Abantu bahlangana baze bahlukane, baxabane okanye baphile ngoxolo noxolo. Zonke zifani kwaye azifani. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuba ulwalamano lukhula njani kunye nolunye udidi, kuya kubakho enye into eqhelekileyo phakathi kwabo, leyo ingaphazamisa bonke ubomi. Igama lakhe likhwele. Ekuqaleni ayibonakaliyo, ngoko ke, njengoko ukuluma kwezilwanyana kuqala ukuphazamisa, kwaye kuphelisa ngokupheleleyo amehlo kwaye kunokukhokelela kwimiphumo ebuhlungu. Ukuze sigweme oku, siya kuzama ukuqonda enye yezinto ezinzima kakhulu - indlela yokufunda ukuba ungabi nomona ngomyeni wakhe?
Iiklasi ze-genre - umfazi unomona ngomyeni wakhe
Ingubo egqobileyo yokugqoka, iingubo zokubamba iinwele zihamba phezu kwentloko kunye nepini yokugaya esandleni sakhe. Yiloo ndlela abafazi abaninzi abafumana ngayo abafazi abadibana nabo abathembekileyo. Kwaye amadoda ahamba ngokukhawuleza ekhaya, eze nomlomo womnye umntu ngekhati lakhe, i-podshofe encinane, okanye ayize. Kwaye kuya kuba yinto ekhohlakeleyo, ukuba kwakungeyinyaniso, eye yade idlulele kwiintlanzi ezahlukeneyo. Kwaye kubonakala ngathi abafazi bahlala bekhwele kwaye baya kuba nomona, kwaye amadoda ahlala ebeka izihlandlo kwaye uya kubapha. Nangona kunjalo, kukho enye INYE kwimeko. Ukuba ukhangeleka ingxaki, abayeni abavumi ukunika izizathu zokuba nomona, njengoko kubonakala ngathi. Kwaye phantse wonke umfazi okhonondayo: "Ndiyindoda enomona - kumamazala, ukuba ngumfazi wangaphambili, udadewabo," njl., Ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka afune iimbangela zoluvo phakathi kwakhe. Kwaye okokuqala kufuneka uqale xa ugqiba indlela yokuyeka umona ngomyeni wakho kukuhamba ngengqondo yakho kwaye ukhuphe ukukhuseleka kuwe nakwakho umthandayo.
Ungayi kuba nomona ngomyeni wakhe?
Amantombazana amaninzi ayaqinisekiswa ukuba acaphukile. Enyanisweni, ndingayenza njani ukuba ndibe nomsindo xa ndiba nomona ngabahlobo bam ukuba bazinike ixesha elithile, umyeni onomona kwintombazana eyayiyintombi ezama ukuphazamisa ubuhlobo bethu, umyeni onomona kunina, ongeyithandi kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo Ndinezizathu ezininzi zokuba nomona. Kule nqanaba yokucinga, kulungile ukuyeka nokucinga. Ikhwele libonakala kwindawo apho ukuthembela nokuzithemba kukunika ikhefu. Ngamanye amazwi, izizathu zangempela zesikhwele azikho izizathu ezinikwe ngumntu othembekileyo, kodwa ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumxhasi kunye noxhasayo, ukwesaba ukuxhwala, ukwesaba ukuhlala ngaphandle kokuxhasa, ukungaqondakali, njl. Indlela yokujongana nale nto kwaye unqabe umona kungekhona nje kunye nomyeni wangaphambili? Oku kuya kunceda ngeendlela eziliqela:
- Ingxaki enkulu kubo bonke abasetyhini - imifanekiso yokucinga kunye neengcamango. Akukho nto yenzeke into embi, kodwa sele siyipende into engelona nto esingayenza. Umyeni wam akazange asebenze ngokungaqhelekanga entloko yam, kodwa sinomfanekiso wesenzo esipheleleyo sokuhlambalaza esele siqinile entloko yam. Ukukrazula le mkhuba emibi kubalulekile ukufunda ukuphazamiseka ngenxa yomona:
- uhlambe kunye nemifuno kunye neoli ecolileyo okanye isitya esahlukileyo. Amanzi anceda ukuphumla nokuphazamisa iingcamango ezicinezelayo;
- kuthatha nayiphi na imidlalo. Kulo qeqesho, awuyi kuphazamiseka nje kuphela kodwa ukhulule umphunga kunye nomsindo oqokelelweyo. Nangona liqulunqwe nguwe;
- bahlala behlangana nabahlobo nabahlobo. Kodwa musa ukubaxelela igama malunga nolwalamano lwakho nomyeni wakho. Khumbula ukuba intsapho yakho ingcwele kwaye awukwazi ukunyamezela indlu engcolileyo kunoma yintoni na.
- Yenza umyalelo kwilizwe lakho langaphakathi. Unomona ngendoda yakho kwiingubo ezimfutshane ngeengubo ezimfutshane ezibonakalayo. Ngaba ubuke kwisibuko ngokwakho ixesha elide? Kwaye ubona ntoni na? Ingaba lixesha lokuhla okanye ukuya kwi-cosmetian, i-hairdresser okanye i-barber, ukulahla okanye ukuqhuba i-kgs okanye i-wardrobe? Ukuba ubuncinane into enye ayiyenziwa nguwe, ke ungamangalisi ukuba uthembekileyo wakho unokuguqula umfokazi omhle. Yaye ukuba ungayithandi ngaphakathi ngaphakathi, ngoko kutheni ufuna umyeni wakho? Into yokuqala kunye ebaluleke kakhulu ukuyenza kukufumana ukuzithemba kwaye uzithande. Emva koko uloyiko olunxulumene nokuthembela kumntu wakho luya kuba ngumyalelo wobukhulu buncinci.
- Omnye umbuzo obalulekileyo - njani ukuba umntu ukuba anike izizathu zesikhwele kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo uye wabanjwa ngokungazi kakuhle? Kule meko kwakhona jonga ngapha kwaye ucele nabani na abahlobo ukuba ubukeka njani. Khumbula indlela oziphatha ngayo kwaye ingaba akukho nto uziphatha ngayo intanda yakho ethandekayo kuwe. Ukuba
Kulungile, fumana indoda yakho ngencoko ephosakeleyo. Kodwa musa ukwenza ama-scandals. Thetha ngokunyanisekileyo uze uzame ukufumanisa oko akuthethiyo ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - zama ukuzitshintsha kwizihlangu zendoda yakho. Uyakuziva njani uhlale ungathembeki kwaye unganeliseki? Khumbula ukuba zonke iimfesane zakho zibe esinye isinyathelo esenza ukuba indoda isondele kwisenzo esicatshulwayo. Hlonipha inkululeko kunye nokukhethwa kwintanda. Zithande kwaye uziqiniseke ngokwakho. Emva koko izizathu zesikhwele ziza kuhamba ngokwazo, kwaye zingabi ngunyani.