Kwiimeko ezininzi, xa umfazi eshintshile umyeni wakhe, unesihlungu ngokuzisola rhoqo, de ade avume. Emva koko, ukuziphatha komfazi emva kokungcatsha kugqithisa kakhulu, oko kungenxa yokuvakalelwa kwakhe. Kodwa ukuba umfazi emva kokungcatsha umyeni wakhe okokuqala, ngentshiseko ufuna ukulibala malunga nento yonke kwaye ulondoloze intsapho, izazi zeengqondo zicebisa ukuba ungatsheli umyeni wakhe ngezinto ezenzekile. Ukuba umfazi uyavuma ukuba uye wangcatsha umyeni wakhe, ukuziqhenya kwakhe kuya kukhubeka kakhulu, kwaye nangona ufuna ukuxolela, uya kubeka isigxina kwisithandwa sakhe, ngaphandle kokuyiqonda. Ekugqibeleni, isi sibini siyakhathala ngolwalamano olunjalo, kwaye umtshato uya kutshabalaliswa ngokupheleleyo. Yingakho uhlaselo kufuneka lufihliwe ngokucokisekileyo, okanye uxolele lo msebenzi uze ukhohlwe.
Umtshato wamahhala
Kodwa kukho amaxesha apho indoda ikuvumela ukuba utshintshe. Kule meko, intsapho yakhiwe ngesiseko sobudlelwane bobukhulu, xa abatshatileyo bathandana kwaye bayavuya kunye kunye, kodwa abavumelani nokufumana iimvakalelo ezintsha kwicala. Ukuba bobabini bobabili bayavumelana nale ndawo, loo mtshato uya kuba namandla. Kodwa kukufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba iimeko azikhangeli xa umyeni okanye umfazi uya kuba neengxaki zangempela kumlingani ozayo. Yaye loo nto inokwenzeka kakhulu.
Ubuhlobo obungapheliyo kwixesha elidlulileyo
Ngokuqhelekileyo kukho iimeko xa umfazi eshintsha umyeni wakhe kumntu oselula. Iintlanganiso zengqesho kunye nomntu owayesakuba ngumntu, ingxoxo kwingqungquthela yentliziyo yintliziyo ikhumbuza iinkumbulo kunye neengcamango zangaphambili. Intlanganiso enjalo inokukhokelela ngokukhawuleza ekukhohliseni, kuba kukho ngaphambili, kodwa umntu onjalo. Abasetyhini banomdla kwaye banokukhawuleza ukuba banelisekile. Ngolu tshintsho olusoloko luzisola. Xa umfazi etshintsha umyeni wakhe kwiqabane lakhe okanye iqabane, ukunyeliswa kwangempela kwenzeka, njengoko olu lwalamano alusekelwe kuphela kwisini, kodwa nangomntu ovakalelwa yintuthuko, isisa kunye nothando.
Abahlobo abasondeleyo
Kutheni abafazi bevame ukutshintsha indoda kunye nomhlobo wakhe? Umhlobo wakhe omhle umyeni uya kuba ngumhlobo wentsapho, othetha ngokulinganayo kunye nabini bomtshato. Indoda ihlala iqinisekile ukuba ubungcwele buyingcwele, ngoko umhlobo akanakuze athengise. "Ewe, akakhange abuke umfazi wakhe njengowesifazane," abantu bahlala becinga. Ungakulibali ukuba ubudlelwane obuphakathi kwendoda kunye nowesifazane buhlala kusekelwe ekuvelaneni kunye nokukhanga. Akukho buhlobo obulula, umntu uthanda. Umhlobo wentsapho unokuhlaziya umfazi ngexesha lokuxabana nokuphelelwa yithemba, ukuzisola, ukumkhathaza. Yaye yena ngokwakhe akayi kuqaphela ukuba sele eselithengisile umyeni wakhe nomhlobo wakhe.
Ukhohlakele
Ibhinqa lingatshintsha umyeni wakhe ngengozi. Eyona nto ibhubhaneyo iimbambano zengxabano, xa umfazi ekhuselekileyo kwaye ufuna ihlombe elomeleleyo nelithembekileyo kuye. Njengomthetho, kwiimeko ezinjalo, umfazi utshintsha umyeni wakhe okokuqala, kwaye oku kungaba ngumntu ongaqhelekanga, oye wadibana naye kwibhar. Ukunxibelelana ngokuqhelekileyo kunokwenzeka ukuba kuthwale kwaye utshintshe ngexesha lokuphumla okuhlukile. Incwadana yeeholide yinto nje yeklasi yohlobo lokukrexeza. Ukuba ibhinqa latshintshile umyeni wakhe kwiholide, ngoko kulula ukuba afihle le siganeko aze ayibale into eyenzekayo. Ukuphumla kubandakanya utywala kunye nokuphumula, okokuba, ukuba ibhinqa lidibana nomntu onomdla, ngoko ke uncedo alukwazi ukumelana nalo.
Ukhohlakele
Ukuba umfazi usoloko eguqula umyeni wakhe, ngoko kwenzeka ukuba ebomini bakhe kwakukho umtsha omtsha, ohlala kwindawo ethile emphefumlweni nasengqondweni. Intlanganiso enjalo enomnye nomnye umntu inceda umfazi ukuba abe nemvakalelo yokuthandana, ukulibala ixesha lomtshato wakhe. Kubalulekile ukuba ibhinqa ithandeke kwaye ithande abanye, ezi zintloko ziyinto ebalulekileyo kulutsha lwaphakade. Xa umfazi ephanga umyeni wakhe kunye nomthandi wakhe, kukho ithuba eliphezulu lokuba iqabane lizazi malunga nobu buhlobo. Emva kwakho konke, nangona kunjalo, kungekudala kamva umyeni uya kuqala ukucinga ukuba umfazi uyatshintsha, uqaphele ukuziphatha kwakhe okutshintshayo, ubuso obunobumba, ubuso obukhanyayo.
Utshintshe umyeni wakhe, njani ukubuyela?
Xa ibhinqa sele lithengisile umyeni wakhe, kungekudala ukuzisola oko kwenzelwe, kufuneka ucinge malunga nendlela yokunciphisa imeko kwaye wenze kube buhlungu kumlingane. Kufuneka unike umyeni wakho ixesha lokupholisa, kwaye unokuthetha ngokuthula. Kuphela emva koko, umfazi uya kukwazi ukuqonda ukuba umyeni wakhe uyathanda kude kube ngoku kwaye uya kuba nako ukuxolela. Indlela yokuqala yamadoda yokunyanzela yinto efana nayo, kwaye umfazi ufuna ukulungele.
Ibhinqa ikhetha ukumngcatsha ngokuvakalelwa okanye ukuvalelwa emtshatweni, kodwa kukufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba konke oku kuya kubakho ukusinda emva kobuthathaka obuthathaka.