Kwenzeka ukuba ubudlelwane obude obubonakalayo obuhlala phakathi kwintombazana kunye nomfana kwinqanaba elinye lingahle liphele, ngokukhawuleza lwenzeka ngokukhawuleza, kwaye le ntokazi ayinayo ixesha lokuqonda kwinqanaba elithandwayo. Nangona kunjalo, into ebaluleke kakhulu xa umntu ebika ukuba uhamba, kodwa uyaqonda ukuba uyamthanda kwaye awuyazi indlela oya kuhlala ngayo ngaphandle komntu osele uyithandekile kuwe. Abaninzi kakhulu abasetyhini bajongene neengcambu, abazi ukuba benzani kunye nendlela yokuziphatha xa umntu ephosa. Ngoko makhe sizame ukuqonda le micimbi kwaye sifumane ukuba yiziphi iingcebiso zengqondo zengqondo ezinika loo mantombazana ayenayo.
Ungabuyisela njani umfana owakhuphayo?
Musa ukuchitha iintsuku ekhala emlonyeni kwaye uzixolise, ngenxa yokuba iimeko ezininzi, intombazana ngokwazo ityala, ukuba intanda yakhe yamshiya. Kwi-arsenal yamabhinqa kukho izinto ezinokwaneleyo ezinokukunceda ukubuyela kumntu, kodwa ngaphambi kokuba wenze okuthile, kufuneka uphazamiseke, kwaye intanda yakho kufuneka inike ixesha elide ngaphandle kwakho. Ngoko ke, kuqala thola isifundo kuwe, yenza imidlalo, ukubonakala kwakho, uye kuphumla. Zama ukukhumbuza umthandi wakho nganoma yiphi na indlela, kuba mhlawumbi uya kuqala ukuziva uncedo kuwe, eyazi ukuba wenza into engalunganga. Nangona kunjalo, musa ukunyuswa, kuba umntu angasetyenziselwa ukuba aphile ngaphandle kwakho okanye ufumane ukuthanda kancinci ngakumbi.
Ngoko, emva kokuphulaphula isiluleko esithile kwiingqondo zengqondo, uya kuqonda indlela onokubuyisela ngayo umfana owakhuphayo:
- Zama ukuqonda ukuba kutheni ulwalamano lwakho luyekile. Mhlawumbi umntu wayenesikhalazo malunga nokuziphatha kwakho, wayekhathele ukunyamezela kwakho, amahlazo, njl njl, ngoko uzame ukutshintsha, kholwani mna, indoda yakho iya kuyixabisa kwikamva.
- Emva kwenyanga okanye ezimbini, biza umfana kwaye ucele enye inkonzo encinci, umzekelo, ukuzisa ifenitshala ethengiweyo, njl., Uthetha naye njengomhlobo uze uzame ukunikela ngenjongo yakho yangempela.
- Ukuba intlanganiso yakho yenzeka, musa ukukhumbula into eyenzekayo kwaye ungabonakali ukucaphuka kwakho. Yiba nolonwabo kwaye unobtrusive, nangona amabhinqa "amaqhinga" apha akuyi kuba yingozi, ngokukhawuleza uthinte isandla sakho, ukhangelelwano oluqhelekileyo, njl njl.
- Iintlanganiso ezikhethiweyo kunye nomthandi wakho ziya kunceda ukuba unomdla kwakhona. Ukwenza usuku luye lwashiyeka (ngokuqinisekileyo, kumntu, kuba ukusuka kwicala lakho kufuneka lilungiselelwe kwaye ucinge), tyelela kwiindawo apho umfana eqhubeka khona. Kodwa ungayithathi ekhanda lakhe ukuyiphishekela kwaye kaninzi ufike phambili, mhlawumbi umntu uya "kubona" kuwe.
Ungabuyisela njani inkwenkwe eyakukhanda ngoncedo lomthandazo?
Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, awukwazi ukubuyisela intanda, kwaye ukubandezeleka kwakho akuyeki, ngoko kufuneka uphendukele kuThixo, mhlawumbi uya kuviwa kwaye intanda yakho iya kuba nawe kwakhona. Ngoko, imihla ngemihla, kusasa okanye ebusuku ngaphambi kokuba ulale, thandaza umthandazo olandelayo, kodwa khumbula, into ebaluleke kakhulu apha inyaniso: "Nkosi uYesu Kristu, Nyana kaThixo. Yiba nenceba uze ulethe isisu kunye ne-beech. Kholwa kwintando yam ethembekileyo kwaye ungabi nomsindo ngesicelo sam esifayo. Buyisela kum yintanda yama-Orthodoxy oyintandane kwaye undihlangule ekuhluphekeni kwengqondo. Masihambe ngokukhawuleza abuyele,
Ungabuyisela njani umfana owakhupha ngecebo?
Kukho enye indlela ongayifumana ngayo ukuba ubuyele kumntu othandekayo, oku kuluqhinga . Nangona kunjalo, ngaphambi kokuba uqale isiko lomlingo, kufuneka ucinge ngenyameko, kuba nayiphina impembelelo ineempembelelo, ezisoloko zingamnandi, ukuba zibeke ngokuthobeka. Ngoko, thatha isitulo uze uyijikeleze, ubeke indebe yetiyi kuwo, uthele ityuwa apho, uthi: "Amanzi aya kushiya, aya kuba omile. Njengoko ufuna ukusela, uza kuza kum . " Emva kokuba itiye ikhuphuke kwindebe, yishiye ilanga uze ulindele ukubuyela komntu othandayo.