Ngokuqhelekileyo, ulwalamano oluqinileyo phakathi kwabatshatileyo lunganika ukuphuka. Kwiimeko ezininzi, abafazi abazi ixesha elide malunga nokungcatshiswa komntu othandekayo, becinga utshintsho ekuphatheni njengokunyanzela. Abaninzi abafuni ukuqaphela ukuba umtshato wabo uphazamisa kwiindawo zokuhlala, kwaye abanye baziva bekungalunganga, kodwa abakwazi ukuqonda kakuhle into eyenzekayo. Nangona kunjalo, kukho imiqondiso emininzi apho ingabalelwa ukuba indoda iyatshintsha.
Izibonakaliso ezithoba zohlaselo
Ngoko, makhe siqwalasele utshintsho olubonakalayo kwindlela yokuziphatha komyeni, ezibonakalisa ukukhohlisa:
- Ingxoxo ezintle kwifowuni . Indoda ayinxalenye kunye nefowuni yakhe ngomzuzu xa umntu ememeza kuye, uzama ukuthetha ngokucokisekileyo okanye aze aphume egumbini.
- Ukupholisa ebuhlotsheni obusondeleyo . Umyeni uyeke ukujongana nawe ngothando, okanye uvakalelwa kukuba ngexesha lesondo wenza konke kumatshini, ngoko ufumana oko akufunayo kwenye indawo.
- Shintsha ngo kubukeka . Le ndoda yaqala ukunikela ixesha elingaphezulu kumfanekiso wayo, izama ukugqoka iikhati kunye neengqekembe, ayiyilibala malunga ne-cologne ne-deodorant, nakuba yayingasetyenziswa ngaphambili.
- Yichitha emsebenzini . Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba lakho iqabane liphantse liphele emva komsebenzi, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha liyayeka "ukusebenza" ngeveki.
- Ihlukaniswe kwintsapho . Ngokuphindaphindiweyo umntu uzama ukuchitha ixesha ngaphandle kwekhaya, ususwe kwiingxaki zentsapho, unike wena kunye nabantwana ithuba elingaphantsi, ngokubhekiselele ekukhathala kunye nemicimbi yabantu.
- Utshintsho kwimoya . Umyeni uyabacaphukisa kakhulu, uqala ukutywala kwizinto ezincinci, uphukisa ingxabano, aze azame ukuhamba endlwini.
- Intanethi ngumhlobo omhle . Yonke ixesha lokukhululeka umntu waqala ukuqhuba kwi- intanethi , nangona kungenjalo kuye.
- Ukhetho lohlukileyo . Ukuba ngaphambili uhambele imibutho yabasebenzi kunye, indawo zoluntu, ngoku iqabane lakho likhetha ukuya khona yedwa.
- Iingxaki ngemali . Umyeni waba "ngaphaya" ngaphantsi, nangona waba ngumsebenzi omningi, akumangalisi, kuba ukuthanda kwakhe kufuneka kuhanjiswe izipho kwaye kukhokelela ekutyeleni.
Izizathu zokungcatsha komyeni wakhe zininzi, umzekelo:
- iingxaki ebuhlotsheni obusondeleyo;
- umnqweno wokufumana into entsha;
- ukukhathala kubomi bentsapho;
- ndezela;
- uthando, njl
Kodwa luhlobo luni lolwalamano olunokuthi lube ngumntu emva kokungcatshiswa, kuba ukungcatshiswa okunjalo akunqabile ukuba yintoni umfazi onokuxolela. Naluphi na isigqibo osithathayo, mnike umyeni ithuba lokuhlaziya ngokucacileyo yonke into, musa ukuvuya, nangona oku akulula. Mhlawumbi, uya kuwuqonda, uya kubona kule ngxaki kunye nesabelo sentyala yakho, ngokukhawuleza wawungekho utyando kunye nokufudumala. Ngamanye amaxesha yonke into, ebaluleke kakhulu ukuba khumbula ukuba xa nithandana ngokwenene, zama ukugcina lo mthando, kuba awunikwe bonke abantu.