Mhlawumbi, elo lonke ibhinqa ubuncinane kanye kanye ebomini bakhe beva ilizwi - "amadoda isithembu." Abanye abafazi bamkele oku kwaye bayakholelwa, kodwa abafazi abaninzi abanengqiqo bahleka ngeli binzana, abasebenzisi abasebenzisa ukunyanzeliswa kwabo. Zingaphi iiforam kwi-intanethi, apho abafazi bachaza iintlekele zabo zobomi ezidibene nokungcatsha komyeni wakhe . Emva kokufunda iimpendulo kwiingxelo ezinjalo, uhleka kunye nentliziyo yakho yonke, kuba kukho abafazi abakhohlisayo abacebisa ukuba ubekezele kwaye uxolele ukungcatsha kwendoda yakho ethandekayo, ekubeni isithembu, kodwa awukwazi ukunyathelisa indalo.
Oku kungafanelekanga
Kutheni unobulungisa obunjalo, usenokucinga ukuba lesi sihlomelo sesifazane, kodwa umntu oguqula ubizwa ngokuthi isithembu, kwaye umfazi unamazwi angcolileyo. Kutheni ukuhlukana okunjalo, abaninzi banokuthi ukususela kwimvelo, kodwa kuhlekisa. Bonke abantu bafana kunye nokwahlukana okubalulekileyo, bobabini ngaphandle nangaphandle bangabonwa. Ngoko ke, eli binzana, mhlawumbi lathi indoda eyayingeke ifike esinye isizathu sokukhohlisa kwakhe.
Uhlobo luye lwazama
Njengaye, jonga izilwanyana, ibhinqa lithatha kwaye livelisa inzala, kwaye indoda iya kuhamba naphi kwaye yenza nantoni na ayifunayo. Kuyavela ukuba ibinzana - "eli hlobo" amadoda azilinganisa nezilwanyana, phakathi kwabo abameli balo apho abo baneempondo kunye negazi. Kwaye nangona siqala ukuqonda umhlaba wezilwanyana, ngoko kuyimfuneko ukuba owesilisa afike kumfazi, kwaye akulula ukuza, wahamba ngendlela yakhe waza wahamba. Ngokukodwa ukuba kwizilwanyana zenye iintlobo iindoda isithembu, ngoko ibhinqa iyafana nokuba ebomini babantu ibonakala ingaqhelekanga kwaye ihlekisa. Ngoko ke, ukuthelekisa ukuziphatha kwabantu kunye nezilwanyana, kungekhona into engalungile, kodwa engaqhelekanga.
Yintoni enye amadoda ayenayo?
Abanye abameli beesondo "eziqinileyo" babengekho buvila kwaye bafunyanwe, njengokungathi i-justification yesigqibo sezesithembu:
- Indoda icinga ngesondo rhoqo ngamaxesha angama-206. Ndibuza ukuba ibalwa kanjani, umfana othile, ngokukhawuleza xa ecinga ngesondo, abeka uphawu okanye ucinezele iqhosha elikhethekileyo? Kuzwakala kumnandi kwaye akunjalo.
- Kwindoda, ukungcatshiswa akuthethi nto, kodwa umfazi akanakuthandana nesinye isini-somnye umntu ongeyena umntu ongenakucinga.
- Emzimbeni wesilisa, i-hormone yesondo iveliswa rhoqo, kwaye umfazi angakwazi ukuhla. Bonisa umntu owawuqalile kwaye uvumele ukuba ibhale amagama ayo.
- Ngokusekelwe kwiinkcukacha, ama-52% eembini zithandana zikholelwa ukuba ukuxhaphaza okuqhelekileyo kunye nehlazo ngenxa yale nto ayimfuneko. Ewe, apha ukuthetha, lawa ngamazwi kuphela, kwaye xa ifika kumashishini, kuwo wonke umntu "umnini" ojoyina kunye nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo sokutshintsha unokulibaleka.
Yintoni ngokwenene?
Ezinye iifomanani zinika amanani afanele amangalise amadoda, ekubeni isithembu seesetyhini zinama-30% amakhulu kunabo. Izizathu zokubonakala kwesithembu zilandelayo:
- ulutsha;
- ingqalelo enganeleyo kunye nokukhuliswa kakubi ebuntwaneni;
- mvume;
- iimpawu zesizwe;
- ukunganeliseki kunye neqabane, njl
Ngoko ke, ukuthetha ukuba isithembu sinokuzalwa kuphela kumadoda ayilungile.
Kubalulekile ukuba ungayikhohlwa malunga nokuba yiyiphi inguqu engaqaliyo kunye nokutshintshwa rhoqo kwamaqabane, kuba izifo ezahlukahlukeneyo kunye nezifo azifaki.
Zonke ezi zintetho ziqulunqwe ngabantu abakhaphazela abafazi babo, kodwa abafazi, abangaqinisekanga ngokwabo, baxhasayo kule nto. Ngoko ke, xa uva kumntu ibinzana lokuba sonke isithembu kwaye oku kuqhelekileyo, uhlobo "lwamakholi", lubalekele kuye, njengoko uya kutshintsha umfazi wakhe kwaye acinge ukuba yinto eqhelekileyo.