Umbi ngumdlali, ongakhathazeki malunga nokusebenza. Lo mzekeliso awunelanga kuphela kubameli bezakhono zikawonkewonke, kodwa nakubantu beminyaka yonke, iintlobo zobuntu kunye nabalinganiswa. Akunandaba nokuba ungumntu oqinileyo okanye unomsindo omuhle, ebomini kukho ixesha elinjalo apho inkokhelo engabonelelwa khona. Kwaye ukuba sele usesimweni esinjalo, oku akuthethi ukuba uloyiko aluyi kukubamba, uphinda kwakhona. Yingakho kubalulekile ukwazi indlela yokulahla ixesha lokuzonwabisa kunye nokuzibandakanya.
Ungakuphepha njani uvuyo?
Kwiimeko ezininzi, uvakalelo luvuyo lubangelwa ukwesaba. Ukunyameka nokungaqiniseki kukuthintela umntu ekutyhileni ngokupheleleyo amandla akhe kunye nokwenzeka. Isiphumo, njengommiselo, ukungoneleliseki ngobomi, ukuxeka abanye ngezinye iintsilelo kunye nokudandatheka. Kwangaphi na ukwesaba ukuthetha koluntu, ukuxubha ekuhloliseni okanye ukunyamezela ngethuba ludliwano-ndlebe kwadlala indima ebulalayo kwaye umntu wayenalo ilungelo lokubonisa ubungqina bakhe bokwenene, izakhono kunye neetalente? Imizekelo enjalo ifunyanwa kwinqanaba ngalinye. Yingakho ukwazi oko kufuneka uyenze xa uxhalabisayo lunokwenza umntu abe nethemba ngakumbi, kodwa nokuba nefuthe elikhulu kwindlela ubomi obuya kukhula ngayo.
Konke ukwesaba kwethu kupheliswa lula ngokuncedisa iindlela ezizodwa kunye nokuzilolonga. Makhe siqwalasele ngokucacileyo ukuba sisususe njani uvuyo kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo:
1. Unokuyithintela njani injabulo ngaphambi kokusebenza? Lo mbandela awufanelekanga kuphela kumanani karhulumente, kodwa nakwabo baqala ukudibana nabaphulaphuli:
- Ukuba sele sele uvele emva kweembononongo, jonga abantu abahleli ehholo. Zama ukucinga ukuba ngamnye wabo kunye noloyiko lokuba uya kuhamba ngesigaba. Kwaye abananto yokuthetha. Kwaye unolwazi kubo olunokuba luncedo kwaye luncedo. Ukuzithemba okulula kunokukunceda ukuba ukhule emehlweni akho kwaye uzive ubaluleka. Emva koko uloyiko luya kuba lucala;
- ukuba usususe njani umonakalo, ukuba ngelixa uqala ukuthetha, ungenayo umoya owaneleyo, zama ukuthatha umoya ophefumlelweyo kwaye uphumelele ngamaxesha amaninzi phambi kwentetho elandelayo. Umoya ekuphefumlelweni kufuneka uzalise ngokupheleleyo imiphunga, kwaye ekuphumeni ngaphandle kwintsimi yokuphuma emiphakeni. Ungaphinda uqhube nge-nostril enye, uphumelele kwenye. Ukugxininisa ekuphefumlweni kwakho kuya kukunceda ulahlekise iingcamango ezingalunganga kunye ezinomdla;
- kuba ukujamelana nokuxhalaba kuvame ukuphazamiseka kwinqanaba lokunyuka kwe-adrenaline egazini, kufuneka uncede umzimba ukuwuqwalasela ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba ngethuba le ntliziyo intliziyo "ayiyikuphuma" esifuba, okanye ingagqitywa ngamatye kwaye "ingqungquthela engazange igubungele" kufuneka uyenze umzimba. Ngokomzekelo, yenza i-sit-ups, ugijime okanye amaxesha amaninzi ukuze uphume. Ukuba oku akunakwenzeka, sebenze ngokubambisana nesibonakaliso sobuso kuya kunceda. Yakha ubuso obuninzi kunye nama-grimaces, ukunyanzelisa izihlunu zobuso ukuba zisebenze.
2. Ungasusa njani umonakalo phambi kokuvavanya, ukuxoxisana okanye udliwano-ndlebe? Zonke iimeko zontathu zifana, ngoko ke, ukongeza kwezi ndlela zingentla, ungazama nokuphucula ukuzithemba ekuphenduleni imibuzo enzima:
- Zama ukuqonda oko kubangela ukuba ukwesaba nokuqina kuwe. Ukuba ngaba udliwano-ndlebe okanye uvavanyo, ubuninzi bexesha loyikayo ludibaniswa nokoyiko lokuthetha ububudenge, ukuzityhila ngokungazi kakuhle kwaye ukhangeleke kakhulu ngexesha elifanayo;
- njani ukunqoba umonakalo, ukuba sele sele unqume oko kukwayikisayo? Cinga ngokuziphatha kwakho kwangaphambili! Kuwuphi na umbuzo onobuqhetseba kufuneka ube nehlaya kwindawo egcinwe kuyo, umbuzo wempendulo okanye nje ukumomotheka emsebenzini. Into ephambili ayikuthi ithule kwaye ungesabi ukuthetha into engalunganga.
Khumbula ukuba akufanele uyenze imeko enomdla njengoko ubomi bakho buxhomekeke kuyo. Awuyi kuba khona ukuba ungadlulanga olu vavanyo okanye ufumane lo msebenzi. Shintsha isimo sengqondo sakho sokwesaba. Yiya kubo ukuze udibana kwaye uya kuqiniseka ukuba akukho nto iyingozi okanye eyingozi iya kwenzeka.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba imeko ivela phi, uya kukwazi ukuba yintoni omele ukwenze xa unomdla oqinileyo. Ukuze uzikhusele ngakumbi, ungaba uvila ukuqeqesha ekhaya: ukuhluma phambi kwesibuko, ukuzithobela phambi kwabaphulaphuli, ukuqeqesha amagama akho abalulekileyo oya kuthetha ngalo ngodliwano-ndlebe. Ingubo enjalo yokuzihlaziya iya kukufundisa ukuba uqondise umzimba wakho, isenzo kunye nesimo sombuso. Kwimeko yangempela, umzimba wakho uya kukhunjulwa ukuba kufuneka uziphatha njani kwaye unika ithemba, oko kuthetha ukuba umbuzo wendlela yokuwunqoba umonakalo awuyi kuba lufanelekileyo kuwe.