Uthando ngenye yeemvakalelo ezinzima kakhulu. Yenza ukuba uhlupheke, usizi, ukuphazamiseka kunye namava. Kodwa ngokubulela kulo mvakalelo umntu uphila kwaye uyavuya. Uthando lukhuthaza abantu kwizenzo eziphezulu, kubangela umnqweno wokuzidela kunye nokuhlala kulonwabo lomnye umntu.
Izibalo zithi ngomyinge, umntu uthandana ngokumalunga namaxesha amathathu. Nangona kunjalo, ukuqonda ukuba uyabathanda, akakwazi ukukhawuleza. Ngelo xesha, ngenxa yothando ungathatha ezinye iimvakalelo: ubuhlobo, uthando, isithandwa. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu abatsha banxulumanisa ubomi babo ngomtshato, becinga ukuba bathandana. Kodwa emva kwexesha elifutshane bayaqonda ukuba baphuthuma ngesigqibo sabo, bathatha inzame ehluke ngokupheleleyo yothando.
Uyazi njani ukuba uyamthanda umntu?
Uninzi lwabantu lubheka uthando oluvakalelwa ngomnye umntu. Ukuba awukwazi ukulala ngokuthula, yenza izinto zemihla ngemihla, ukuba umfanekiso womnye umntu uhlala phambi kwamehlo akho, ngoko ke abaninzi baya kuthiwa uthando. Nangona kunjalo, abo bazibuza ukuba baqonde njani, nokuba bayayithanda, baya kulungile. Imvakalelo enamandla, ekhokelela ekulahlekelweni kokulawulwa kwabo ngokwabo, ayisoloko inxulumene nothando lokwenene.
Unokwazi ukubona izinto ezifana nendlela yokuqonda ukuba olu luthando lokwenene:
- Uziva uvelwano olunzulu kumntu wesini esahlukileyo, ukhetha ukunxibelelana naye ukuthetha nomnye umntu.
- Unqwenela ukuba kunye kunye noluntu, ungavali kwilizwe langaphandle.
- Unomdla wokuqonda, ufunda iimpawu zendalo kunye nemikhwa.
- Ufuna ukuba nomhlobo wakho.
- Umntu ongathandekiyo, ungakholelwa ukuba wonke umntu unempawu ezilungileyo kunye nezimbi.
- Ufuna ukwenza umntu onoyolo kwaye ulungele ukwenza imizamo ethile kule nto.
- Uziva uvelwano ixesha elide.
Abantu abaninzi bafuna ukuqonda oko uvakalelwa xa uthanda umntu. Nangona kunjalo, iimvakalelo azisoloko zilucebisi olungileyo. Isibonakaliso sobukho bobubele asiyiyo imvakalelo, kodwa izenzo. Ngothando nangomnqweno zonke izenzo zenzelwe ukufumana, kunye nokunika uthando lokwenene. Uthando luya kubangela ukuba umntu abe nolonwabo, kwaye ukuthanda kunye nothando kuya kubhekiselwa ekuziphatheni ngokuzenzekelayo.
Indlela yokuqonda - uthando okanye uvelwano?
Uthando novelwano lubahluko obuninzi, kodwa isalathisi esichukumisayo kakhulu ixesha. Imfesane, njengokuthandana, akuhlali ixesha elide. Uthando luvela kuvelwano kwaye luba yintswelo eqhubekayo. Iingcali zengqondo, abalobi, abenzi befilimu baphikisana malunga nokuba kukho uthando ekuqaleni. Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba ekuboneni uvelwano kuqala kunokukhula, kodwa kungekhona uthando.
Imfesane ayiyonto, kwaye ngothando, umntu ufuna ukuqonda nokufunda othandekayo, ukuba abe naye, ukumnceda.
Uyakuqonda njani ukuba lo luthando lokwenene?
Kuze kube ngoku, akukho zixhobo ezikhethekileyo eziye zaza zavumela ukuba sinqume inyaniso yothando. Kwaye ekubeni zonke iimvakalelo neemvavanyo zomntu zizithoba, akusoloko kulula ukuzimisela uthando lokwenene.
Uhlobo oluthile lokuvavanywa koluthando lushishino. Umntu onothando uya kuzama ukwenza ubomi obathandayo bube bhetele. Yaye kunye nokuthanda okanye uvelwano kuya kuzama ukwanelisa umnqweno kunye nokufezekisa iimfuno zakhe. Ngokomzekelo, intombazana ethandwayo ifika kwintombazana esesibhedlele ize imhubele ingoma phantsi kwewindow. Kwaye umntu owamthanda ngobuqotho uya kuzisa isiqhamo, isidlo sasemini kunye nemithi efunekayo.
Xa uthanda umntu ngokwenene, uqala ukuphila ubomi bakhe, uzama ukwenza kube lula kwaye kulungile.