Ekuqaleni kobomi kunye, bambalwa abantu bacinga ukuba iimvakalelo ezincinci ziya kuba zingacacile, kwaye kwimisebenzi yokuqala engayithobeliyo iya kuba yinto eqhelekileyo. Ayikho into ekulungele into enjalo, ngoko ingcamango "yento yokwenza kunye nendlela yokuphila ngayo, ukuba andisayithandi umyeni wam," udlalela ukutyelela abafazi emva kweminyaka emininzi yomtshato. Ingxaki imbi kakhulu, kwaye eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, ukuba akukho ndlela yendalo yonke yokuyicombulula, imeko nganye ihlukile kwaye idinga indlela ethile.
"Andiyithandi umyeni wam kwakhona-ndiyakwenza ntoni na?"
Ingcamango yothando oludlulileyo lunokuvela kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo, kwaye akuyiyo yonke into ebuhlungu ngayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo umfazi uthi akayithandi umyeni wakhe, nje engazi indlela yokwahlula ukuvakalelwa kwangempela kwimvakalelo yexesha elifutshane. Sifanele siqonde ukuba ukunyameka kwe-honeymoon kuya kuhamba kunye nobomi bonke, ngoko ke, ukuphelelwa kwemvakalelo ayiyi kuthetha ukusabalaliswa kothando. Ukuba unesiqiniseko sokuthi uyiqonde imvakalelo yakho, ke ixesha lokuba uchaze isicwangciso sokwenza amanyathelo athile.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ezinye iingcamango ngesihloko esithi "into endiyenzayo ukuba andithandi umyeni wam" iya kubonakala ingaqhelekanga, kuba isigqibo siyabonakala - umtshato. Kodwa isigqibo esinjalo sisamkeleka kuphela kwi-theory, kwinto yonke into enzima kakhulu. Nangona eso sibini singakhange siphumelele ukuhambela ekuqhubekeni kwentsapho kunye nokufumana uxanduva lokubambisa amatyala, isigqibo sokudla sinzima kakhulu. Kwaye ukuba kukho abantwana, kwaye nangaphandle kwemali mboleko ayizange ihlawulwe, ngoko umtshato uqhawulwa ngumsebenzi ongenakwenzeka. Ngaphezu koko, ibhinqa, nangona engayithandi umyeni wayo, liya kuzama ukugcina intsapho, uhlobo kunye noluntu loluntu lusenze njalo. Ngoko ke, ukuba okwethutyana akukho ndlela yokusebenzisa isisombululo sekhadineli yenkinga, kubalulekile ukufuna enye indlela.
Unokuzama ukufumana iimvakalelo ezidlulileyo ngokuqala ukuba nomdla kwizinto ezinomdla kunye neengxaki zomyeni wakho, kunye nokubandakanya kwimicimbi yentsapho. Ukuba oku kungasebenzi, qalisa ukwenza amanyathelo kwindlela eyahlukileyo. Ukuqala, ukulahla umlutha, ngokuqinisekileyo uvela kwixesha elide lokuhlalisana. Ukuba uziva unqabile, ukhangele iindlela zokuguqula kwenye imisebenzi - ikhaya, abantwana, izinto zokuzilibazisa . Ukuba uthembele kumyeni wakho ngezezimali kwaye ngoko unako ukukwazi ukuchithachitha, zama ukugqwesa kwi-professional field. Kodwa akudingeki ukhangele umthandi, kungcono ukwenze xa ungekho mbopheleleko.