Yintoni enokuthi ibe ngamanqaku angcono athatyathwe kwindoda? Ukususela kubungqina obunqabileyo bokungaphepheki kwayo akunakuze kushiywe! Kodwa kulungile ukuba uqaphele ngumntu onobuqili, ngeendlela ezintle kunye nokuhleka kwehlazo. Emva koko unokuhamba ngokuphepha kunye naye ngosuku kwaye uzive uthanda njengendlovukazi. Kodwa uqeqesho lubonisa ukuba, njengengoma, kukho enye indoda enjalo kumantombazana angama-9. Kwaye uninzi lwabo bafumana endleleni yokuphila, kungekhona ukuba awufuni ukuchitha ixesha, kodwa kunzima ukuzifumana ekhaya. Ngoko indlela yokwenza umntu ohloniphekileyo, kodwa osebenzayo? Lo mbuzo uye waba njalo kwaye uya kuba nokufanelekileyo kumantombazana amaninzi, ngoko sicebisa ukuba sicinge ngeendlela eziliqela zokuqala kunye nezindlela ezilula zokukhupha isithandwa esicasulayo.
Indlela yokukrazula inkwenkwe ecasulayo?
Akunandaba nokuba kuphi, kwaye ngaluphi ixesha ohlaselwa ngayo ngendlela yomntu ongeyena. Mhlawumbi sele uyayazi kumava ukuba naphi apho ukhona khona, uya kufumana ikhwelo yakhe, ukutyelela kunye neememo zokuya kwindawo ethile. Njengomthetho, iindlela eziqhelekileyo zokumlahla umntu ngohlobo lwezicelo zokushiya wedwa, uqinisekisa ukuba sele usenomfana okanye uxakekile, unganiki umphumo. Kodwa zikho iindlela ezili-10 ezongezelelweyo zokumlahla loo nto ukuze yena ngokwakhe angafuni ukujongana nawe. Cinga ngabo:
- Yiba ngexesha elithile. Akunabo bonke abafana abanemoto enezindlu. Yaye ukuhlawula iindleko zokubiza, unike i-bryliki kwaye uqhube kwiindawo zokutyela ezilungele ukulungele kwaye wenze iiyunithi.
- Zizenza ngathi ulwazi lwakho luqala kuqala. Yizisa incwadi engenangqondo kunye nawe kwaye ungayikukuphazamisa ingxoxo engenanto kunye nazo zonke iintlobo zokuhamba. Kwaye amadoda anenkani kakhulu akakwazi ukujamelana nomncintiswano ngendlela yeKant okanye iGoethe.
- Umzekelo weklasi wokuthi amantombazana alahla njani abafana ngabahlaziyi. Akukho mntu akanako ukumelana neinyembezi zeentombi kunye neenkwenkwezi ngaphandle kwesizathu ixesha elide. Umsebenzi wakho kukubonisa ukunganeliseki rhoqo kangangoko kunokwenzeka ngale ndlela. Ungesabi ukuhlaselwa. Emva kweemboniso ezimbalwa, awuyi kufuna ukungena kumntu okhukisayo kuphela, kodwa onke amangqina anjalo kumakhohlisi akho.
- Ukuba awuyazi indlela yokulahla umntu owayengumntu, kufuneka umxelele ukuba awufanelanga "umntu onobuqili". Ukwakha ukukhathazeka kwendalo yonke kunye ne-detachment evela kwihlabathi, kubonisa ukungathembeki nokuxinezeleka. Cacisa ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuhlala nawe, kwaye loo mfana omhle ufanelwe intombazana yokwenene, kungekhona wena nomntu wakho onobukrakra, ubuxoki obungapheliyo kunye nezinyembezi kunye nezikhalazo ngobomi. Nangona ekhetha ukuba "utshintshile" kwaye akuvuyise, emva kweeveki ezimbalwa 'zokugcoba' kunye 'nokugcoba' amathambo akhe akakwazi ukuma.
