Amantombazana amaninzi kunye nabafana, beva novelwano, musa ukugqiba ukuzinyamekela, kwaye bacinge indlela yokutshiza umntu othanda. Nangona kunjalo, ngaphambi kokuthatha isigqibo malunga nalezo zithethe, kuyafaneleka ukuba uqonde ukuba ukupela akuyona umdlalo, kodwa isenzo esiqinileyo somlingo omnyama esiya kuba nemiphumo emibi.
Iziphumo zesiphelo
I sipelo inempembelelo ebhubhisayo kulabo abayifake, kwaye kulabo, ngokumelene nentando yabo, baba lixhoba. Ngokomzekelo, ukuziphatha komntu ochithwayo kunokufana nokuziphatha komthandi, kodwa iinjongo ziya kuhluke ngokupheleleyo. Inkwenkwe ethandana ihamba ngomhla ukuba ibone intanda yakhe ngokukhawuleza, uyonwabile ukuba naye, kwaye ngaphandle kwayo uyaphuthelwa, kodwa uyavuya gqitha ukuba wadibana naye. Indoda iziphatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo: uyagula, uyabandezeleka ngaphandle kwayo eyamkholisa, nangona kunjalo, akayithandi. Uyakhulelwa kuye, kodwa uqobo lwakhe luyabhikisha, kwaye ekugqibeleni akanakuvakalelwa, kodwa unetyala, intlungu, ukubandezeleka kunye nokukhathala. Le ntliziyo ayikho nhlobo uthando, kwaye ayiyi kuzisa umntu.
Ngenxa yoko, umntu obetyunyiwe, uqala ukuxhatshazwa ngesibindi, ukulala , ukuthuka, kunye nokunye ukucoca. Zonke ezi zinto zikhokelela ekuphuhliseni i-schizophrenia nezinye izifo zengqondo. Ukuphelelwa amandla kwaye ukhathele, umntu onjalo ucinga ngokuzibulala, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha unquma ukubulala "umthengi" wakhe. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba babeyichukumisa ibhinqa, yonke into iyafana nayo.
Ukuba usacinga ukuba ungayifaka njani umfana okanye intombazana, musa ukulibala ukuba umvuzo uya kufumana umthengi. Ubudlelwane kunye nobuhle buya kuba bukhulu kwaye buhlekisayo, oku akusikho konke umntu ofuna ukutshiza umntu othandekayo ucinga. Nangona kunjalo, oku akuyona ingozi enkulu: loo mntu uqala ukugula, ugula, kwaye alahlekelwe ithuba lokuba nabantwana. Kwezinye iimeko, abantu abanjalo banabantwana, kodwa banokuphazamiseka okukhulu kwizinto ezibonakalayo nangokwengqondo.
Indlela yokutshintsha indoda ekude?
Kalokunje ukuba unolwazi lokuqwalasela, cinga ukuba ungathinta njani umthandayo. Zininzi iindlela, kwaye umzekelo,
- Amangcwaba aphephe kwiimitha ezi-40 . Phakathi kobusuku ekukhuleni kwenyanga, eze kumangcwaba amandulo, apho kukho iminqamlezo. Sondela kokuqala, gcina isandla sakho kuyo kwaye ufunde umbhalo, kwaye ke amaxesha angama-40, ixesha ngalinye elikufutshane nomnqamlezo omtsha: "Imiphefumlo efile phantsi kweminqamlezo, ukulala, ungakhange ukhange ukukhanya, ungene ethempelini okhawuleza, ungathethi amagama, ungadli kunye Musa ukusela, ungenzi ngesono. Ndiza kukubuza malunga nam (kunye negama). Makhe (a) andithande ngentshiseko, lonke ihlabathi eliza kum li libala. Makangasayi kusela, makangadli, akoni ngesifiso, ugijimela kuzo zonke iindlela ukuya kum, ekuseni, emini nasebusuku. Makhe (a) akhathele ngaphandle kwam, enqwenela, endigubungele kwaye endikhathaze, ukukhanga kufuna ukuphiliswa kunye nam. Ewe, ndiya kumbonisa (umyeni wakhe) ukukhanya kunenyanga ecacileyo, ilanga elihle elibomvu. Wena ofileyo ulala kwiindawo zakho kwaye ulinde lam amazwi. Ngoko loo mkhulu unogqirha, hayi
umtyholi womoya ka-devil, noyihlo loyihlo, am amazwi awazange abulale nto, kwaye awazange amshiye kumntu othandekayo. Umnqamlezo wokhuni, iziphelo ezisibhozo, ilizwi lam iminyaka engamashumi amane. Ndivale izitshixo ezingamashumi amane kwaye ndiphose iqhosha lomlambo. Yiba njalo . " - Privorot kwi-apple . Thatha iphepha elincinci, unqumle isiqwenga, bhala "i-siva" kwenye, enye enye egameni lomntu onomdla. Gxotha iphepha kunye kwaye unxibe ngeenwele ezintathu kunye neenwele ezintathu zomfana ohambayo. Beka konke kwi-apula ukuba wena uqobo wasusa isebe ngoLwesihlanu ngaphambi kokuphuma kwelanga. Yenza iinqunithi, uzibethe ngegatsha elivela kwisiqhamo esifanayo. Xa i-apula iyoma, kufuneka ibeke embhedeni kwisithandwa.
Ukwazi indlela yokutshintsha umthandi, kwaye yiyiphi imiphumo eya kuba nayo, qi niseka ukuba ulinganise yonke into kwakhona.