unokuthi nje wena, umntu ubonakala ekhangelekile ukuthabatha iipuzzle, kwaye umntu uziva ephila ngokwenene, kuphela ukuxhuma ngeparachute. Ukuzilibazisa ukuzisa izibonelelo zangempela, cinga ngezinto ezilahlekileyo ebomini bakho.
Uyonwabile, ukuba ingqondo yethu, imizwa kunye nomzimba uya kuba