Ngamanye amaxesha abancinci abanelisekanga ngempendulo ethi "ewe" kumbuzo othi "Ngaba uyamthabatha emadodeni (abafazi)?" Ngokuqinisekileyo umyeni nomyeni bafuna ukuthetha amazwi yesifungo. Kodwa kaninzi akwenzeki, kodwa isithethe sezithembiso zomtshato somyeni nomyeni sisentshonalanga, kwaye asiqhelekanga phakathi kwethu. Nangona kungavunyelwe ukwenza njalo emtshatweni, ngoko makhe siqaphele xa sithetha lamagama abalulekileyo, kwaye yintoni kanye okumele ibe yinto yesifungo somtshato.
Isifungo somtshakazi nomyeni emtshatweni: nini ukubiza?
Zonke izibhambathiso zomtshato zingenziwa ngokwahlukileyo ngokwasemthethweni (kubandakanywa zonqulo) kunye neengqungquthela. Iyokuqala ingabhengezwa kokubili kwiofisi yokubhalisa kunye netafile yeholide. Kodwa izibhambathiso ezinqabileyo, mhlawumbi, kungcono ukushiya inkampani efudumeleyo, xa ukhuphiswano kunye nokuzonwabisa kweendwendwe ziqala. Nangona akukho mntu uya kukukhanyela ukuba uthethe isifungo esiya kuthi, esiza kubangela iinyembezi zothando phakathi kwabazali kunye nabahlobo, kwi-ofisi ye-registry kunye kwakhona ukuphinda ukutshintsha kwimihla ngemihla yokutya. Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba isifungo siyinto esondeleyo kwaye awukwazi ukuyichaza ngesihlwele esikhulu sabantu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngokuqinisekileyo kuyinyaniso, kodwa ngubani onqanda ukuphindaphinda amaninzi kunye namaxesha amaninzi onke amagama amathenda kunye yedwa? Umtshato kukuba, musa ukubonisa umboniso weemvakalelo zakho, kunye nalabo bamenywe ngubani ukulungele ukuvuya. Ngoko banike ithuba elinjalo, vumela ama-mama kunye neentombi zihanjiswe, bhala, kwaye uya kukhumbuza lo mzuzwana, njengenye yeyona nto enhle kakhulu neyothando.
Izibhambathiso zomtshato zomtshakazi nomyeni: uthini?
Njengoko kuchaziwe ngentla, umbhalo wesibhambathiso somtshato somtshakazi nomyeni ungabonakalisa kakhulu kwaye uhlaziye. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo izifungo, ngokukodwa ziqhekeza, zenziwa ngumbongo - kwaye izandi zihlekisayo kwaye abasandul 'ukutshata bakhumbula ngokulula. Kodwa oku akuyona nto ingcono. Ukuphinda ubhale kwakhona isifungo somnye, akukho nto kwi-Intanethi okanye "ukumdonsa" emtshatweni womhlobo, ngokuqinisekileyo kulula ukuphula intloko phezu kwamagama. Kodwa, okokuqala, akukho mntu ucela ukuba ubhale imibongo, ngoko ke ukuba akukho bani unetalente zokuqinisekisa, ngoko akudingeki uzame. Amagama athembekileyo axabisekileyo ngakumbi, nokuba ngaba athathwe ngaphandle kwesinye isigqi. Kwaye, okwesibini, umtshato ungowakho, kwaye ufuna ukuba yonke into ekukhunjulwe ngayo, yonke into yakho. Ngaba kuya kuba mnandi ukuba ukhumbule, emva kwexesha, amanye amagama abantu afunde kwisibhedlele esingazivakalisi iimvakalelo zakho ngokupheleleyo?
Indlela yokwenza isifungo somtshakazi nomyeni?
Kucacile ukuba amagama esifungo kufuneka aqiniseke kwaye ahambe entliziyweni, kodwa akubanga kakubi ukubhala phantsi. Umtshato uyonwabile, abantu ngamanye amaxesha bayalibala amagama abo, kungekhona ukuba umbhalo wesifungo. Ngako oko, isikhalazo asiyi kubakho konke. Yintoni ebhaliweyo? Lo mbuzo, ngokuqinisekileyo, ungcono ukuxoxa nomlingane kwaye wenze isifungo ukuze akuthande bobabini. Kwaye ukwenza kube lula ukubhala, khumbula ukuba yiziphi iindawo ezifunekayo.
- Inxalenye yokuqala iquka inkcazo yenyaniso-uthi umntu uyathandeka kuwe, kwaye uya kuhlala naye ubomi obude kwaye obonwabileyo. Kwaye uceba ukuqala ukususela namhlanje, udibene nomtshato womthetho.
- Kwinqanaba elilandelayo, kungokwesiko ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho kumlingane wakho, oko umthandayo akumele kuqondwe nguye kuphela, kodwa wonke umntu okhoyo. Oku mhlawumbi inxalenye elula - ubhala nje oko uvakalelwa.
- Ewe, ekupheleni, emva kokuba yonke into iyisikhumbuzo sobungqina obubuhlungu bokuphila: umtshato awuyena nje uvelwano kunye noxinelo, lukwabo uxanduva olubhekiselele kwicala ngalinye. Oko ubhala apha, into oza kufunga kuyo, kuxhomekeke kuwe kuphela. Kusenokuba nethemba lokuba khona kunye nosizi kunye novuyo, kunye nesithembiso sokubiza unyana ngokuhlonipha umkhulu womyeni, kunye nesithembiso somyeni ukuba angayikrozi umfazi wakhe ngenxa yokuphuka kwemoto yakhe.