Akusiwo wonke umntu onokufumana ngokukhawuleza umlingani wokuphila oza kuhlala naye, kwaye unyana uya kuzalelwa kwaye umthi uya kukhula. Ukuqonda ukuba awukwazi ukudala intsapho, kufuneka uceba ukuqhawula umtshato. Kwaye kunye nalezi zicwangciso ziza iingcamango zendlela yokuxelela umyeni wakhe ngokuqhawula umtshato, njani ukwenza okulungileyo? Oku kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuba ufuna ukushiya ngokufanelekileyo, qwalasela umlingane wakho umntu olungileyo kwaye ungafuni ukumcaphukisa.
Ndingayichazela njani indoda yam inyaniso ngokuphathelele umtshato?
- Ngaphambi kokuthatha nayiphi na inyathelo, kufuneka uqiniseke ngokuchanekileyo kwesigqibo sakho. Ukwahlukana - lo ngumlinganiselo wokugqibela, okufuneka uvelise emva kokuba ucinge ngokucophelela, usongelo ngokuqhawula umtshato ngexesha lokuxabana - kungenangqiqo, xa uthetha oku ngqongqo, akusayi kubakho ukholo.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda atshintsha isimo sabo sengqondo xa befunda malunga nekhefu elizayo. Ngoko ke, ukuba uthatha ithuba lokugcina umtshato kunye nemizamo yomlingane, unokumxelela ukuba uya kushiya, ukuba akukho nto iguquka kwikamva elizayo.
- Ukuba uya kutshatyalaliswa ngenxa yokuba uthandana nomnye, musa ukukhawuleza ukwenza isigqibo. Zinike ixesha lokucinga, mhlawumbi kufuneka uchithe ixesha kunye nomyeni wakho ngokwahlukileyo. Kufuneka ukuba uqonde ubunzulu beemvakalelo zakho, mhlawumbi isithandabuzo esiphezulu asifanelekanga umtshato otshatyalaliswayo.
- Xa ulungiselela ingxoxo, cingisisa ngegama lakho. Zama ukungaqhubeki ngeemvakalelo, zibalekele ukuhlambalaza nokuhlambalaza. Enyanisweni yokuba isidingo sokuqhawula umtshato sesifikile, kukho iziphoso zomtshato zomtshato, ngoko ke akuphosakeli ukubeka ityala kumyeni kuyo yonke into.
Kubalulekile kungekuphela kuphela indlela ogqiba ngayo ukuxelela umyeni wakho inyaniso malunga neemvakalelo zakho kunye nomnqweno wokuqhawula umtshato , ukulungelelwa kwakho kweli nqanaba akubalulekanga. Qonda ukuba akukho gale ngaphandle kokulahleka, kwaye kuya kuba luvavanyo olunzulu kubo bobabini. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukuthatha eli nyathelo, kuphela emva kokulinganisa yonke into kwaye ucinge malunga nendlela oya kuhlala ngayo emva kokuhlukana.