Ziziphi iindlela ezinokukunceda ukubuyisela umyeni kwintsapho? Nendlela yokuwasebenzisa ngokuchanekileyo? Inendima enkulu idlalwe yiimeko apho kwenzeka khona oku. Mhlawumbi lona wesifazane ngokwakhe wadala iimeko apho umyeni wakhe washiya khona, kwaye ngoku ucinga ukuba ungayifumana njani. Okanye indoda ivele yaya kuba yintsana kwaye ayilungele ubomi bentsapho. Ngoko ke, ukuba uqale, cinga ukuba ngubani oye wazuza ngakumbi kule gale. Mhlawumbi kuya kuba ngcono. Kunzima kakhulu ukufumana indlela efanelekileyo yokubuyisela umyeni, uzama ukuguqula umninimzi wakhe.
Akukho mntu unokunika impendulo engafanelekanga, ungabuyisela njani umyeni wakho, kuba nganye imeko iyodwa. Ukuba isigqibo sakho asiguqukanga, kwaye ufuna ukubuyisela umyeni wakho kwintsapho yakho, kuya kufuneka ufunde ukufumana ukulungelelanisa kwaye kwezinye iinguqu zenguqu, unikwe izifiso zakhe. Kuye, oku akuyi kubonwa.
Ndingenza ntoni ukubuyisela umyeni wam?
Qala, mhlawumbi, ngengxoxo engathethiyo. Kungcono ukuphepha izithembiso ukuba oku kungayi kuphinda kwenzeke kwakhona. Ngokukhawuleza xa uqala ukuzithethelela, okanye ukuphosa imimangalo, yonke intsebenzo yencoko iya kubakho. Kule ngcebiso, indlela yokubuyisela umyeni, kungcono ukuba ungayiphulaphuli.
Njengenye yeendlela zokubuyisela umyeni wakhe kwintsapho unokuqwalaselwa kwaye utshintshe umfanekiso. Oku kuya kuthatha isenzo "sokubona okubonakalayo" kwaye uya kuba nombono wokuthi ngaphambi kokuba ube ngumfazi ohluke ngokupheleleyo. Ukongeza, ukuba iqabane liye kwelinye, ungasebenzisa indlela "eyahlukileyo". Emva koko, ingxaki yokubuyisela umyeni kumthandi we-blonde, unokugqiba ukuba ngaba uvuselela iinwele zakho, umzekelo, kumbala obomvu. Musa nje ukulibala ukukhetha isitayela esitsha kwiingubo kunye ne-makeup. Khetha enye iphunga elimnandi. Ukuze kube nempembelelo enkulu, utshintsho lube lunzima.
Kufuneka ucinge ngenyameko malunga nendlela yokubuyisela umyeni kwintsapho, ukuba isizathu sokuba ukwahlukana kukukhokelela. Kuya kuthatha ixesha lokuvuselela phambi kwakhe, ngoko ungawugijimi, uthathe isigqibo. Ekubeni abantu banzima ukufumana oku, ukubuyisela umyeni emva kokukhwabanisa akulula. Kodwa kunokwenzeka. Kufuneka umbonise ukuzimisela kwakho ukuvuma iimpazamo. Khumbula, ngakumbi ukuguquguquka okubonisayo, kuya kuba nzima ukugcina umtshato.
Qiniseka ukuba ubuyekeze ukuziphatha kwakho. Ukusetyenziswa kwesiphumo esinjalo, njengemfihlelo, kunokunceda ukubuyisela umyeni wakhe ekhaya. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba wawudla ukuhleka, ngoku udala umfanekiso wokungakwazi ukufihlakeleka - okanye ngokulandelelana. Ungatshintsha enye indlela yokuthetha. Okokuthi, indoda yakhe yafika kwisigqibo sokuba wayenaso ixesha lokuqonda into oyiyo.
Ungayenza njani enye indlela yokubuyisela umyeni wakhe kwintsapho? Unokwenza umqondo wokuzimela, nokuba ngaba ungenayo le mgangatho. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba indoda eyashiyile intsapho iyayika (kodwa ilinde) yentshutshiso yakho. Ngoko ke, njengenye yeendlela zokufumana umyeni wakho othandekayo, mhlawumbi ukuhlangana kwakho ngengozi, apho uya kuwela khona emehlweni akhe, kodwa uyalala ngokukhawuleza. Ngaloo ndlela, inokumangalisa, kwaye ngelixa elizayo uqala "intlanganiso engapheliyo".
Kwakhona amandla akho angaphakathi angasebenza njengendlela enkulu yokufumana umyeni wakho ekhaya. Emva kokuphuka, loo mfazi uzizwa engenanto kwaye washiya. Kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba ungene kwi-rut ngokukhawuleza kwaye uqale ukuhlala ngendlela entsha. Ngoko ungakhohlwa ukuba kufuneka uthande kwaye uzihloniphe. Ukongezelela, ibhinqa elithembekileyo kwikamva layo liya kuba lunomdla kumntu kunentlungu. Ukuba nonke niyazibuza ukuba kunokwenzeka (okanye kuyimfuneko) ukubuyisela indoda, kubalulekile ukuba ube nesibindi kwaye, ubuncinane, uzame ukwenza. Akunjalo lula ukususa kwimemori loo minyaka owahlala kunye ngenkathi utshatile.