Ngempendulo emfutshane "Ndiyavuma", kukho izizathu ezininzi. Ezinye zazo azikude zithandane, nangona oku akuthethi ukuba izizathu zesiganeko somtshato ziyisiseko esibi seentsapho ezinamandla. Kwaye ezinye ziphantse ziqinisekisa ukungaphumeleli kwesiganeko esibizwa ngokuba "ukudala isunithi entsha yentlalo". Akumangalisi ukuba kukho ukuxilongwa kweenjongo zomtshato, ngokubhekiselele kuwo, umntu unokuzama ukuqikelela amathuba "okuphila ngokunyanisekileyo." Cinga ngoluphi lulandelayo lulusondeleyo kwibali lakho:
- uthando. Le ncwadana yesikhokelo somxholo womtshato, lowo uninzi lwethu uphupha ukususela ebuntwaneni. Sifuna ukuba sisondele kwisihloko sesithando sethu kunye nokudumisa. Abasetyhini abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba umtshato uyindlela yokuqhuba iimvakalelo zabo kwiminyaka;
- ngcamango yomtshato. Abanye bethu bakholelwa ukuba ubomi kuphela emtshatweni kunokubizwa ngokuba bufanele kwaye buphelele. Kwaye kuphela le ndlela ibhanqa epheleleyo iyakubheka. Kule meko, umfazi akakwazi ukufumana uxolo ade aqiniseke ukuba ubuhlobo bakhe busemthethweni kwaye bugcinwe ezulwini;
- zentlalo. Le motif yomtshato ihambelana ngokusondeleyo neyokudlulileyo. Ngokukodwa ukuba omnye wale mbini ekhuliselwe kwintsapho apho umtshato wawucacile kwaye wayebhekwa njengenjongo ephambili yobudlelwane. Ubudala, njengomthetho, uthelela kuphela ioli phezu komlilo;
- mpu melelo. Ngokukodwa, le njongo ifanelekileyo kubafazi, kuba umtshato uyisihlandlo sokuziqhayisa kwabanye;
- ukubaleka kwedwa. Ngelishwa, abaninzi bethu abazive banelisekile baze babone umtshato njengokusindiswa kwimeko yokulondeka. Okwangoku, ubukho be sitampu kwipaspoti akuqinisekisi ukuba intsapho iya kufudumala kulawo maxesha xa unesizungu siphuphuma;
- ukubaleka kwabazali. Umzekelo oqhelekileyo wemitshato yokuqala. Nantsi ingqiqo ngumnqweno wokulahla owakho
ubomi; - umtshato onyanzelekileyo. Ukukhulelwa okungenakulungiswa, njengomthetho, yinto ebangela loo mitshato;
- umtshato olula. Ukuzama ukuzimela ngokwezimali, ukuthuthela kwelinye ilizwe, ukufumana ubummi - konke oku kunokubakho kumtshato ngokubalwa. Ukuba amabini omabini aqonda injongo ephambili yobudlelwane obuvumelekileyo, ngoko ngamanye amaxesha inyunyana enjalo inika ubudlelwane obuqinileyo.
Naliphi na injongo ekukhokelela ekubambisaneni, ungesabi ukuyihlalutya kwangaphambili, ukuze ungabikho ekukhohliseni.