Ngaphambi kokuba kuzalwe umntwana, emva kokufunda ubulili bayo, abazali baqala ukufumana izinto zezinga elifanelekileyo lombala baze baxhobisa abantwana. Sonke siyazi ukuba i-pallet pinki yintombazana, kunye neengubo eziluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, i-wheelchair color color for a boy. Ngaloo ndlela, imfundo yesini yomntwana iqala, kwaye uphawu lwesini aluyinto engaphezu kokuthotyelwa komntu nendima yakhe, ebonakalayo kuye kuluntu. Ngamanye amazwi, abafazi, njengabesilisa, bahluke kuphela kwisimo sabo sokugqoka, kodwa nangendlela yabo, imikhwa, ukubukeka, njalonjalo.
Ithini isini?
Makhe siqwalasele ngokubanzi iinkcukacha zesini, iindibano zesini zithetha. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba ubume bobulili bulandelwa ngobunjani bobulili, ukubunjwa kwawo okuchaphazela kuphela ukuphuhliswa komntu, kodwa nangokuziqonda kwakhe.
Ngoko, sele sele sele kwiminyaka emibini, abantwana bayaqonda ukulala kwabo, "Ndiyintombazana, kwaye uyinkwenkwana", kodwa ke, ayikwazi ukuqonda oko kuthetha ukuthini. Ukubukela ihlabathi elikujikelezile, okokuqala, kumalungu entsapho yakhe, abantwana baqeqeshwe ukuhlukanisa ngesondo sabanye abantu abaneempahla abagqoke ngayo, i-stroke.
Xa uneminyaka engama-7, xa umntwana eyazi ngesondo sakhe se-biological, iinkalo zesini ziqala ukubonakala kuye. Ukongezelela, ngexesha le-adolescence, ubume bobulili lukhula ngokubonakalayo, lubonakaliswe kwiinguqu zomzimba, ukutshatyalaliswa, zonke iintlobo zamava okuthandana. Ukongezelela, umntu omncinci ubonakalisa indima yakhe yesini, ukuqonda iindlela zokuziphatha, ukwakha umlingiswa ngokuhambelana neengcamango zoluntu olujikelezayo. Ngako oko, amantombazana aqala ukuzama ngokuzenzekelayo, abathanda ukuthanda isini esahlukileyo, abafana, baqala ukuxelisa abalinganiswa babo abathandayo kwiifilimu, bezama ukwenza utshintsho kwindlela yabo yokubonakala.
Ngokuthe ngcembe, bobabini besini babonisa iimpawu zesini, intlalo, intlalo ebonakalayo kwisiseko semfundo. Ngamanye amazwi, ukuba iimpawu zesini ziyakhutshwa ngokufanelekileyo, ngoko ubulili bukhona kuphela engqondweni yomntu.
Ukwahluka kwesini phakathi kwesini
Ngokuqhelekileyo bakholelwa ukuba abafazi bahlala bebagcini bendlu, unina ochitha ubomi bakhe bonke ekuzalweni nasekukhulisweni kwabantwana, ngelixa amadoda angabasebenzi bemvelo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba babe ngabommeleyo abazimeleyo kunye nempumelelo yabantu. Enyanisweni, ukujonga uluntu lwangoku, uyaqonda ukuba abantu abasondelene nabo badibanisa zombini iimpawu zesintu kunye neentombi.
Enyanisweni, oku akumangalisi. Kwengqondo, le nto ibhekiselwa kuyo njengendlela yokudibanisa impawu kunye namadoda. Kwezinye, zivela kwisixa esifanayo, kukho ukulinganisela okuthile kwezi mpawu, kunye nomntu olawulwa kuphela ngumfazi okanye umfana.
Iinkalo zesintu kunye namadoda, ukungafani ngokwesini akubonakali nje ekuphatheni, kwisimo sengqondo, kwizinto ezithandwayo, kodwa nakwixabiso . Into ebangel 'umdla kukuba ukubhekiseleka ngakumbi kwezi zixhobo, ukuguquguquka komgangatho womntu. Kwaye oku kuphakamisa ukuba umntu onjalo unokukwazi ukuzivumelanisa nezimo zobomi ezintsha, kwaye impilo yengqondo iya kuba namandla kunabo abangenayo. Ukuqala kulolu lwazi, iingcali zengqondo zincoma ukuba zingabikho ukufundisa umntwana ngokusemgangathweni, kungekho ukunyanzelisa iindibano zobomi zesini, ezifana "Musa ukukhala, awuyintombazane", "Uyi-princess, ngoko kufuneka ube yincinci."