Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukutshabalalisa ubudlelwane obungaphumelelanga, senza ukugcinwa kohlu lwabalinganiswa. Enyanisweni, izazi zengqondo ziqaphele into yokuba kwintsapho evuya, amaqabane angabelana ngokufanayo kunye nabalinganiswa. Kutheni, ngoko, ngaba ezinye zidala intsapho eyonwabileyo, kwaye abanye abakwazi ukufumana amaphuzu e-intersection iminyaka? Masibone iziphi izigqibo zeengqondo ze-psychologists eziye zafika, ukuhlola ubudlelwane kwiintsapho ezintle, kwaye siya kuhlalutya iimpawu eziphambili zentsapho ephumelelayo.
Iimfihlelo zokuphumelela kwintsapho evuya
- Nqwenela. Enye yezona zinto ziyimfuneko ebomini obonwabileyo ngumnqweno wokwenza olu budlelwane obungunaphakade. Bobabini baqonda kwaye bayamkela into yokuba ubudlelwane kufuneka bakhiwe, kungakhathaliseki ukuba unobumba obufanayo okanye uhlukile ngokuthe ngqo.
- Kwiintsapho ezenza kakuhle, akukho ntlonipho omnye kunye kunye nawo onke amalungu entsapho. Abahlobo ababuhlungu kunye neentsapho zabo kwiqabane, uyazithoba. Ngoko, wena. Ukugxeka abantwana obala, ubonisa ukungalungi kwindlela yakho yokufundisa. Emva kwakho konke, ngaba ngabantwana bakho, kwaye nguwe owakhuphayo. Ukutshintsha, ubonisa ukuba awukwazi ukugqiba isigqibo malunga nokukhethwa komlingani. Kwaye, oku kwakhona, ukukhulelwa komoya kuphela.
- Ukuzinikela. Kwiintsapho ezenza kakuhle, akukho mbuzo wokuqhawula umtshato. Akukho. Kwaye, nangona kunjalo, ayifuni ukufikelela kwi-blackmail. Baye kunye "ngosizi novuyo, ekuguleni nasempilweni." Oku akuthethi ukuba abazange baxabane, musa ukwenza iimpazamo, okanye ukunyamezela kwabo kuhlala ngonaphakade. Akusona nje isizathu sokuhlukana, kodwa kuphela esinye sezigaba ekukhuliseni ubudlelwane.
- Iinjongo eziqhelekileyo kunye neemfuno. Iimfuno eziqhelekileyo zidibanisa kunye kunye neenjongo zidibanisa intsingiselo kunye nokuqinisekiswa kolwalamano, kodwa ezininzi iintsapho azikwazi nokuba iminyaka zicinga ukuba zihamba ezindleleni ezahlukeneyo kunye neziphumo ezahlukileyo.
- Isikhathi sokuphumla siqinisekiso seentsapho eziphumelelayo. Wonke umntu kwintsapho unelungelo lokuphumla. Ngelo xesha xa umntu engenawo amalungu entsapho. Yiba yiholide kunye nabahlobo okanye kwigumbi elilodwa.
- Ukungabi nokuzingca. Kwiintsapho eziyimpumelelo, wonke umntu akacingi nje ngentuthuzelo yakhe, kodwa ngokubanzi. Ngamnye ujoliswe ekudaleni iimeko ezilungileyo kuzo zonke iintsapho. Kuye kwaziwa ixesha elide ukuba ukuba intsapho igule yedwa, ekugqibeleni
kuba kubi kuwo wonke umntu. - Xolelo. Konke, ngelishwa, bayakwazi ukwenza iimpazamo. Kwiintsapho ezivuyoleyo, amaqabane ayazi indlela yokucela ukuxolelwa kuphela, kodwa nokunika. Ukuxolela ukuze ngoko ungabuyeli kule mpazamo nayiphi na ingxabano.
- Ukungabi nemisebenzi. Nangona kunjalo kungaqhelekanga, kodwa kule mizalwane ayikho ukwahlukana kwemisebenzi. Okokuthi, indoda inokukunceda umfazi wakhe epulazini ngaphandle kwesicelo sakhe, kwaye umfazi unokunceda umyeni wakhe ekugcinweni kwentsapho, ukuba unokufumana imali. Kungokuthi kwintsapho elonwabileyo abatshatileyo bancedana ngaphandle kokuba bebophekile ukuba benze, kodwa kuba banomnqweno owenene wokuba babelane ngobunzima kwaye banakekele omnye nomnye.