- Ukuba unobungqina bokulwa kunye nokulwa, ke kuwe, isisombululo esipheleleyo kumbuzo wokukhupha ngaphandle kwenkwenkwe ebomnkqisayo yobomi. Mhlawumbi sele ufumene inqwaba yobuthathaka kunye nokungaphumeleli. Bahleka ngabo, kwaye ngokukhethekileyo ebusweni balaba bafana nabo. "U-run-around" ukuza kuba nesidima, iipods eziqhubekayo kunye nokuhleka usulu kungekhona wonke umntu oya kumela.
- Yenza sengathi uxakeke kakhulu ukugcina ihlabathi. Ngokomzekelo, ungathetha ngokukhawuleza malunga nokunyuka kweenwele zobunzima, izilwanyana ezinqabileyo eziselunxwemeni lwe-Volga okanye i-penguins ezisongelayo. Ingaphezulu kwesahlulo sabahloli bazama ukuhlala phantsi emva kwebali lokuqala ngokubaluleka komsebenzi wakho kweli hlabathi.
- Ungamlahla njani umfana ngoncedo lwakhe? Ewe, eyokuqala!
Akukho mmele wesondo oqinileyo onokunyamezela ukudlala ngothando nabantu bonke. Khawucinge ukuba uya kuziva njani xa yonke ingqalelo yakho iphendulelwe kubafana abaninzi. Akunandaba nokuba ucinga ngani. Into ephambili kukuba umphumo oyifunayo uya kufezwa. - Ukuthandwa kwabasetyhini umsebenzi - ingxoxo. Ukuhlala ephazamisa umxhasi wakhe ngegama elingenanto, amabali angathandekiyo kunye "nokukhupha ingqondo" ngamabhinqa afuna ukuphefumula umphefumlo, uya kukhawuleza kwaye ufezekise oko ufuna.
- Ukungaqiniseki ngenye indlela enhle yokukhupha umfana onyantsiweyo ebomini bakho. Thelekisa ngayo kunye nabahlobo kunye nezihlobo. Vumela sonke isidima sakhe sibe sisiphazamiso, amakhwenkwe amantombazana aya kuhlala engcono, kwaye ubonisa ukuba awukholelwa ekunyanisekeni kwakhe, ukuthembeka, ngamandla akhe, kwaye ngokwenene kwindoda engumntu. Kwangexesha elide umthelela onjalo kunye "nodaka oludakayo" akukho mfana oqhelekileyo akayi kuhlupheka.
Kwaye ekugqibeleni, iibinzana eziphambili ezimele ziphendulwe ngabafana abagqithisileyo abanomdla wokuthetha nawe:
Yena: Asizange sihlangane ngaphambili?
Yena: Mhlawumbi, ndisebenza kwi-registry ye-vendispanser.
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Yena: Ndicinga ukuba ndikubone kwindawo ethile?
Uthi: Ewe, kwaye yimi ke andiyi kuphinda ndihambe khona.
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Yena: Ngaba le ndawo ikhululekile?
Yena: Ewe, kunye nam kuya kukhululeka, ukuba uhlala phantsi.
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Yena: Ngaba siya kuwe okanye uza kum?
Yena: Kanyekanye. Wena-wena, kwaye-kum.
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Yena: Ngoko, uthini ubomi?
Yena: Ndingumthengisi.
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Yena: Wazalelwa ngaphantsi komqondiso onjani?
Yena: Akukho mnyango.
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Yena: Nguyiphi amaqanda oyithandayo ekuseni kusasa?
Yena: Musa ukungabonakali!
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Yena: Hamba, wena! Yintoni omele uyifihle, ulapha kule club ngenxa yesizathu esifanayo sokuba ndi ...
Yena: Ngokwenene? Ukudubula izilwanyana?
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Yena: Ndilapha ukuze ndibe neengcamango zakho ezintle!
Yena: Uthi unayo ibhokhwe kunye nomalusi waseJamani?
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Yena: Ngenxa yakho, ndiya kufikelela ekupheleni kwehlabathi ...
Yena: Ewe, kodwa uhlala khona?
Yaye ukhumbule, inkululeko yakho yesikhokelo kwizinto ezixhasayo zixhomekeke kuphela kwiinkalipho kunye nobuchule.