Ukuba iqabane liye lazi ngokuzenzekelayo utshintsho kwihambo yomlingane: ukulibazisa okuhlobene nomsebenzi, ukufowunelwa kweefowuni, ukunyaniseka, ukwesaba, ngoko ke, mhlawumbi, wayenomnye umfazi.
Ewe, le miqondiso ayilunganga ngqo. Kodwa ukuba kukho ukuqinisekiswa ukuba inkosikazi inene, umntu uyazama ukugcina intsapho, kwaye umntu uya kufaka umtshato. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba indoda iyatshintsha, kodwa ayihambi.
Njani ukuba?
Yintoni intombazana enokuyenza ukuze yitshintshe indoda yakhe, kodwa ingahambi? Okokuqala kufuneka uzame ukuqonda oko umfazi adibanisa naye wakhethayo. Emva koko, zama ukutshintsha imeko, uphazamise into ethile, uphile ngokuhlukileyo. Kucetyiswa ukuba ubhekisele kubo bantu abaya kukwazi ukuxhasa ngeengqondo.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukungazifihla kwaye 'ungadli' ngokwesidima. Kule meko, umphezulu wengqondo akufanele ithathe imvakalelo , kodwa izigqibo mazilinganiswe kwaye ziqwalaselwe. Okokuqala, phambi komlingane, kukho umbuzo obalulekileyo, ukugcina intsapho okanye ukuyingxenye. Ukuba kwenzeka njalo ukuba iqabane liye lenye enye ibhinqa, ke ungazami ukuziphindisela uze ufune umthandi, kuba kunokukuzisa kuphela ukuphazamiseka. Akunakuqonda ukumemeza ngombambano kwaye uyisongela ngokuhlawula ngokwenyama, kuba oku kuya kubenzakala ngakumbi imeko.
Indlela yokwenza umfazi ohlala eshintsha umyeni wakhe, kodwa akahambi - kule meko kukulungele ukuhlala uxolo kwaye uqinisekile. Umlingane akufanele abone oko umfazi okhoyo. Ufanele umbonise ukuba kulungile ngaphandle kwakhe. Kodwa ke ungagqithisi, zama ukulandela umlingane uze uphendule imibuzo.
Kutheni umyeni eshintsha, kodwa engashiyi?
Inyaniso kukuba i-psychology yesintu ilungiselelwe ukuba indoda ingayithanda umfazi wayo, kodwa uyitshintshe. Oku kungakho ngenxa yokunganeliseki ngobomi bentsapho, ngakumbi kwiimpawu zesondo.
Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba indoda ayikhathaleli bobabini abasetyhini kwaye ayifuni ukuphula ubudlelwane kunye nabo.
Indoda iyatshintsha, kodwa ayiyikushiya - iingcebiso zengqondo yengqondo
Iingcali zengqondo zincoma kwiimeko ukuba zijonge kwixesha elizayo, zama ukuqonda ukuba indoda iya kuqhubeka itshintshe? Ukuba uhlaselo luya kuphinda luphindwe kaninzi, ngoko umfazi uya kuzuza ubunzima. Kwaye ukuba sele sele ifikelele kweli nqaku, kuyafaneleka ukuxelela umlingane malunga nenjongo yokufakela umtshato. Ukuba ayigcini, ke kungcono ukuba nxalenye yaloo mntu.