Okhethiweyo wakho utshatile kwaye awuyazi into oyenzayo malunga nayo? Njalo xa udibana, bobabili nizaliswa iimvakalelo, kwaye konke oku kwenzekile iminyaka emininzi. Ekuqalekeni, kufuneka uhlele yonke into, kuba kungekhona wonke umntu onokuqhayisa olo lonwabo xa etshatile, kodwa usenalo uvuyo kwaye ucinga ukuba ungamyeka ukuthandana njani indoda esatshatileyo, kuba ukuba akayi kushiya intsapho, akukho mvelaphi yezobudlelwane. Iingcali zengqondo zinika iingcebiso malunga nale nto.
Ukuyeka ukuthintela uthando - iingcebiso zengqondo
Ukuze isimo sakho sengqondo sibe yimeko yonke ukuba sitshintshe, zicinge wena kwindawo yomfazi wakho osemthethweni. Emva koko, eqinisweni, ukuba yimeko yakhe - kunzima kunzima kunokuba inkosikazi.
Kodwa le ndlela yindlela elula, ukuba ayikuncedi, kuyimfuneko ukuthatha amanyathelo angaphezulu. Iingcali zengqondo zicebisa ukuba ziqale ukuqonda ukuba inxalenye yokwahlukana kwaye ithathe kwangaphambili, ekubeni ngaphandle kokwenza oku kwangaphambili, ngokukhawuleza kwangoko umzimba uya kuthunyelwa. Oku kubangelwa kukuba ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo kuya kuphazamisa umzimba njalo kwaye kungadlulela kwiinyanga okanye kwiminyaka. Ukulungiselela kuya kunceda ukunyanzelisa inkqubo yokufumana ngexesha. Ukuba ufuna ukuyeka ukuthanda indoda esatshatileyo, icebiso lengqondo linika umsebenzi osebenzayo kuwe. Zihlakulele, cinga ngawe, ikusasa lakho, yenza izicwangciso ngaphandle kwalowo mntu, ufike ngenjongo , umzekelo, fumana amalungelo kwaye uthenge imoto kwiminyaka emibini, uqondise zonke iingcamango zakho kwiingcamango zalo mbono. Awunaso ixesha lokukhathazeka kwaye ucinge ngokuhlukana, utshintshile, ugcwalise ukungabikho ngenye ingcinga.
Ungamyeka njani ukuthanda indoda esatshatileyo?
Lo mbuzo uphinde uzibeke oomama abaninzi. Ekuqalekeni kubonakala ngathi yonke into iyatshitshisa kakhulu, kodwa ekhangele le meko ngaphesheya, uya kuqonda ukuba indoda iyinkxaso yakho ethembekileyo kwaye
Ukuba ingxaki ebalulekileyo yindlela yokuyeka ukuthanda umntu otshatileyo onithandayo, musa ukuvumela iingcamango ezimbi entloko yakho-lo ngumgaqo ophezulu weengqondo zengqondo. Jabulela ebomini, qwa lasela ixesha elihle lokuhlukana , kwaye ngokukhawuleza uza kubona ukuba kukho ixesha elininzi elihle kule nto. Indoda ethandwayo inako ukuhamba nantoni na ngenxa yowesifazane, kwaye ukuba ufumanisa izizathu ezininzi, ugweme ukuhlukana nomkakhe ngenxa yakho, cinga ukuba kutheni ufuna umntu okhethiweyo, kuba akuyiyo into yokuba uya kwenza okufanayo nawe ngexesha elithile.