Ukuzisola kakhulu, kuba namhlanje ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu ababini abubhekwa njengento enjengexesha elidala. Abantu badibana, abantu bathandana, kwaye ke ... bahluke. Kufika ukungaqondi kakuhle kwelinye icala okanye kwelinye icala, kuvela ukuba indoda eyabonakala ngathi iyingqayizivele kwaye ingenakuqhathaniswa ayikho into enjalo, kunye nokuphuka kobudlelwane kuqala.
Le nto isoloko kunzima kumbomi wethu. Ukuba ukuhlukana kobudlelwane kwenzeka ngokuvumelana kwemvume, kulula, nangona bobabini abathathi-nxaxheba bafumana. Kodwa ukuba elinye iqabane liye lashiywa, imeko leyo ingakumbi. I-psychology yokulwa nobudlelwane iyingozi - kukuwa kwazo zonke izicwangciso, indlela yokuphila ehleliweyo. Kubonakala ngathi akukho ithemba, yonke into inokuphela nangokudandatheka okude. Kwaye umntu ophonsa, naye, akwenzeki.
Izizathu zokupheliswa kobudlelwane
Ukuphakama kobudlelwane kunokwenzeka ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Ubudlelwane phakathi kobuqhetseba bubonakala buvutha, kuba isibini esithile siza kunzima. Oku kungabangelwa zimbalwa zezinto, eziza kuba zihluke kwiqela ngalinye. Izizathu eziphambili zokuhlukana kobudlelwane zingabakho okulandelayo:
- Ukufezekiswa ngenye yeqabane kunye nenyaniso yokuba into enothando ayikho konke okubonakalayo ekuqaleni. Kukho ukuwa kweengcinga, debunking i-ideal eyenziwe nguwe.
- Ubunzima bobunzima, xa elinye iqabane lifumana ngaphezulu kunezinye, kunye nemibono eyahlukileyo kwiindleko eziyimfuneko zemali.
- Ukuhlukana kobudlelwane obude, xa isibini siphila ndawonye, ​​sinokuphinda siphumeze ubomi, ukungaphelelwa umonde nokuchaswa kweempazamo ezincinci zeqabane lawo, ezibonakaliswa ngokucacileyo kwimihla ngemihla.
- Izicwangciso ezahlukeneyo zexesha elizayo, imbono eyahlukeneyo kwixesha eliphambili lobomi linokuchaphazela ubudlelwane kunye nokuphambana nokuphuka.
Indlela yokuwaphula kakuhle ubuhlobo?
Ukuba eso sibini sifikelele kwingxaki efanayo, kwaye akukho maqhinga kunye neengcungca ezingenakunceda, kunye nemigudu yokugcina ubudlelwane obulahlekileyo, kufuneka ucinge ngokuphula ubuhlobo. Ukuqonda ukuba isithuba somlingane sinokuba buhlungu ngakumbi kunokuba wena, unakho ukusibuyisela le galeko ixesha elingenammiselo. Kodwa ukuba kuwe akuvumelekanga ngakumbi kubudlelwane kunye nomlingane, akusiyo into engafanelekanga ukufunda indlela yokuqhawula ubuhlobo obungathandabuzekiyo kumabini omabini. Kukho ulandelelwano lweendlela zokuqhawula ubudlelwane obuphucukileyo, ngaphandle kwempikiswano kunye nemifanekiso.
- Zenzele i-100% ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukuphula ubudlelwane nomntu. Hlaziya zonke iimigodi zobudlelwane bakho kwaye uzikhumbule. Yilungele ukuthetha zonke ezi zizathu kumlingane wakho.
- Cwangcisa ingxoxo embi kwangaphambili, misela indawo kunye nobude balo. Kuya kuba lula kakhulu ukuba incoko ingabi yintetho ende kunye nokucaciswa kobudlelwane. Ungazami ukwenza loo mpazamo njengomzamo wokunqumla ubudlelwane nomntu ngefowuni.
- Gcina ingxoxo ithule kwaye ugcine umgama wakho, lungele ukuphendulwa kwemvakalelo kunye nokungaqiniseki komlingane, qinisa kwaye uzimisele, kodwa ungabi nobudlova.
- Ukuba uzimisele, yenze icacise kumlingane ukuba nayiphi na intsebenziswano emva kokuba ikhefu likhutshwe.
Amanqanaba okuhlukana kobudlelwane abandakanya ukuphuka ngokuthe ngqo-intetho ebalulekileyo kwisihloko esinikeziwe, ukuqonda ngokubambisana naloo mqathango, umtshato wesigcawu kunye nomntu ohlala kwindawo ethile yokuhlala, umlutha.
Ubudlelwane emva kwesithuba phakathi kwamaqabane amabini sinokuhlaselwa emva kwengxoxo ebalulekileyo. Njengomthetho, ukuhlala ngabahlobo emva kokuhlukana, ngokukodwa xa kumangaliswe enye yeqabane, kunzima kakhulu. Umsunguli weengcambu uhlala efunekayo ukugcina ukungathathi hlangothi, kunye nokukholiswa komnye umlingane.