Nangona abafazi ababenzima ngokukhawuleza bafuna ukudala intsapho, batshatile, ngoko ke iimpendulo zemibuzo malunga nokuba yintoni umfazi omhle kufuneka abe ngowona kwaye umfazi onyanisekileyo kufuneka akwazi ukwenza ntoni unomdla kubo bonke abantu.
Yiyiphi imisebenzi yomfazi kwintsapho?
Umfazi omhle, kufuneka abe njani? Mhlawumbi, ukwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya - ukupheka, ukucoceka, ukuhlamba. Kwaye ukuba unayo indoda ukuba uhlale elala, kuya kuba yinto efanelekileyo. Kodwa ngaba zonke ezo iimpawu umfazi ofanelekileyo kufuneka abe nazo? Ngokwezesondo, indoda inokuphatha kakuhle i-1-2 lover, kunye nokucoca nokupheka ukuze ufundise umkhonzi. Kubonakala ukuba amadoda emtshatweni awafunanga kuphela i-borscht ethambileyo kunye nesondo esisigxina. Omnye ufuna ukufumana kwisiqithi isiqithi senduduzo noxolo (njengoko kwakunjalo endlwini yabazali bakhe), kwaye umntu ufuna umfazi ukuphucula isimo sakhe sezenhlalakahle - indoda engatshatileyo ibonwa njengomntwana osemtsha kunye nomntu onobunzima, kwaye oku kuya kunqanda kakhulu ishishini. Ngoko ukuthetha indlela yokuziphatha ngayo umfazi, kufuneka uyisekelwe kwiimfuno zendoda ethile. Kodwa ngaba zikhona naziphi na izihlandlo abantu abaninzi abafuna ukuzibona kubafazi babo? Ewe, kukho, apha kunye nokuqonda.
Umfazi kufanele aziphathe njani?
- Imisebenzi yomfazi ibandakanya ukupheka, ukuhlamba, ukucoca. Kodwa uya kuvuma, le mi sebenzi inokwenziwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo: umntu unokuphatha oku njengento ehlazo kunye noyikrakra, okanye unokwenene unqwenela ukukholisa umthandayo. Ngaba ucinga ukuba ngaphezulu komntu?
- Amadoda ethu azimele, anamandla, akwazi ukujamelana nayo nayiphi na ingxaki. Kodwa basadinga inkxaso, kwaye abayifuni kwinqanaba, kodwa besuka kumfazi abathandayo. Xa yonke into ihamba kakuhle, kulula ukwenza, kodwa ukuba indoda ixhatshazwa, ngoko amagama abonakala ecela amagama anzima, kwaye ufuna ukuhlasela umyeni wakho ngokuhlambalaza. Kodwa awukwazi ukwenza oku, ngoko uya kunciphisa ukuzithemba komyeni wakho, kwaye umntu onjalo akanakuphumelela.
- Ukukwazi ukunxibelelana kubalulekile nje ekuxoxweni kunye namaqabane ebhishini, ebomini bomi bomi le nto ibaluleke kakhulu. Funda ukuphulaphula indoda yakho ngaphandle kokuphazamisa. Hlonipha uluvo lwakhe kwaye ungazami ukulungiswa ngendlela yakhe - indoda ngenxa yintanda yakhe ingakwazi ukunyaniseka, kodwa ukuzingca kwakhe akuyi kuhlala imthobela. Vumela umyeni wakho abe nguwe, kusebenza kangcono kunokuba umxelele ukuba wenza into engalunganga, kwaye kufuneka ukuba athathe umzekelo kumyeni wakhe womhlobo.
- Iimagazini zamabhinqa azikhathali ukuphindaphinda - ukuhlukahluka ebhedeni, isibambiso sokuba indoda iya kubuyela kuwe kuphela. Kwinqanaba labatshatileyo, sikhumbula malunga nalo mgaqo ubuncinane, kodwa xa sibeka indandatho ethandekayo eminwe, ngesizathu esithile siyalibala malunga nalo mgaqo. Ubundlobongela kwizinto ezinokuzonwabisa luba ngumsebenzi womtshato, kwaye amanye amantombazana angenakuxhatshazwa nawo asebenzisa amadoda abo, ephika "ukufikelela emzimbeni." Le ndlela yindlela engafanelekanga, kuba ngubani ohlwaya ukuba ngubani na kule meko engacacile, kwaye indoda, ukhathele ukufumana ikhaya ekhaya, iya kukhangela ubulili kwenye indawo, kwaye iya kulungile.
- Ungalibali ukudumisa umyeni wakho, bonisa ukuba uyamdinga ngempela. Kukho ukuphazamiseka kumntu wonke, ungenzi indlovu ngaphandle kwenyuka. Indoda ifuna ukuva ekhaya kungekhona ngempazamo yakhe (malunga nokuba umphathi uya kumkhumbuza ngaphezu kweyodwa), kodwa ngeempumelelo. Amadoda adinga ukunconywa, mhlawumbi nangaphezulu kwabesetyhini. Ngoko musa ukugcoba umyeni wakho, ufanelwe.
- Musa ukulibala ngenkululeko - udinga ixesha lokudibana nabahlobo bakho, uhamba ngeentengiso zeetoni kunye neevenkile. Umyeni wakho naye ufuna ixesha lokuchitha ngaphandle kwakho, naye unomdla wakhe. Qonda kwaye uyamkele le nyaniso.
- Imisebenzi yomfazi inokuthethwa ngokungapheliyo, kodwa into ebalulekileyo ubudlelwane akuyiyo inzaliseko yomsebenzi womyeni, kodwa umnqweno wokwenza okuthile kuye. Luhlobo luni lonwabo nolwazi olufanayo esinokuthetha ngalo, ukuba kubalulekile ukuba uzalisekise umsebenzi wakho, kwaye ukuba ufuna ukwenza umntu onwabile ngakumbi kunomntu ongekho kuwe, akunjalo? Kuvela ukuba ukuba uphendule umbuzo wento umfazi okufanele abe yintoni, mane-kufuneka abe nothando.