E-Rashiya, uluvo lwabazali ekugqibeleni izibophelelo zomtshato zabantwana zihlala zigqibeleleyo. Ukuba abazali bafumanisa ukuba unyana wabo ufuna ukutshata nentombazana, bazama ukumxelisa ukuba kukho umviwa othe tye. Enyanisweni, ngokusemthethweni, abazali babengenakugxininisa, kuphela ukukholisa, kodwa ngaphandle kokuhle kwabazali umtshato wecawa wawucingelwa ngokungekho mthethweni.
Ukuchonga - amasiko
Ukuchonga kukuqala kwisinyathelo somntu omdala womtshakazi nomyeni. Ngokweziko zokumaketha, kwakucatshulwa ukuba izithethe, namhlanje ezi zimbini zihlangene.
Amasiko omdlalo wokudlala emdlalweni womkhwenkwe abilisiwe kwiindawo zabadlali abafana naye: uyise womyeni, umzalwana kunye nomzalwana omdala. Ngamanye amaxesha, kwakungumdlali wokudibanisa-wesifazane oqhelekileyo, owayedume ngokukwazi kwakhe ukuxoxisana.
Ukususela kumgca womtshakazi umdlali omncinci wayengaba ngumama osemncinci, uninakazi okanye udade.
Ukuba ubiza izinto ngamagama abo afanelekileyo, ukudibanisa ukuxubusha kuyintsebenziswano phakathi kweentsapho ezimbini. Intsapho yomyeni izama ukufumana enye "inzuzo", umfazi owanikezelayo kunye neentaka, kwaye intsapho yomtshakazi ifuna ukufumana imali eninzi yokufumana intlawulelo yomtshakazi.
Amanqaku omdlalo womdlalo
Amasiko kunye namasiko okwenza umdlalo wachaza ixesha elide. Kwakumfuneko ukwenza umtshato ngokuhlwa kweLwesine, ngoLwesibili nangomgqibelo. Ngethuba lokuqala, umdlali womdlalo wayenqatshelwe umyeni, ngokukhawuleza ukuba indodakazi yakhe yakhawuleza ibonwa njengefomu elibi.
Ngelo xesha, kwakukho ilizwi elithi: "Umyeni oqinileyo uya kubonisa indlela efanelekileyo" - ukwenqaba ukuqala ukuza, abazali babebethemba inketho eyongezelelekileyo.
Umdlalo wokuqala wokudlala umdla wawungekho mthethweni. Benyani abazali bomtshakazi ukuze bakwazi ukuqonda kangcono intsapho yomyeni. Kwesihlandlo sesibini (esele siseburhulumenteni), kwakusekwe itafile yokutya, umtshakazi wayelungiselela izipho, zombini iintsapho zidibene.
Apha i-auction iqalile: ukuba ngabazali bomtshakazi bavuma ukunika intombi yabo, iintsapho zaqala ukuvumelana kungekuphela kwemihla, kodwa nangenxa yesabelo sentyalo-mali ekubhiyozelweni, kwaye umyeni wayenokwenza "igalelo" lokuqala.