Abasetyhini abaninzi baphila ngomgaqo "ongaphantsi owaziyo-ubuthongo obuhle, nje ukuba ungabetha kwaye ufike ekhaya imali", kodwa ininzi yala majazana ngokuqinisekileyo iyafuna ukumfumana umkhohlisi. Ngendlela, izazi zeengqondo zikholelwa ukuba kungcono ukuqaphela ukutshatyalaliswa kwindoda kwinqanaba lokuqala, kuba kulo mzekelo kuya kuba lula "ukuyivuselela". Phakathi kwezibonakaliso ezibonakalayo zokungathembeki ngephunga leminye imimoya yabasetyhini, ubukho bekhondom kwiipokotshi, ukuba sele ushiyekile kunye nemifanekiso yomlomo womnye umntu. Enyanisweni, abaninzi abantu baye bafunda ukulandela ixesha elinjalo, kwaye bawagxotha ngokucophelela, kodwa kukho ezinye iimpawu zokungcatsha.
Ungazi njani ukunyeliswa komyeni wakhe?
- Ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda aqala ukuzibukela, kuphela xa umfazi othakazelisayo ebonakala apha. Ngoko ke, ukuze uqaphele ukungcatshiswa kwendoda okanye indoda, qaphela ukubonakala, ekubeni uhlala kunye ndawonye ixesha elide, ngoko, mhlawumbi, wayeka ukugqoka, uya kwamkela nangayiphi indlela. Yaye ukuba, kwimvelaphi enjalo, umthandi wakho uqala ukuzilandela, oku kungabangelwa ngumnqweno wokukholisa.
- Ukuba umntu obathandayo wayesebuqili kwaye wazama ukukrazula emsebenzini ngaphantsi kweyiphi na into engxamisekileyo, kwaye ngokukhawuleza wayenomsebenzi ophuthumayo wangoovulindlela okanye kwakufuneka ahambe ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwiindlela zokushishina, esi sizathu sokuba silumkele. Ingakumbi ukuba akaze athole ixesha lokuphendula iifowuni zakho, ngokubhekiselele kumlinganiselo omkhulu womsebenzi, kwaye imali kwintsapho ayisayi kuba yinto.
- Qaphela ukuba ukungcatsha kwalowo mfana kuya kunceda kunye nendlela aqala ngayo ukusebenzisa imali. Ngokomzekelo, waqala ukuthenga into ethile kwimoto (ikhompyutheni) lonke ixesha, ethi kwakuyi-breakdown engapheliyo, kodwa akukho sizathu esithile saloo nto-imoto yathengwa iinyanga ezimbalwa ezedlulileyo kwaye umthandayo uyisebenzisela kuphela ukuhamba nokuya emsebenzini.
- Ukuba ngaphambili ikhompyutha yakho yobuqhetseba isetyenzisiweyo ukujonga iimeyile kunye namafilimu kuphela, kwaye ngoku iiyure ezininzi zaqala ukuhambelana nomntu engxoxweni, ngaphezu koko, ngokucokisekileyo kwaye ngokufihlakeleyo ngokufihlakele kuwe, le nto inokuba ngumqondiso wekosikazi ebonakalayo. Kuyafana nokuthetha kwintoni, kunye no-SMS-nxibelelwano. Nangona i-wizened traitors ihlala isusa yonke into ekhoyo yobungqina besinye iifowuni kwifowuni (kubhala phantsi kwegama lamadoda okanye amagama abaqhubi beeselula).
- Ukuqaphela ukungcatsha komyeni wakhe, jonga indlela aqala ngayo ukuziphatha ngayo ubomi bemihla ngemihla. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu, xa ejongene nomfazi, uzuza ngokukhawuleza imikhwa emitsha: umzekelo, ngokukhawuleza waba ngumntu onobuqili, ufumene ukhetho olutsha lwe-culinary okanye utshintshe uluvo lwakhe malunga nomculo okanye ifilimu. Utshintsho lobomi obusondeleyo lubaluleke kakhulu-ukuphika ukutshatyalaliswa rhoqo okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ukuqhuma kweengcamango zesondo kunokuthetha ngokubonakala komnye umfazi.
- Uyekile ukuthetha, ngoko, ngaphambi kokuba umyeni wakho ujabule ukwabelana ngamacala emsebenzini, wuxhasa incoko ngezihlobo kunye nabaqhelana nabo. Ngexesha elifanayo, unokwenza izikhalazo, ukhumbule iingxoxo ezingekho, kwaye uqaphele ukungaphili kwakhe, ukubonakalisa ukuba uyakhohliwe konke oku. Kwaye akazange akhathalele kakhulu apho kwaye uchitha ixesha naye, ungathetha nabahlobo bakho njengoko uthanda, uchithe iveki ngaphandle kwendlu, akukhathazi.
- Nabo abagqwetha abaqhayisa ngokuphindaphindiweyo bahlushwa yesazela, kwaye ukuba ukukhwabanisa kwenzeka okokuqala, ngoko ityala alinakuphunyuka. Kule meko, le ndoda iyacaphuka kakhulu, ihlale iguqa kuwe, ngamanye amaxesha idibanisa kunye nokukhanya.
- Ngokukhawuleza waqala ukuthetha ngokumalunga nabanye abesifazana, oogxa emsebenzini okanye umka-boss. Mhlawumbi yena uyayikrokra, okanye uthi akayinyamezeli, kodwa kufuneka akwazi ukuthetha.
Ngeendlela ezinjalo umntu ufihla intlonipho yakhe, ukunyanzela ukuba uhlala edibana nomnye umfazi, kodwa oku kulwalamano olusebenzayo kuphela.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba yonke imiqondiso ingentla, indlela yokunceda ukuqonda ukuthengwa komntu, kwaye ikhokelela kwizigqibo eziphosakeleyo. Umzekelo, indoda ingakwazi ukuqala imali eninzi ukuyichitha kwimoto, ngokufanelekileyo, kwenzeka, ngoko umbane ugesi, ngoko uqala ukusebenza, njengokungathi umntu uchitha ihashe yensimbi. Okanye unako ukufumana imali engaphantsi, ngenxa yokuba uthathe imali mboleko, kwaye uthandwa kwaze kwaba sebusuku emsebenzini - ukufumana ngandlela-thile kuyimfuneko. Ngako oko, akuyimfuneko kuphela ngenxa yobungqina bodwa ukuhlambalaza umyeni wakho ngokungathembeki, khangela ubuncinane imiqondiso ye-2-3.