Ngelishwa, kodwa amadoda amaninzi anedumela, athetha ngokuthobeka, aphangwa. Yingakho abesifayika besaba ukuba isiqingatha sabo sesibini siya kuthi "siye ngakwesobunxele," kwaye sifuna iindlela eza kunceda ukukhusela oku. Ukuba awukwazi ukuba wenzeni, ukuze umyeni wakho angatshintshi, sebenzisa i-conspiracy, eyayisetyenziswa kwangaphambili. Kukho iinkqubo ezininzi ezahlukileyo ezisebenza phambi kokholo kwimiphumo emihle kunye nokugcinwa kweSakramente.
Iqhinga ukuze indoda yam ingatshintshi
Ukuze ungakhathazeki malunga nokulibazisa komntu othandekayo emsebenzini kwaye ungazityhukisi ngokungathandabuzi nto, ungaba nomkhosi olula. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka uxoxe ngesiselo sakho esisithandayo, umzekelo, itiye okanye ikhofi. Phinda umkhosi ekuqaleni, phakathi kunye nokuphela kwenyanga. Kwisiselo kufuneka ufunde isicwangciso esinjalo, ukuze indoda ingatshintshi:
"Umninikhaya unako ukutshintsha indlu yakhe, ubulili bakhe, udonga lwakhe, okanye nayiphi na inceku - ngobuhle, okanye ngegama elibiweyo - umhlobo wam akasayi kuguqula, umkhonzi kaThixo (igama). Amen. "
Ngenyanga uza kubona inguqu ephawulekayo ekuphatheni komyeni wakhe.
Isithethe kwiikhandlela zecawa
Ukuba umfazi uhlala ecinga malunga nokuba enze ntoni ukuze umyeni wakhe angatshintshi, ngoko unokusebenzisa icebo elilula. Ukuze wenze isiko, kufuneka ulungiselele amabhande amabandla anesibini kunye neenwele zomlingane. Kuqhutywa ngenyanga. Ngokuqinisekileyo phakathi kobusuku bukhanyisa ikhandlela uze ufunde isiqingatha sesalathisi phezu kwekhandlela elilodwa, misela iinwele zakho ezithandayo uze uzicime. Inxalenye yesibini yesipelingi kufuneka ifundwe phezu kwekhandlela lesibini ize ishiye ukutshisa. Isalathisi sivakala ngathi:
"Akuyi inyanga ezayo, kungekhona inyanga ehambayo, kodwa inyanga ecacileyo neyolileyo, ibe yindoda kaThixo (igama lakho) ubungqina kunye nomncedisi wam luqhinga! Njengoko ilangatye litshisa kwaye likhawuleza, kulula ukutshisa iinwele, ngoko vumela ngokukhawuleza entliziyweni yomkhonzi kaThixo (igama lomlingane) ukutshabalala nokukhwela! Masilahleke kwaye ulangazelela kuphela ikhaya lakhe, kunye nomfazi wakhe osemthethweni, umkhonzi kaThixo (igama lakho)! Umlilo makushise kwaye umthobele zonke iingcinga ezingcolileyo, yebo iiminqweno ziqhenqa! Njengokuba ikhandle elimsulwa libancibilika, ngelililo elikhanyayo, mlilo malubekile, ngoko ke makhe intliziyo yomkhonzi kaThixo (igama lomlingane) kum, kuba umfazi wakhe othandekayo uncibilikisa! Makhe nje ndiyibulele, nqwenela, ndiwaxabise! Ukuba uyandithanda ngothando nangokwenyama nangokomoya, ngoko wahlala kunye nam kuphela ekuthandeni nangokunyaniseka! Ngoku kunye naphakade naphakade. Amen! "
Ikhandlela lokuqala, elingatshitshisiyo, kuyimfuneko ukulifaka ebandleni ukuphumla kwesihlobo somntu oshonile somyeni.
Iqhinga ukuze indoda yam ingatshintshi kwintengiso
Ukugcina intanda yakho enyanisekileyo ungenza i-amulet. Ngenxa yesithethe, kufuneka ulungiselele amasongo amabini, isitya esimhlophe, amanzi angcwele, ikhandlela lecawa , iintambo ezivela kuyo kunye neengubo zakho, kunye nengubo eluhlaza. Ngamashongo okufuneka uhambe kwinyanga ekhulayo. Thenga izinto eziqhelekileyo zokugqoka iingubo, kodwa ngaphandle kokuzinikezela. Xa ufika ekhaya, khanyisa ikhandlela etafileni
"Ndikubiza (yithetha igama lakho). Amen. "
Emva koko, cwina isondo lesibini, ngamagama:
"Ndikubiza ngokuba nguAnatoly (apha xelela igama lomyeni wakhe). Amen. "
Thatha intambo kwiingubo, uphazamise phakathi kwabo, ubophe iindandatho ndawonye. Emva koko, funda icebo sixhenxe:
"Njengalamathanga ndawonye, ngoko ikhoboka likaThixo (igama lomyeni) kunye nekhoboka likaThixo (igama lakho) liya kuba kunye. Ngamana angabi nentlungu, ingxabano, okanye iingxoxo eziphosakeleyo, ukugula, abantu ababi, okanye ababi. Njengoko uthetha, kuya kuba yiminyaka emininzi kunye namaxesha angunaphakade. Amen. "
Izindonga zibophe iingubo kwaye zigcine kwindawo eyimfihlo.