Ukuba ufunda le nqaku, ngoko, mhlawumbi, into eyona nto yenzekile - uyiphonsa othandekayo. Kwaye ngoku uphelelwe yithemba ukuzama ukuqonda: "Yintoni enokuyenza xa loo mntu ephosa?" "Ndingamkhohlwa njani kwaye ndiphile?" Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, "Ngaba abafana ababuyelayo baphosa?"
Ukuqala, uphinde uphendule uphendlo lweempendulo kule mibuzo ngexesha elizayo uze uziphephe kwiimvakalelo. Ngaba ufuna ukukhala? Bhala! Ufuna ukumemeza? Meme! Mema intombi ekhethekileyo ukutyelela kunye neglasi yewayini okanye indebe yetiyi xelela ibali lakho. Musa ukufihla imvakalelo yakho, umxelele yonke into, njengoko kunjalo - ukuba ulwaphukileyo, ulimele, kwaye awukwazi ukuba wenze ntoni ngokulandelayo. Khumbula zonke iimpawu ezimbi kunye ezilungileyo zomdlalo wakho okhethiweyo, ixesha elikhunjulwayo kwiintlanganiso zakho. Kule meko, umgaqo wengqondo "Intlungu entlungu sele isele isiqingatha intlungu" isebenza ngokugqibeleleyo, ngoko ke akukho nto ingqiqweni ekuzibonakalisa "ingqondo epholileyo" - iya kuba yingozi kakhulu.
Ukuba loo mntu ulahlekile kwaye unobungozi kakhulu, thabatha iholide encinane kwiindleko zakho emsebenzini okanye uthathe iintsuku ezimbalwa esikolweni. Nangona kunjalo, zama ukunikela ixesha elikhululekile lokungabi nzobizo phezu kwesithombe okanye ukuthululela intlungu ngotywala (nangona, kunokwenzeka ukusebenzisa izilingo ezifanelekileyo), kodwa ukulala. Ngaloo mihla zama ukulala ngangokunokwenzeka, ngexesha lokulala isistim se-nervous rests, esenza ukuba kube lula ukubheka iziganeko ezenzekayo.
Ukongezelela, into yokuqala yokuyenza xa umntu ephosa ukuzama ukudala izizathu ezininzi zeemvakalelo ezintle njengoko kunokwenzeka. Ngokomzekelo, hamba ukuthenga kunye nentombi. Ukuba ungenayo imali yokuthenga ngokubanzi, fumana nje izinto ezimbalwa ezintle zokuzonwabisa kwakho: ityuwa yokunambitheka, i-CD ene-albhamu yomculi oyintandokazi, i-kilogram yamaqebelengwane okanye i-tile enkulu yetshokolethi emnyama.
Kwakhona, andifanele ndiphinda ndibuyele kule nto, andifanele ndizenzele ukufunyanwa kwaye ndizame ukuphendula imibuzo "Kutheni abafana behamba nam?" Kwaye "Ndihlala ndiphonswa ngabafana, ngaba kukho into engafanelekanga kum?". Okokuqala, awunakwenzeka ukufumana impendulo engafanelekanga, kwaye, okwesibini, kunzima ukuqiqa "imizwa" ngokuchanekileyo. Endaweni yoko, zama, cima ingqalelo yonke into odibene nayo nolwalamano lwangaphambili. Fihla okanye ulahle yonke iifoto zomthandi wakho wangaphambili, ubuyisele zonke izinto zakhe, izipho, kwaye uzikhuphe ngaphandle kokufikelela (akudingeki uzibuyisele). Thatha ixesha lakho lokukhulula ngento enomdla: bhalisela isangqa, hamba nomhlobo kwi-premiere yefilimu, qulunqa umdlalo omtsha. Njengoko akunjalo, kuya kunceda ukulwa nokudakumba ngokubukela imiboniso yeTV nokufunda iveliveli zamabhinqa, ngoko ungayihoyi le ndlela yokwenza unyango.
Okubi kakhulu imeko xa umfana eshiya emva kwesondo sokuqala. Kwimeko apho intombazana inokuziva ingagcini nje kuphela, kodwa ihlaziswa, kubonakala ngathi yayisetyenziswa nje. Ukuba unendima yexhoba elinjalo, okokuqala, uyeke ukuzigxeka kwaye uqaphele ukuba loo nto, i-alas, iyenzeka rhoqo. Kwaye akunjalo ukuba awuzange ube nolwazi olunokwaneleyo okanye ukufumana ngokwaneleyo kwimicimbi yothando, kwaye akukho nto enokuyenza ngayo, kunye nobukhulu bakho obukhulu besifuba okanye i-cellulite emagqabeni. Ndikholelwe, kwimeko yokushiya, mhlawumbi nokuba ngowokuqala ubuhle (ukuqinisekisa amabali avela kubomi baseHollywood).
Ukuze kube lula ukusinda ngethuba elimnandi xa umntu elele kwaye elahliwe, ayeke ukuphatha isondo njengombhoso lomnqobi. Emva kwakho konke, akuzange nje akwazi ukufumana into evela kuwe, kodwa unokuzisa into ebalulekileyo kule meko. Umzekelo, amava. Ngoku nawe uzinikele kwimfihlakalo ebizwa ngokuthi "ubomi bobulili", nokuba kwakungeyona imeko efanayo njengoko ucinga ngayo. Ukongeza, isondo luhlobo lwesalathisi sobunzulu bobudlelwane, iimvakalelo ezinamandla, unako ukwenza okungakumbi.
Ngelizwi, zama ukutshintsha ukufakela "Uxelele umfana indlela yokuphila?" "Wandiphosa? Akukho nto! Ndiqala ubomi obutsha! "Zama ukugcina le meko kuyo yonke into. Zama ukuhlala ujabule. Kwaye nangona okokuqala kufuneka 'udibanise' umomotheka kuwe, uya kuqaphela ukuba kungekudala uza kuqala ukunyamezela ngokunyanisekileyo.