Ungamthabatha njani indoda?

Abasetyhini iminyaka bekulwela umbuzo wendlela yokudweba indoda. Nangona kubakho abantu abayizigidi ezili-6 emhlabeni, phakathi kwabo, ngamanye amaxesha, okufunekayo, apho unonwabo luyenzeka khona, aluwa. Siza kuqwalasela inkqubo echaza indlela yokudweba umntu wamaphupha akhe ebomini bakhe, usebenzisa ingcinga yakhe.

Isigaba esisodwa: injongo ecacileyo

Ngaphambi kokuba uthathe ingqondo kumntu, kufuneka uqikelele oko kufanele ukuba. Akukho mntu owaziyo kunye nawe ngokwakho. Cinga, nguwuphi na umntu onokuphila? Yiyiphi impawu umntu ayenayo, ukuze ungabi nasiphi na isizathu sokuxabana nokungaqondani? Ukuba unamanye okuthandayo, nabo kufuneka baqwalaselwe.

Indlela elula kakhulu yokurekhoda ulwazi kukukwenza kube lula ukusebenza kunye nekamva. Thatha icwecwe lephepha okanye uvule umhleli wombhalo, uze ubhale ezi zinto zilandelayo:

1. Ukubonakala kwebonakalayo (ngokukhawuleza, khankanya kuphela into ebalulekileyo kuwe - umzekelo, ukuba yayiphezulu kunewe, njl.).
2. Uhlobo lwesimo (i-choleric, sanguine, i-phlegmatic okanye i-melancholic). Ziyindlela edibeneyo yokunceda abantu bathethe ngokufanelekileyo kwaye baqonde.
3. Impawu zobuntu (ukuhleka, ukupha, ububele, njl. - yonke into ebalulekileyo kuwe).
4. Umzekelo wokuzilibazisa (kufuneka udibene neyakho).
5. Ngokwahlukileyo ubonise isimo sengqondo kotywala, ugwayi kunye neminye imikhwa emibi.

Ngoku ubona umfanekiso ophezulu kakhulu womntu phambi kwakho, kwaye ukuba ucinga ngako, unokuqiqa ukuba ingafumaneka phi.

Inyathelo lesibini: njani ukutsala umntu ofanelekileyo?

Ngoko, uyazi ukuba ufuna umntu onjani kwaye mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba ungamhlangabeza. Ngoku into eyona nto iyenzayo isenzo!

1. Bhalisa kwiindawo zokuthandana kwaye uthethe khona kuphela nalabo bahambelana ngokucacileyo kuwo onke amanqaku kunye neengcinga zakho malunga nomntu ofanelekileyo. Lahla abo ba bonise ukuba awufanelanga.
2. Ukutyelela ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwisitalato, kwiivenkile, kwiindawo zoluntu, kwimiboniso, njl njl. Ngokuvisisanayo, kulula ukumazi umntu xa abantu beenxa zonke kuwe, kunokuba uhlala ekhaya.
3. Yiya kumaqela anobungane, imihla yokuzalwa kunye nezinye iiholide - ngokuqhelekileyo le ndlela abantu abalawula ngayo ukuhlangabezana neendwendwe zabo.

Into eyona nto kukusebenzisa onke amathuba ukuba uqhelane nomntu ofanelekileyo kwaye ngokukhawuleza uyayinqumla ukhetho olungenakulungile ngaphandle kwesithunzi sokuzisola.

Inyathelo lesithathu: indlela yokudweba umntu othile?

Ukuba ebudeni bomsebenzi wakho oqhwithelayo udibene nomntu obonakala ngathi ungumlingani ofanelekileyo kuwe, musa ukukhawuleza ukumkholisa ngale ndaba. Qaphela kwaye ugcine imida efanelekileyo.

1. Amadoda ngokwemvelo ngabazingeli, kwaye ukunyaniseka kwakho kunokushenxisa. Musa ukukhawuleza izinto.
2. Zama ukuthetha ngakumbi ngaye ngexesha leenkcukacha kunye nokutyelela: uya kukhathalela umdla wakho, kwaye uya kuba luncedo ukufunda okungakumbi ngaye kwaye ufumane, ingaba kukufanelekile.
3. Ungathethi ukuba ufuna ukhathazeka intsapho kunye nabantwana, kwinqanaba lokuqala kunokusongela umntu. Ukuba lo mbuzo unzima kuwe-unobtrusively ufumanisa ukuba uhambelana njani nale.
4. Musa ukuthoba, ukuthetha ngokulula kwaye nangendlela enobungane ekuqaleni. Ukunxibelelana okuthembekileyo kukuvumela ukuba ufumane ngokukhawuleza umntu.
5. Yiba nomhle kuyo yonke intlanganiso, mxelele ngezakhono zakho kunye nemilinganiselo - kodwa kungekhona isicatshulwa ngqo, kodwa, njengoko kunjalo, "kwigama."

Ukugcina umgama, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo, ukucwangcisa unxibelelwano olumnandi, uyayifaka lula umntu kwaye umenze unomdla. Into ephambili kukuba angenakunyaniseka kwaye anomdla emehlweni akhe!